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SexyGamerGirl

so, i have been having major problems. these days, i feel as though i am ready for sex. i know i can mentally and emotionally handle it. the only problem is...i have tried with all of the boyfriends i have had in my life time, but no guy can seem to fit inside of me...they seem to be waaaay too big. and i do not mean the length either. it is the width of their penises that is the problem. they cannot get inside of me. i mean, i have tried anal and it has worked, but it does not seem to work with normal sex. is there anything i can do to fix this? so the next guy i am in a relationship with can actually fit inside of me? help? 

 if this has been posted by someone else already, please link me to it so i can see the answers/advice. thanks.  

Mrs.Rad888

Have you mentioned this to your GYN? You may have a partially intact hymen, which it normally an easy fix.

SexyGamerGirl

i kinda just moved to the state and city i currently live in, so i do not have a GYN at the moment. what do you mean by "an easy fix?" could they just...break it? 

justaname

Yes they can do minor surgery to break it. If that isn't the problem your doctor may look into vaginismus. You can google it. Basically your pelvic floor muscles, for some reason or another, are just too tight and need to be stretched out. Perhaps your gyn can refer you to a specialist and a pelvic floor physical therapist. Treating this is very possible but can require a lot of time and patience. Good luck!

beeb11285

Yeah, I would see a gyno about it! My best friend had some excessive skin the was making it painful for her and her hubby to have sex. She had it removed and then was given a tool to help her stretch the vaginal wall back out so they could have sex without the pain. Long process but they have done perfect ever since.

DaringMiss

DItto the gyno visit.  Tell your dr. about the penetration problem.  if you have had previous GYN visits, were they able to insert and dilate you with a speculum?

Have you ever tried to penetrate yourself with a dildo?  If you can't manage that (with lots of lube and patience), then I would think it was a physical issue that could be remedied.

TarponMonoxide

See your doc -- maybe you have an intact hymen or some other problem.

artbyallie

Previous posters have good suggestions. Are you getting wet at all? I find sometimes I'm mentally turned on but my vagina just didn't get the memo somehow and didn't produce any lubrication. An aroused vagina gets both wet and looser (the cervix moves up and makes more space) to make penetration possible.

But yeah, if you're lubricating but still not able to get a penis/dildo in, it's probably either vaginismus or an intact hymen. 

LOLways

If you have an intact, relatively unbreakable hymen, then your GYN will talk to you about a hymenectomy.

I had one a couple years ago and everything has been great since. Brick wall hymens run in my family apparently, I have 2 female relatives that I knew of that had serious difficulty with it. One of the two had to have surgery as well.

Don't stress about it, just see a doc and I bet they will have the answer for you as to whether this is your problem or not. If your GYN determines you do need a hymenectomy, feel free to PM me and I can tell you more details about how it went for me. I would have liked to have talked to someone that had been through it before me, but it was fine in the end anyway.

cmorino12

If you're nervous about it, try some breathing exercises to relax your body and muscles. Then stick one finger inside your vaigna and push down to stretch it out and hold down for five min. Then release and do it with two fingers and five min. Then stop at three fingers. Do this everyday, once a day.

Chanel89618

Hey this is for LOLways . My story is the exact same and I'm scheduling one this summer. I just would like some advice if u don't mind because this particular problem areavhas really affected my entire life.