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S/O Wedding Drama
What drama happened around your wedding?
1) We actually got married alone the two of us which our families has been on board with until it got closer, and then all hell broke loose. DH's family got a little crazy about begging to come, and then started arguments over basically nothing concerning our reception because they were mad.
2) One of my friends got really drunk at my b-party, and was really mean to my other friend. It was really awful.
3) My close closeted gay friend outed himself to his family and our friends at my wedding reception. He NEVER drinks, and he drank so much that night. I had been his beard for so long, and his family kept asking him if he was upset I was "off the market" now. He couldn't take it, and told everyone he had a boyfriend....then he passed out cold in the bathroom. His BIL had to carry him over his shoulder out to the car to take him home.
Re: S/O Wedding Drama
One of my bridesmaids got really drunk at my bachelorette party (we had the b part 2 days before the wedding) and ended up throwing up outside the bar. Fine, whatever, it happens, no biggie. The next day we're all supposed to go to the reception venue to decorate. Well, said bridesmaid ends up getting into a car accident while driving to my parents house (which I told her to just stay at the hotel and I'd pick her up!). Totals the car, has a giant welt/bruise/scrap on her arm, is most likely still drunk and has to figure out how to get to the airport later that day to pick up her boyfriend. That was a fun phone call to get! Thank goodness she was ok though.
So the accident issue causes us to not get to the reception venue until much later than planned and I knew decorating would take longer than people thought it would. We weren't doing much but I knew it would take some time. So, we get there, of course nobody starts doing anything for at least 30 minutes. Then it gets to be time for us to leave to get ready for the rehearsal...the venue is half decorated. We have half the christmas lights strung and barely half of the paper lanterns hung. I'm so freaking annoying and decide that we'll have to come back after the rehearsal dinner to finish. Not to mention my DH was super hungover from the night before and at this point was back at my parents house asleep. I get home from decorating, horribly annoyed and frustrated and just start crying. He's useless cause he doesn't feel well and ends up puking literally minutes from us walking out the door to go to the rehearsal. Thank goodness he was fine once we got there but there were a few times I thought he was going to have me pull over on our way there! In the end we didn't need to go decorate because one of DH's friends saw how frustrated I was and stayed to finish all the decorating himself. It ended up being perfect.
Phew! Sorry, I was really long-winded with that!
Our whole planning period was pretty drama-free, once my mom accepted that her 12 first cousins, their spouses, and their kids (and their kids-kids in some cases) would not be invited. Everything annoying/ridiculous happened on our wedding day.
1) It POURED on our wedding day -the remnants of Hurricane Nicole came through in the afternoon/early evening. Part of the reason we picked the venue for it's gorgeous patio, which was surrounded by trees. It was October, we were getting married at sunset, and it was going to be beautiful. We were going to take pictures outside, and have the ceremony on the patio. Instead, everything was inside. Which was fine, the venue is really nice and it worked out. But I still get annoyed when I think about it all.
2) The power went out for about 30-60 seconds right in the middle of our cocktail hour. Thankfully, it came back, but I'm pretty sure my heart stopped beating for a second or two.
3) My husband was friends with 2 brothers in college. The older brother moved away to CA and they lost touch, but he stayed friends with the younger one. A few weeks before the wedding, the younger one let us know that the older one was back in town, and could he bring him to the wedding? We said sure. Older brother got DRUNK, and hit on every single female guest under 40 at the wedding. (He'd left his wife home.) It was ridiculous, but whatever. When they got back to the hotel, he went to the bar and kept drinking. On his way back to his room, he started hitting on some girl in front of her boyfriend. Boyfriend didn't appreciate it, and my husband's friend gave him some smartass reply. Boyfriend knocked on a door, and 10 or so rugby player looking dudes jumped friend in the hallway. The police got called and everything. He ended up with a broken nose, a cracked rib, and a busted face. His brother, my friend, and another of my husband's friends spent all night in the ER with him. We didn't hear about it until the next day, even though we were a floor below the fight.
I still want to know how he explained it to his wife.
No drama really, but there were a few annoying things that happened throughout the day that we laugh about now:
The girlfriend of one of our GM's showed up at the house to get ready with my and my BM's.
