Holidays
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Im just curious
If your significant other didnt believe in celebrating or buying presents for you during christmas or birthdays but does celebrate his child's birthday and christmas with parties and gifts, would you be upset by this? I guess I was raised to feel that if your partner appreciates you they would want to do things like this to show you they really do care. Or even, if he did'nt want to make you feel special on your birthday then how special could you really be to him? Maybe im being ridiculous....
Re: Im just curious
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
No reason specifically. He will only buy for other adults if he is asked to specifically or knows for sure they will be buying for him. He just tells me "Its nothing against you. I just don't like to buy presents for you. He says I should'nt want him to." He takes special time for christmas and birthday to pick out just the right things for our son and loves to take pic's while he is opening his gifts, then be the one to tell him that he picked it out special! I don't know.
So, he doesn't like to make any effort to figure out what someone might like as a gift, and then he will only give something if he 1- gets something in return, and/or 2- gets all the glory.
Quite honestly, he sounds lazy and VERY selfish. I have a feeling the gift giving isn't the only place this shows up.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
That is where I have an issue. I agree with another poster that this cannot be the only place that his... personality shines through.
I would just stop buying gifts for him. And when he wants to know why, you need to tell him that he shouldn't expect you too.
This can't be the only issue in your relationship....
bfp 1 - m/c 1.31.11 @ 10 weeks
bfp 2 - baby born via c-section on 5.4.12 @ 37 weeks
TFAS since February 2013--BFP on cycle 1!
bfp 3 - blighted ovum/d&c on 4.13.13 @ 8 weeks
SA #1 - Slightly abnormal shape, #2 - very low count
Follistim + IUI 3x = BFN, BFN, very late BFP with super low progesterone --> c/p
Moving on to long protocol IVF with ICSI and PGS in August 2014...how in the holy hell did I get here? FU 2IF.
No, it's not the only issue in her relationship.
Her SO is financially mooching off of her and has stolen her prescription pain pills before.
Everyone on FM and RE keeps recommending that she kicks him out, but she's not quite there yet.
That's kind of a loaded question. My H and I don't usually buy gifts for each other because we do a lot of little things through out the year, or we get something that we can use together. It's mutual though, as we always discuss/ask the other what they would like. This year for X-Mas we are putting our money into an "us" gift, but it's not going to be wrapped and placed under the tree for either of us to open. We do wish to start getting each other gifts once we start having kids. It's not "expected" though.
Okay, I didn't see all of this. I would have to agree... There are some issues that need to be addressed in your relationship. His not giving you a gift is not the issue it's the result of what is going on.