Can I give a little semi-craft related vent?

SummerSweeties

I can? Fabulous!

Okay, so I've got a friend who is having a baby shower/wedding shower this saturday. I've been working for almost 3 weeks on gifts because we can't afford the things on her registry. A made a diaper cake and I'm working on making a casserole dish carrier/warmer with her new last name etched into the dish.

Anyways, so she called to talk and asked what I was doing. "Oh, just finishing up your gift for your shower" And she says, "finishing it up? You mean like wrapping it?"

"No, finishing making it."

And she paused for a second. Then she says, "So you're not going to get us anything from our registry?  That's why we made it, so people would know what to buy us."

"Well I hope you'll like this, too because I've worked really hard on it for you."

"Yea me too, because we can't return it if we don't." And then she laughed. I don't know if it was a just kidding laugh or what.

I didn't know what to say. So we made some small talk and then got off the phone. 

I feel offended. How would you feel? I'm so tempted to just keep the casserole dish and carrier for myself.

Rock-n-Voll

Because this is a puppies and rainbow kind of board (and I'm not complaining about that, I like it that way around here) I'll keep my comments more tame.  That was incredibly rude and inappropriate of her and you have every right to be annoyed.  Grrr, I'm annoyed!

Shortcake2675

Don't think to hard about it.  I think your gifts sound very thoughtful.  She is pregnant and while that isn't an excuse, I'd just ignore her. 

amandasw

Um, pg or not, I would probably not go to the shower and decide her friendship wasn't worth keeping.  I would be incredibly offended if someone actually said that in the first place, and to my face would be beyond ridiculous!  Like serious character flaws.  I'm sorry, but she was way out of line.

SummerSweeties

Shortcake2675:

Don't think to hard about it.  I think your gifts sound very thoughtful.  She is pregnant and while that isn't an excuse, I'd just ignore her. 

Thanks, but this isn't the first time she's done something like this. I wasn't even going to go but I like making things. Before I got married she called me a whore because I was getting married so young. Well, at least I'm not getting married being I'm KU.

I'll give her the BOTD and write this off to hormones.

amandasw

SummerSweeties:

Shortcake2675:

Don't think to hard about it.  I think your gifts sound very thoughtful.  She is pregnant and while that isn't an excuse, I'd just ignore her. 

Thanks, but this isn't the first time she's done something like this. I wasn't even going to go but I like making things. Before I got married she called me a whore because I was getting married so young. Well, at least I'm not getting married being I'm KU.

I'll give her the BOTD and write this off to hormones.

wow, she sounds lovely!  Also, the bolded part was my first thought - hormones really only enhance things.  I'm really sorry she said that, your gifts sound awesome

mjkern

I think that is incredibly rude!  I don't think that can be blamed on hormones either, because well I'm the same situation and honestly would probably start crying at someone's thoughtfulness

If you'd prefer someone who would appreciate your gifts I'm engaged and knocked up too hehe:)

SummerSweeties

mjkern:

I think that is incredibly rude!  I don't think that can be blamed on hormones either, because well I'm the same situation and honestly would probably start crying at someone's thoughtfulness

If you'd prefer someone who would appreciate your gifts I'm engaged and knocked up too hehe:)

You seem like you'd be more grateful than she will.

I hope she cries at the sheer awesomeness of my crafting ability and for acting like a b*tch when she opens it at the shower. Does that make me a bad person? hehe 

ETA, random, but I have decided I do not like the smile emoticons on here. They have weird mouths...I don't trust 'em! 

Shortcake2675

SummerSweeties:

Shortcake2675:

Don't think to hard about it.  I think your gifts sound very thoughtful.  She is pregnant and while that isn't an excuse, I'd just ignore her. 

Thanks, but this isn't the first time she's done something like this. I wasn't even going to go but I like making things. Before I got married she called me a whore because I was getting married so young. Well, at least I'm not getting married being I'm KU.

I'll give her the BOTD and write this off to hormones.

Oh good grief.  Get rid of her.  Who needs friends like that?  I'm sure you've got someone else in your life that would love the casserole carrier.  

traveling turtle

Buy her a $5 gift card to the store she registered at. 

mommy2bee109

Wow.. she sounds like quite the friend! I would be really pissed. I would have LOVED it if someone made me something for my shower. Of course, I loved all the gifts people bought off my registry, but I remember all the things people made me and who gave them to me. So much more special. Hopefully when she sees the gifts, she will realize what a jerk she is and be grateful to have a good friend like you! Otherwise, I'd ditch her. You don't need "friends" like that. 

louisvillebride21

Well, take this for what it's worth...

 I have 3 pregnant friends that I'm sewing for. I went all out for one of them (diaper bag, changing pad and 4 burp cloths). For the other 2, I made 4 burp cloths each, and everyone got a hand made card. Well, for 2 of them, I didn't know what the baby was, so for the set, I used Bliss by Moda (check it out, I'm obsessed with that line). For the other, the girl is still kind of childish herself (old high school friend) so I made everything in the Robert Kaufman Dr. Seuss line. Well, she kept saying how she DOESN'T WANT purple for the baby. She doesn't WANT this or that. Dont you DARE buy me this. And then she found out it was a girl and went off on a tirade abotu how much she hates pink and her daughter doesn't 'want' any pink things.

Well, even though I didn't make any of those colors I was so put off that I'm sending all her stuff to the other two girls. ::hmph:

PhillyGal34

First she sounds like a complete brat ... To put it nicely. She should be grateful peole are coming!!!!! Second, she called you a wh0re???? Awesome person. I agree with pp , send the gifts to someone else. Just don't go. Age sure to make some snippy comment to get a laugh from her other beotchy friends. It will make you feel bad when you put 100% more time into it than anyone who just bought a gift. Shes clueless!!! I'm so sorry she did this to you!

