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Need some advice...
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Long story short, and old friend who I kind of had a falling out with got back in touch with me and I wasn't sure how to respond.
Re: Need some advice...
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TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad spermYeah, I'd probably send back a "We sure are. I hope all is well with you!" and leave it at that.
BTW, I ended up losing a friend after the wedding (my MOH actually) over non-wedding related stuff, and it sucked. I'm sorry you're going through this. But I totally get not wanting that relationship anymore.
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Honestly, how you respond to her has everything to do with whether or not you want to be friends again. If you don't, don't bother responding. It's not immature. It sounds like every time she talks to you she tries to make you feel guilty for not contacting her all the time. Guess what? Friendship is a two-way street. You're feeling guilty for not contacting her, but how often did she try to get together with you? Just ignore her.
On the other hand, if you'd like to forgive and forget, and you think she has gotten past being bitter, give her a shout and tell her you're back in town. Invite her for coffee to talk about your new jobs or something.
I've lost touch with pretty much all of my bridesmaids, which hurts my heart. I was so busy with school, and now I've contacted them numerous times over the past few weeks, and they all say they're too busy and will 'email me soon'. meanwhile, they all make skype dates on facebook with each other. It hurts. But all you can do is keep trying if you think it's worth it.
Like a lot of the girls on here I had a good friend (one of my BMs actually) turn cold around my wedding. She actually went so far as to send several emails to me about how hurt she was that DH and I had chosen a date that put us getting married before her, as she had been engaged longer (and dating her now DH longer as well). I should add that she had chosen to have a 2 year engagement to allow for both of them to finish college and DH and I had both been out for a while before our engagement. She wrote a lot of things in those emails, asking me to justify why we were getting married, why we chose the date we did, and even saying somethings that seemed crafted to make me feel guilty that my dad was alive to walk me down the aisle (she was very broken up about her dad's death a couple of years earlier).
Those emails definitely put a damper on our relationship, and then she couldn't make my shower or the bachelorette party, or even take the time to get us a card for our wedding, which hurt. After the wedding, I didn't call her and she didn't call me. I was definitely ready to just let the friendship go, but then I got a handwritten note in the mail from her apologizing for her actions around my wedding and asking if we could talk/skype. We did a couple of FB messages first and then a phone call and later a long skype call and never actually talked about what happened around the wedding, but just talking about our day-to-day life and the interests we have in common really helped me to feel our friendship is healing.
That is my story and kind of why I think you should respond on FB and maybe see if you can get together. You might meet up and realize that you guys no longer have anything in common or it might go a long way to healing that break, either way, at least you would know. That's my take on it (which I realize now is ridiculously long. Oops).
What is it with chicks?! Sometimes I wish I was a guy- they never seem to have to deal with the drama llamas where as we are always stepping around someone's feelings. Blah! I would reply. I would keep it short and sweet and say yes- we are back! short description about what's going on with you and then you can say-- what's new with you? Toss it right back to her. Then it will be up to her to decide if she wants to move forward.
Good luck!
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I'm sorry...at least you tried.