My grandmother asked me to invite the priest from her church (who I don't know well and really don't like but it made my grandmother happy). I told her that she could invite him as her date and she did. Wonderful. MIL suggests to me that we ask him to say the blessing over dinner at the reception, since he is a priest and all. He will. Wonderful. Then grandmother says that the priest friend would like a donation for doing this. Never mind, I'll ask someone else... that's ridiculous. She says forget the donation and he'll still do it. Wonderful. Then she asks me to send him a thank you card... just for saying yes to blessing the dinner. I'm not thanking him for something he hasn't even done yet. Wedding day: apparently, he (and maybe she) though that he was preforming the ceremony and showed up on the alter dressed up in his priest garb ready to go. Our deacon was all wtf and poor H had to deal with this BS minutes before getting married. No one told me until after the ceremony. Annoying, but whatever. At the reception, the priest stands to say grace... and completely bombs my name. Not even remotely close to my name. (Which is now what H calls me as a nickname). Everyone was looking at eachother like what did he just say? And we have it on the wedding dvd so there's proof.
Also, we had legit wedding crashers. I guess they were there later in the evening drinking our free beer and the bartender didn't recognize them as being one of the guests. One of the GMs and another one of H's friends had to escort them out. I had no idea they were there until we were looking at our photo mat guestbook thing days later and I saw names I didn't recognize (yes, they signed our guestbook!) and thats when H remembered to tell me the story.
These are some good stories (especially yours, cdc)! I was lucky and didn't have any real drama, but here are a few stories anyway:
1) Men's Wearhouse messed up DH's tux. I can't even remember the specific issue now, I think maybe the length of the jacket sleeves was off. We had to bring it back to the store the day before the wedding and I think DH picked it up the morning of the ceremony.
2) As a friend reminded me last night, people got ridiculously drunk at our reception. I later learned that one of the couples basically drove home drunk, and they lived about an hour away. They actually ran out of gas part way, so he walked to a gas station. He filled a milk carton with some gas, but it only held barely enough for them to hobble the car to the station to fill the tank. I was so mad when I found out how irresponsible they had been to get in the car in that condition.
3) I got really annoyed with my mom about something at the reception and yelled at her--like, really yelled. I'm still embarrassed about it to this day
4) My family called us at like 8:00am the next day and asked where we were taking them for breakfast. We had gone to bed around 4:00am.
Holy crap at some of these. Esp CDC #3. Yikes.
Mine aren't nearly that good but...
1. One of my BM and I weren't speaking by the time my wedding rolled around. She was selfish, ostracized my sister, threw a fit over anything and everything she could, then blew off my rehearsal. She did show up to the wedding, got wasted, threw a wine glass down on the floor, danced on the chairs...
2. MIL was very high maintenance. She insisted she have 2 GM walk her down the aisle. I thought that was stupid because it meant one would have to walk back up the aisle after walking my mother down. She made a huge deal about this. The wedding coordinator onsite took care of it though. The wedding was all about her and how HER son was getting married. And no, they did not financially contribute to anything.
1. This happened to us too!
3. Same here. Except it was a screaming match in the lobby of Park Plaza hotel.
I left the best one off!
The night before the wedding (we'd had the rehearsal 2 nights before due to the GM having some fraternity formal to attend Sat night) my MIL/FIL invited my parents and all of us out to dinner. They invited all of these random people who were not invited to the wedding, which made me feel really awkward.
Then.
They sent the $1,000 some odd dinner and bar bill to my dad.
No sh!t. I wish I was lying. It has been nearly 7 years and it's still a very sore topic for my parents. The ILs did not say thank you, did not say anything to him about paying it. No thank you note after the wedding, nothing.
The day of the wedding, my dad got ready with the guys. My SIL, BIL's gf, and MIL got ready with the guys too. Apparently only the GM who was not one of my BILs talked to my dad and helped him. My FIL, MIL, SIL, BILs totally ignored him and turned their backs to him and did not help him at all. He was not included.
I am glad my mom waited years to tell me that because to this day, it absolutely breaks my heart that my dad was treated that way. Thank god for the GM who hung out with him and helped him get ready. But it's of no surprise my ILs did that because they are so cliquey.
Case in point. I was talking with DH's uncle/aunt this weekend at a party. I said, "Do you know MIL's sister?" and they said, "Hmm. No." and walked off. Dude, Aunt was standing RIGHT there.
But that is just how they are.
Punky-I can't believe your in-laws did that with the bill!
Rock and Punky that is so awful that you got in arguments with your Moms.
I would love to know that too! That is crazy.
