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UO Thursday
Is it Thursday? This week has been both long and short!
My UO is teaching-related. A student yesterday shared a story with me about how a middle school teacher (25 at the time) took the student and her friend to a concert in Tulsa. The teacher was married, and had the two girls stay over at her house the night before (they all lived in OKC). The next day, they went to the concert in Tulsa with the teacher, her husband, and her husband's friends. They stayed in a hotel. The student shared a bed with the teacher. Parents knew all of this and allowed the girls to go.
I think it's crossing a line professionally, and so does a co-worker. The student sees nothing wrong with it (though the other students in the room had the same shocked face I did). My H sees nothing wrong with it. He thinks I'm being overly cautious. Perhaps all of my experiences with totally unprofessional teachers back in my hometown has tainted my opinion? What say you, OK nesties?
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We have a school policy that forbids "friending" current students on Facebook. After they graduate it's fine, but I'm pretty picky about who I friend even then.
I once took a couple of orchestra kids to dinner and the symphony, and a band kid to the jazz lab for pizza and jazz, but it was a reward and obviously directly related to the class. I went to dinner once with my newspaper staff and have met the yearbook staff for breakfast at IHOP for a morning meeting. It's always a group, it's always related to the class. I do not understand why a teacher would ever treat a middle schooler like they are a friend. I also do not understand why the parents were okay with this!
I think it's crossing way over the line. What if one or both of the students accused her or her H or her H's friend of doing something inappropriate (even if nothing happened)? It would be their word against the students'. That probably wouldn't happen, but you never know what some kids will say for attention at that age.
Kaylee & Cole 06.14.08
8/6/11 First 5k! OG&E Expo Run 34:47
9/3/11 Brookhaven Run 5k 34:18
9/17/11 Healthy Sooners Fun Run 5k 33:38
10/15/11 Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure 33:31
10/29/11 Monster Dash 5k 32:06 PR!
11/11/11 Veteran's Day Run 11k in Dallas 1:13:15 Instant PR!
1/28/12 Texas Half Marathon 2:38:03 Instant PR!
3/25/12 Earlywine Dash
I can't recall ever staying in the same room as a teacher, but both my debate coach and band director were men. But, they didn't share rooms with the boys, either.
When I take my band kids on overnights, like our last trip to Dallas, the trip company gives the director their own room automatically, with a king bed, so no sharing. I like my big bed to myself. I did have a student barge into my room (and then the friends followed) to gawk at my view and my big bed lol. I quickly ushered them out!
Yikes Fuzzy! That is certainly crossing the line! I wonder if the student and the teacher had a relationship prior to the teacher becoming a teacher? For instance, I could see me being okay with this sort of thing if this particular teacher had been my child's babysitter at some point, if that makes sense. Other than that...yikes!!!
The only way that this isn't crossing a line is if the student and student's parents had a personal relationship with the teacher (relative, friend). There are a few teachers that I had throughout middle school and high school that this would have been no problem with - in the same breath, they were either my aunt, uncle, cousin, or have been friends of my parents' for years and years.
Otherwise, I think it's crossing the line. I can't imagine a parent being okay with it - even a super relaxed parent (as mine were/are). Is it possible that there was a relative/friend relationship with the student/teacher and that part of the story just didn't surface?
I think Fuzzy's story is crossing the line. I remember a teacher in middle school taking a group of girls out to Starbucks before school once a week, and even then I gave THAT the side-eye, and that's nothing compared to sleeping in the same bed and stuff. That's just strange.
My UO: I think the fires are God's way of punishing us for the sinners in Oklahoma.
Kidding, kidding. OH SO kidding! I think they're actually God's way of saying we're in a drought.
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OMG! I was totally thinking the same thing last night.
Oh, wait. You were kidding. Hmph.
I am right there with you. I love trashy reality TV shows. Real Housewives of OC, NJ, ATL, NY, BH are my major weakness.
DH and I were actually joking about this last night. It's the perfect response to Michelle Bachman's whole "the earthquake and hurricane on the east coast are God trying to tell Washington something" gaffe.
Good to hear this. I had no idea it was a "breast cancer awareness" thing. I've only seen one person post something to this effect, so I was thinking (but hoping not) she was pregnant. It was H's 18 year old cousin.
WOW! I didn't see the 'Kidding' part of your post until someone quoted you. And I agree with others, definitely reminds me of WBC.
Kaylee & Cole 06.14.08
8/6/11 First 5k! OG&E Expo Run 34:47
9/3/11 Brookhaven Run 5k 34:18
9/17/11 Healthy Sooners Fun Run 5k 33:38
10/15/11 Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure 33:31
10/29/11 Monster Dash 5k 32:06 PR!
11/11/11 Veteran's Day Run 11k in Dallas 1:13:15 Instant PR!
1/28/12 Texas Half Marathon 2:38:03 Instant PR!
3/25/12 Earlywine Dash
Ugh. I *loathe* these status update awareness things. Definitely one of my top five pet peeves.