Labor Day Weekend @ the IL's

November3Love

DH & I are driving the 6 hours (with our 2 dogs) to stay the weekend with his mom & step-dad. We're looking forward to it & have been for many months! I will be having oral surgery the day before & I have zero pain tolerance. I will be getting a prescription for the pain & I am a lightweight with pain killers. I don't want to spend the entire time visiting all knocked out & I don't want my IL's (mostly MIL... S-FIL is the type to just go with whatever) to get the impression that I'm being lazy or rude. {"Drove 6 hours to come 'visit' us & ends up laying around, sleeping, eh?" - type of thing...} I want to go out & spend time with everyone & help her in the kitchen-she's amazing in the kitchen & can teach me SO much!-but I can't spend that type of quality time with everyone if I'm passed out in the spare bedroom. [& before anyone asks, MIL is aware of my surgery the day before.] Any advice? *tia*

pugznploons

why don't you postpone the trip or the surgery?  

and if they don't understand why you aren't feeling well that makes them pretty insensitive. 

ZestofLime

I'd honestly question why you would want to spend 6 hours in the car the day after surgery or spend the remainder of the weekend semi-conscious and drooly. 

Why not wait to visit them?

EastCoastBride

Yeah, move the trip or the surgery. If you absolutely "can't", the your DH needs to just le them know the sitution and that you won't be yourself. If your ILs are so great, they'll understand.

vjcjenn1

if you are going to do it...is your DH okay driving while you sleep, I generally don't reccommend it but it sound likes it may come to that. Make sure he has music to listen to, red bulls, coffee, hard card to suck on. Also, be ready to go on trip before the surgery...that way that night you can rest, sleep, heal! When I had wisdom teeth out (not sure what type of surgery you have)...I was worthless day one and literally just woke up to take another pain pill and cry myself back to sleep. If the meds were every 6-8 hours...I took them every 6 hours. So this can be your day at home.  By the next day I was able to space the medication out to every 8 hours, or even more...and this is what you should try to do. Maybe take the medication for the drive....and then turn in early and take the medication before bed time (your H will probably need to go to sleep early anyways if he drove all day).  On day 3, try to take the medication hardly at all. Maybe IL's can plan for this to be the day that you do the most stuff. If you turned in early the night before, maybe wake up early and take the medication again, go back to sleep and then you might now be so drowsy come breakfast/lunch time. Try to go as long as you can, maybe taking it again and getting a midday nap...then gear up again for a fun night/dinner.

TootsieK

I second the idea about postponing the surgery.  Problems occasionally crop up after oral surgery and you don't want to be six hours away from your dentist or endodontist. 

mbcdefg

Your choices are to reschedule the surgery, stay home while your husband goes on the trip, or explain the situation to your ILs beforehand ... unless they're total diicks, they will understand and won't bug you about it.