My mom can really push my buttons but I should have just let it go. I still haven't forgiven myself about it, even though I had a right to be mad.
Literally:
My jaw just hung open reading this whole story. I mean, WTF, seriously?! Have you ever talked to DH about it?
And how awful that they treated your dad like that the day of the wedding
I waited about 2 years before I said something to DH. He was really embarrassed. He couldn't believe it but when I told him the final amount of the bill he said, "Wow...that's what it would have been." He was really embarrassed but I have never brought it up to him again.
My sister said FIL grabbed her ass twice during rehearsal dinner. I find it really hard to believe, but I kind of don't. I'm not sure what to make of her saying that. LOL
OMG Punky!!!! Your poor sister!!!
Wow, I almost can't believe the things I'm reading! I truly feel sad/mad for the situations you guys were put in.
We didn't have too much drama, but there were things that went...wrong.
DH and I had hoped to keep the guest list around a 100 but my mom wanted to invite her HS friends, church friends, and our neighbors. Now granted I know all these people but we have a big family and the numbers add up. Eventually I gave in especially since she and my MIL offered to split the reception bill.
My MaOH forgot her ID the night of my bach party (which she realized when we got to the door of the club) and lived an hour and a half away.
The best man brought up DH's ex-gf in his toast. DH and ex-gf are still friends, I've met and hung out with her numerous times and like her. But he could have said DH's FRIEND so and so rather than when DH and so and so were dating. He winged the toast even though DH asked him to write something out and let him see it.
Awkward. That is so strange.
My dad and I aren't close, so I asked my mom to walk me down the aisle instead (since she pretty much raised me as a single parent). My dad flew off the handle and made a huge deal about it one week before the wedding. I'm not close to any of his family either, but since he asked me to, I invited two aunts. One of the aunts that I invited wrote me a very nasty letter saying how I broke my dad's heart and that I'm pretty much the worst person in the world (in so many words)... and had it sent by certified mail to arrive the day before the wedding. She still showed up.
We didn't have a ton of drama (I actually didn't know about most of it until after). We had a bunch of injuries though! I guess open bar+a young crowd does not always equal a good idea. DH's cousin had just turned 21 and was pretty loaded. He decided to punch glass and had to go to the hospital for stitches. One girl stepped on broken glass on the dance floor and another got a stiletto through the top of her foot... but I didn't know about any of it until we got home from our honeymoon.
Can't complain too much I guess
...hello out there!
dx with anovulatory PCOS 2005
off bcp 11/11
a few rounds of clomid and femara... no response.
injectables/IUI 12/12... BFN
Feb 13 IVF cycle converted down to IUI due to low follicle response... BFFN
one last IVF attempt April/May 2013: 19 retrieved. 10 fertilized. 2 transferred in a 3dt. 4 frosties... BFP!!
EDD: 1/21/14... Induced early at 36+6. Our LO was born 12/30/13
Dude. What a wench.
hpinault, that's ridiculous. I'm sorry you had to put up with that kind of bs.
(My dad and I aren't close either, and I think my mom thought I was going to ask her or my brother to walk me down the aisle. And I'm pretty sure she was disappointed when my husband and I decided to walk in together. Mostly because "it's just not how you do things." I told her - multiple times- that there's a first time for everything. Thankfully, she got over it.)
That is so so so awful. What did you say to her?
For the actual wedding, it's a siily one...but still important to me. I don't know about you guys, but for me, one of the most important parts of the ceremony is the first time my groom sees me in my dress. I've never been one to daydream about getting married, but that moment was important. That moment was the reason for working my butt off to lose weight, grow my hair out, and of course, find the perfect dress.....to knock the socks off the grrom when he saw me. Well.....we got married at a resort in Jamaica, just the two of us, and after talking with the resort coordinator, decided I would walk down the stairs to DH, and then we would walk to the wedding gazebo together. Hence the magic moment would be as I'm walking down the stairs. I get to the top of the stairs, already flustered from the day (and the snug dress), and the music starts. I'm waiting for DH to turn around and see me....nope. I walk all the way down to him, stand next to him, and his first look of me was just a side glance.....the resort coordinator had told him not to look at me as I walked down!!....What!!! The ceremony was wonderful....oh yeah, except their CD player started skipping....during our first dance. But it still bothers me that I lost out on that important moment.
On to the reception held 2 weeks later. My makeup girl, whom I still think is great, got lost to the hotel (in downtown Orlando), and didn't try to call us until she was almost an hour late. Which made us an hour late to the reception site and cut out a chunk of picture time.
