What would you do?

amidavey06 · August 2011

This is FB related.

I received a friend request from an ex-bf. This is not just any run of the mill HS bf. I was dating this guy when DH and I first met. He's also my brothers' best friend. I know a lot of time has passed since we dated, but we were close to becoming engaged. DH did not like this guy because he would things just to piss off DH.

One time he and brothers came back from fishing and he proceeded to stick his gross fishing hands in my face. I know he did it just to try to get a rise out of DH. So now do I decline his request or accept?

I think it would be akward to have him on my fb (he is married and I know his wife knows all about me). How do I nicely tell him that DH thinks he's a twatwaffle and would probably be pissed if he was my friend on FB?

gingerfeathers · August 2011

I think this is a good time to just deny his request and not acknowledge it or him in any way. I think the fact that he tries to get a rise out of your H should be good enough reason.

+buttercup+ · August 2011

I would just hit the deny button and go about your day. No explanation needed.

5thOfJuly · August 2011

Just hit "deny" with no explanation.

kayleeb · August 2011

I agree. I would just deny him. No explanation necessary.

amidavey06 · August 2011

Thanks ladies! I wanted to do it that way I just didn't want to come off as b!tchy.

gingerfeathers · August 2011

I think in this situation your husband's feelings should hold more weight than your ex's.

McGillicuddy13 · August 2011

I agree with PPs, fwiw.

I had to do something similar a while ago with an ex-fling/good friend. It sucked to basically cut him out of my life, but H's comfort level was my priority.