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bratty vent
I know I am the darkish brown kettle calling the pot black here, but still...
A friend of mine is getting married in January and has started the intense emails about dresses, flights, etc. It is in Guanacaste, Costa Rica. Which is in the middle of nowhere. It's a 5+ hour drive from the only major airport in the country (or a 90+ minute drive from a small regional airport).
Anyway, I checked out flights and it looks like we are going to need to do AT LEAST 3 stops just to get to San Jose. I know part of this is that we are in Turkmenistan, but I'm just so annoyed that I'm using almost all my vacation while here to travel across the world to weddings. I realize this is hypocritical, but if it helps, the bitterness includes having to go to Italy twice this year for my own wedding. Although, on the other hand, I wouldn't have chosen to go in late August this past time, but had to plan it around another wedding in Geneva.
While H and I are doing our wedding in Italy (as yet another friend will not cease to remind me) , it's because he has family there and so 1/2 our guests would have to travel no matter what. Not because we chose some random place with no connection to either of us that 100% of the guests would have to travel to. Plus, we specifically avoided the cute vineyard type thing because it was too in the middle of nowhere/a PITA to get to. We chose a large city and a hotel that is a 7 minute walk from the train station if you are strolling along.
I know I'm being a brat and this is a close friend of mine, so I'm not going to mention it and I will do whatever I have to in order to make it... I'm just annoyed that I have to take 1 week off to travel for 3-4 of those because she randomly chose to have her wedding in BFE.
Oh, and originally she wanted to have her wedding on Dec. 19 or some crap and I had to tell her that if she wants people to come to her wedding, perhaps she shouldn't choose the most expensive time of year and force them to spend their last vacation days and spend their holidays with her instead of their families. She is great and all, but sometimes has her head in the sky and I feel like this is another one of those times.
/end of rant. I'm a jerk, I know.
Re: bratty vent
I dont think you are a jerk.
Just because you get invited to a wedding doesnt mean you have to go. I know you said she is a good friend but you can always say that you dont have the money or vacation time to go to the wedding. I think when people have a destination wedding they should understand that people might not want or can travel that far.
I agree and would have no problems saying no to 90% of my friends. But this is one of the people I am closest to, so I am going to be there. It's just going to be a huge PITA, so I'm whining, that's all.
I also know that she partially chose Costa Rica because it was cheap and they didn't want to spend a lot on a wedding, so I'm like, "great, now all the guests will just have to spend a lot."
Which I know is a bit like my wedding, which is why I feel like such an a$$ for complaining. But we have ties to Italy, and lots of guests from Italy - our reason wasn't really to cost cut. And I am honestly not upset at any person who can't go because I get that it's difficult and expensive.
She just doesn't seem to get that this is a big deal for people. She asked for her guests to RSVP by Oct. 1 for a Jan. 15 wedding. When I told her that it was a bit early to ask people for definite plans, and that she may have a lot of people change their mind she seemed surprised. I guess it's not such a big trip for those coming from the US, but it still seems odd to me to expect people to have plans set in stone so far in advance.
Anywho... I vented and I'm over it. This is what I get for looking at flight schedules and prices.
I understand you want to be there. You're a better friend than I am. I am missing my two best friends' weddings this October. One is in my hometown, and the other is in Mexico (like your friend, it's a destination wedding for NO good reason). I told them that I just can't afford the time off or the plane ticket. They didn't seem surprised so at least I didn't have to defend myself. Hope you can at least enjoy a trip to CR.
Costa Rica is a very popular destination wedding spot, but most of the time it's only close family and perhaps a couple friends. The good thing is Guanacaste isn't 5 hours away from the airport anymore! I went there last month and made it in 3 hours with traffic. And, if you don't feel like driving, Nature Air (the local airline) has cheap flights and often has special offers (i.e. 2 for 1).
If you have to come here anyway, just enjoy it. It really is a beautiful country. Don't hesitate to message me if you want to know more about the great, have any questions, or want travel advice.