Temp6313048411121614

Wow is all I can say. That would be an awesome gift. I also can't believe she called you a whore, I'd have ditched that friend a long time ago, I don't like toxic people like that around me.

joeysgirl2008

Oh, I would be so tempted to not even show up with a gift after that. What a b!tch!

franklintngirl

You don't need her as a friend. Sounds like she is a little gift greedy. Even if I wasn't into crafts and liked handmade stuff I would still appreciate a gift like that because it came from your heart and you spent time on it.

I know we have our moments being PG (and even not PG) but I am not writing her comments off to hormones because that is just a mean thing to say.

She does sound like a toxic friend and I wouldn't want that around me.

I hope when she opens it and every ooh and ahh over it that she will feel like a total jerk because of what she said.

LuaBear

I agree with everyone else.  Do you really have the time/energy for someone like this in your life.  I'd make an excuse for why I can't come to the shower and then never talk to her again.

Rock-n-Voll

Why are you still friends with this person?

Britt1406

What a BIA!!! It sounds like she is just a materialistic greety person! Something that is made takes A LOT more time and effort than something that is bought.  I bet she was totally serious with the "we can't return it comment" the laughing was added to make it sound not as harsh.

 I would be very offended. I'd be tempted to change my RSVP for the shower and say that I won't be able to make it!

themommymonster

Wow. What a brat.

I would drop that girl like a bad habit and fast.

That was *incredibly* rude of her. Seriously.

 

I am fuming for you.

mah482

If you go (personally, I wouldn't at this point), when she opens your gifts you should make a big deal about how you MADE the gifts. She sounds like a treat. 

Isn't getting married the complete opposite of being a wh0re?

I get that she's KU and getting married, but having a baby/bridal shower? I'm sure she expects everyone to buy her a gift from each registry.. and generous gifts at that. Is she going to boo-hoo and complain if someone shows up with one gift?  I know I couldn't afford to buy two nice gifts and then be expected to buy her a wedding gift as well. 

LittleLionC

I'm seething for you. I can't even come up with a decent response.

Are you done with the second gift? Because I wouldn't finish it unless you had someone else to give it to. Give her the one you're done with and then be done with her!

adhdfashion

I'd go to the shower and bring her beautifully wrapped box of Trojans. With a heartfelt card, about how you hope these won't break.  

SummerSweeties

adhdfashion:

I'd go to the shower and bring her beautifully wrapped box of Trojans. With a heartfelt card, about how you hope these won't break.  

LMAO. That's hilarious!

I'm not super close with her. We were good friends in high school, but I haven't seen her since then. Maybe one time? I don't know.

This may be flameful, but you know how people have those fb friends that they're friends with just to watch the crazy happen?  Well, I've got a feeling that will be happening. She met the guy at a party, hooked up with him, found out he got her pregnant and now they're getting married. Honestly, we don't talk that much. I think she just called because she was bored.

I'm mostly making the gifts because we can't afford anything on her registries (yes, she wants a gift from all of them!) and I remember how nice it was to get something handmade. We got a quilt and I love it. And though this is different, I'm hoping it will be appreciated. 

honeybeez

Ditch the b!tch.... Who has a combo wedding/baby shower anyway? I wouldn't go to just because of that fact that it's a combo shower....sounds very greedy! Is she throwing this shindig herself?

themommymonster

adhdfashion:

I'd go to the shower and bring her beautifully wrapped box of Trojans. With a heartfelt card, about how you hope these won't break.  

 

LMAO! I want to "like" this x1000.

SummerSweeties

honeybeez:

Ditch the b!tch.... Who has a combo wedding/baby shower anyway? I wouldn't go to just because of that fact that it's a combo shower....sounds very greedy! Is she throwing this shindig herself?

Surprisingly, no. Her mom is throwing it. I almost didn't go for that fact, too. She got married like two weeks ago. She should have had the shower before. 

amandasw

SummerSweeties:

honeybeez:

Ditch the b!tch.... Who has a combo wedding/baby shower anyway? I wouldn't go to just because of that fact that it's a combo shower....sounds very greedy! Is she throwing this shindig herself?

Surprisingly, no. Her mom is throwing it. I almost didn't go for that fact, too. She got married like two weeks ago. She should have had the shower before. 

this just keeps getting better and better!

tct1219

amandasw:

Um, pg or not, I would probably not go to the shower and decide her friendship wasn't worth keeping.  I would be incredibly offended if someone actually said that in the first place, and to my face would be beyond ridiculous!  Like serious character flaws.  I'm sorry, but she was way out of line.

This. She's a b*tch. I hate when people blame things on pregnancy hormones- a nice person doesn't start acting like a see you next Tuesday just because she's having a baby.

PhillyGal34

WAIT!!!! She is already married??????? So she is clearly having this just for the presents. Did she have a wedding? Is she doing this to get gifts because she didn't have one????? I change my vote. Keep her as a friend so you can share her trashy stories with us!!!! Kidding of course. You are a saint if you go.... Although I've give to things like this after my sister in laws were horrible to me. They are family do I had little if any choice. Good luck and update us!!

Justinlove

Man...all the good stuff happens when I go back to work!

Ok, this chick needs to be put out like the garbage she is!  She isn't a friend and she is a disgustingly rude person.  Personally, I wouldn't give her a darn thing.  I certainly wouldn't go to her shower and I would either enjoy the gifts myself or save them for someone who will appreciate them.  Whatever you do, DO NOT give them to her.  She will probably throw them away or donate them if she is as catty and obnoxious as she sounds.