I think my mom might be turning into "that" MIL

mon.petit.chou

Did I tell you guys how my mom kind of guilt tripped us into coming to Las Vegas with them earlier this summer? Long story short, it was their anniversary, she laid it on thick, and we ended up going. DH wasn't really pleased, but it was a pretty good time in the end.

So my 30th birthday is coming up next month, and today I get this email from her:

"Have you made plans for your birthday??  We could come down there or we could travel somewhere if you want to include us in out of town plans.  "

It could be completely harmless, but I'm afraid I'm reading some passive aggressiveness in there too. I'm used to my mom, so it doesn't bother me, I just laugh at it. But I think it really bothered DH. He compared us to Everybody Love Raymond and told me there is no way we are ever moving to Jacksonville.

(We are, in fact, thinking about getting out of town for the weekend, since it's a 3-dayer, but we will not be inviting my parents.)

ETA: I know this isn't as serious as a lot of the MIL problems you guys were talking about yesterday, so don't think I'm trying to compare! It just made me laugh and roll my eyes so I thought I'd share. 

duncanpowers

There is definitely more than some passive aggressiveness in there, but your DH is also jumping to the worst case scenario by comparing it to Everybody Loves Raymond. Yes, your mother obviously is insinuating herself in your not-yet-developed plans and pushing you to take a trip that also includes them (which means that now if you take a trip alone, you're essentially told them flat out you don't want to be with them, gotta love that trick). But, she isn't exactly all up in your business every 5 seconds, and Jacksonville is a LARGE city. If you ever did want to move up here, there are obviously ways to make it hard for people to see you