September 2010 Weddings
LauraT25
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Confession
I peed on a stick today. It was negative, and part of me was kind of sad.
Even though we're not trying, I switched some of my meds so that we could start trying whenever, and I wouldn't be upset if it were positive. It wouldn't be easy, but we would figure it out.
I want a baby SO bad.
Re: Confession
I don't think it would be a ton of shuffling, but we would definitely have to plan a bit. Our apartment would be fine for a baby, but I would want something bigger after a year or so. So if I was pregnant now, I would probably want to move either before the baby comes (our lease is up in May) or sometime in the year after it was born. I actually think this stage of my life is probably better than the span 2-4 years from now. Whenever it happens though, I'm confident that we can make it fit!
I'm hoping the baby fever subsides a bit when my co-worker's wife has his baby (any day now!) but I have a sneaking suspicion that it will just get worse.
I feel your pain Laura. I have baby fever BAD as well. Trying to wait until I have a more stable job. The economy isn't helping. Seems like a LOT of people around me are preggo too, so that makes the fact that I'm not harder to deal with.
I wish you luck though, and hope things happen when they are supposed to.
Laura, I re-read my comment, and I think I came off as a jerk, and it's not the way I meant it at all. I only meant that pregnancy is hard enough on your body just physically and hormonally, that I'm glad I didn't have to worry about other stuff. Does that make sense?
It seems like every day there's a post from someone asking if we know how much day care costs, and it's like, um, yeah! Sorry you're 7 months pregnant and just figuring that out, but yeah.
Mush, I didn't think you sounded like a jerk at all! I read it more like, "well, on the bright side..." kind of things; kids ARE a lot of work, and it is a little bit of a relief not to be blind-sided by a pregnancy!
I know what you mean about the daycare stuff; I am always surprised when I hear people say things that make it clear they haven't really made any plans. A lady at work was telling me that she 'forgot' to look into daycare for her baby (which was born in August), until after she was born. Umm, wut? I know people who were/are on waiting lists for over a year! And this lady already had two kids, so I don't get how she didn't remember! And a while back there was a post somewhere on TN, from TB, where the OP 'just found out' that she won't be able to get maternity leave, with the baby coming in a couple of weeks. How do you not look into that?!
I'm sorry, Laura. The new puppy has tempered my baby fever a little bit for the moment, but not enough. I really want a baby. Even though H and I both agree that we want to wait a bit longer. We don't have any reasons to wait other than selfish ones, but that fact alone proves we're not quite ready, I think. I have this feeling I will know exactly when the time is right, and so will you. I also wouldn't be upset if it happened now, but having just started my new job, etc, the timing is not ideal at the moment. I feel like everyone around me is having babies, even Beyonce!! People who are ready, people who were surprised, bandwagon people who suddenly seemed to get pregnant just because a bunch of their friends did. I feel surrounded and it's tough. Just know you're not alone feeling this way.
To me, this part says it all. Probably anybody with kids will tell you that there is no 'right' time. There always other things you want to do, you'd like to have more saved, be in a better/bigger apartment, whatever. If you had a huge sigh of relief, then no, you're not ready mentally/emotionally/psychologically. And that's what really counts.
That being said, if you want a reason to hold off, I can tell you about Baby Q being up every two hours for the last two weeks while he had a cold/went through a growth spurt/was teething.
I'm not going to lie, there wasn't really any feeling of 'relief', but I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that I didn't really think I WAS pregnant, but I thought I should check. If that makes sense?
I feel emotionally ready, I really do. I think Jeff is more worried about other stuff (finances, finding a job, moving) not being ready.