But to top it off.....I'm the bride that everyone talks about. I can't believe she did that. Let's just say the bartender thought it was OK to make 3 drinks, #2 & 3 being served to me at the same time, for the bride (me) out of a half a bottle of vodka!!! Who drinks a half a bottle of vodka!! Let alone in only 3 drinks....and I didn't know until afterward. I don't think I need to explain the rest. Needless to say, I had fun, at least the pictures show that....but the night did not end well.
Oh well, everyone had a great time, great food, great music, loved the cupcakes....and many comments about strong drinks (won't use that barthender again), so that's what really matters
I just smiled and told her that I hoped she was having a good time. I didn't want any unnecessary drama there... but the next morning, DH did write her a very nasty letter back and we haven't heard from her since. Whatever, no loss on my part, lol.
...hello out there!
dx with anovulatory PCOS 2005
off bcp 11/11
a few rounds of clomid and femara... no response.
injectables/IUI 12/12... BFN
Feb 13 IVF cycle converted down to IUI due to low follicle response... BFFN
one last IVF attempt April/May 2013: 19 retrieved. 10 fertilized. 2 transferred in a 3dt. 4 frosties... BFP!!
EDD: 1/21/14... Induced early at 36+6. Our LO was born 12/30/13
Wow, these stories are crazy. We had almost no drama before or during our wedding. I never realized how lucky I am!
My parents were in the middle of their divorce and had actually been separated for over a year but didn't want to tell anyone until after the wedding (why they chose to do that is beyond me) so there were some awkward moments.
Oh, and DH chose some members of the wedding party who are not my favorite people. One of his GMs never showed up at the rehearsal and then was an hour late to the rehearsal dinner. He was on time for the wedding, but then showed up late for the pictures, too! How it took him hours to get from the church to the venue when it took everyone else 5 minutes is anyone's guess.
ok.....my MOH and one of my bridesmaids had been BFF forever.....and were still bff until the week I got engaged...they were both at my engagement so when I asked MOH I almost felt like i HAD to ask BM?
Anyway.....MOH held it together for the sake of my wedding saying that she was done with BM October 11th....BOY was she right! MOH brought her childhood friend (her mother is his godmother) who she's always had feelings for/has had "relations" with if you will.......BM (same one i'll describe below) ended the night of my wedding, dirty dancing, dissappearing with, and making out on a golf cart infront of my familly and friends.....with MOH's date.....MOH was livid and freaking out....and BM just kept it up.....all the way up till the hotel room.....it didnt go that far but omg.....crazy......
My Bachellorette.......same BM as above......and MOH come to pick me up......as we're in the car....BM says "oooo i cant wait to find a hottie for me tonight!!! thats my goal" so ofcourse that rings in my head....as she encourages me to stand with a bunch of hot guys...some with shirts off.....and ofcourse...as the boy she's chatting up at the newport bar we were at spills his drink all over me....thus leading me to call it a night.....at 11:30......
ummm last? Florest "dropped off" the flowers for the cake.....somehow they got lost.........Fall River Country Club who I love so much....ran out to shaws with one of the centerpiece daisies and bought those and similar pink roses to put all over the cake.....they're fantastic
Our Altar server was the Organist's son.....he basically threw a fit, banging his head, feet, and hands against the wall, chair, floor, whatever he could and eventually walking off the altar completely........ofcourse MOH, MaOH, DH, Me, and BMan are DYING on the altar the whole time......I was mortified but laughing anyway.....
DH's cousin, after many attemps to reach them before the wedding...showed up with NO rsvp, no answring calls etc.....we were lucky that one of his relatives were unable to attend last minute...so we had a seat for them...again...no idea till i got into the golf cart at the reception that this was going on......
OMG i almost forgot this....My sister and brother's godfather is a retired state cop.....he's very vocal......my friend jess was married to a woman at the time of my wedding......her wife was at the end of the row, decides to lean out as my "uncle" is taking a photo of me walking down the asile....what happens next can only be described as a "lesbian hate crime" where my "uncle" verbally attacks jess and her now ex wife using very....colorful language regarding their relationship and calling L "sir" etc....I didnt hear about it till the trolley after the wedding...My parents and I were mortified! Aunt and Uncle to this day wont apologize for it either and its just not brought up
Getting fit for IVF!