September 2009 Weddings
michelle142
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Re: FFFC?
I cried at work yesterday and "tattled" on a co-worker to his supervisor like a 5 year old. Then I went home and cried about it some more because I felt horrible that I said anything at all.
He's the most unappreciative a-hole I've ever met and throws random comments into our conversations all the time.
Yesterday he started yelling at me about a project he wasn't even involved in and then as he was walking away, turns and says "it wasn't my decision for you to get knocked up. If it were up to me you wouldn't even get a week of leave."
I told him to get the eff out of my office.
oh come on. No one has anything good?
but.... I don't wanna do any actual work today *pout*
I found and sent a Friend Request to SW2B on FB for no other reason than because I could and I have a sick sense of curiosity like that.
The craziest thing? She accepted my request!
updated 10.03.12
Did she get a divorce? Wasn't there a post about that or something a while back?
She did -- it appears as if it was finalized August 2nd or something along those lines.
Trust me... I took one for the team here, and it has been well worth it.
Also? My FB security against her has been amplified, so no worries here!
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Speaking of divorces - remember Steph? Did something happen with her and her H?
Who the fvck says something like that? I would have gone off too.
I am having a complete pitty party because I look & feel huge in the dress I bought for my cousin's wedding tomorrow. So horrible that I decided to just wear a dressy shirt, pants & heels because I look so much better in it than the stupid dress. I'd rather be comfortable in pants than miserable in a dress.
Yes, I saw that on FB. All I know is that she moved out on her own.
I confess that I don't get some of these hospital posts. I don't see why people find the need to wear makeup or do stuff like straighten their hair right after they gave birth. I know I looked liked $hit and I could care less. I just pushed a human out of my crotch, I deserved to look like crap! The same thing goes with what to wear. The thought never even crossed my mind not to wear the hospital gown. I was bleeding so bad I would have destroyed any thing else I would have worn.
I don't know deets, but I do know she has a new place on her own. Jill and I are actually trying to plan a weekend down to CT for a visit!
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This is what I've been saying the whole time... do not comprehend.
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Is that Stephy, the one whose fiance got in a bad car accident right before the wedding?
MB - Love that you friended SW2B....that divorce happened quicker than I ever imagined!
Ditto.
*nod* the same
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I confess that I will most likely wear makeup and have semi fixed hair after labor. I want pics, and I don't want to look back at them and only think about how awful I look. I don't plan to be applying liquid liner while I'm pushing or anything, but I think I can find 5 minutes to spruce up, before the cameras come out. I'm vain.
Me too, DD! Me toooo.
Of course I say this now, but who knows how I'll really feel when the time comes. I would just like to look somewhat half decent for pictures and visitors coming in and out. We'll see!!! I'm not saying I'll do full on make up and styled hair as if I'm going out, but some concealer, foundation and blush will probably make me look and feel a lot better!
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All that mattered to me was that I get the clearance to take a shower.... I swear, that was the best shower I ever had.
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Not having given birth this is just an observation but I'm guessing that this has to do with how you feel about makeup on a regular day to day basis. If you wear full make up everyday then you would probably want it on after L/D; little to no make-up on the daily, probably not as big of an issue.
I don't know if it's a matter of being vain but also wanting to look more like yourself (or as much as possible after pushing out a human). If you wear full makeup every day and then if you have none on for your pictures, it's logical that one would not like how they look because it's not how you're used to seeing yourself.
Just my 2 cents, have a piece of pizza
Me too, man. But then when I actually got up to take the shower? OMG. I have never felt so sore in all my life.
Seriously you guys, I get that you want to look good for pics and such, but no one expects you to. And you're NOT going to feel like it. All you're going to want is a shower and a nap.
That hit me the day I had finally come home from the hospital and took the first shower in my own bathroom. Once I got in there I swear it hit me like a ton of bricks -- the pain, the exhaustion -- it seriously brought me to tears.
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I was SOOOO insanely swollen from BP issues and induction, makeup would have done nada. I would have looked like a puffy clown!
I would have punched him square across the jaw then blamed hormone rage for the sudden outburst of violence. What a douche.
And to the ladies insisting on make-up and straighteners, etc. for after birth...if it makes you feel better to pack 'em I say go for it, but don't be surprised if you find 5 hours after birth your still haven't "prettied" yourself.
dude MB- I am right there with you... I just wanted a shower. 24 hours after showering I had the baby, about 36-40 hours they finally let me shower. I was gross. I pushed, sweated, had a baby on me and I was disgusting. I look back at the pictures and realized that it didnt matter what I looked like. I just had a baby... you can see what I looked like on my blog below.
I'll probably, at the least, do my hair after having a baby (I say that now...), but I have horrible self-esteem on a regular basis and even pictures where people say I look great, I still feel like I look horrible. So after spending a possible 24-48 hours of heavy labor/delivery, I'm sure I'll look like schit (and probably feel like it), so I'd have to do something before pictures are taken. That way I can look back and say, "well, I could've looked worse."
My FFC: I don't like my new job placement. It's in a Life Skills room with 5 other adult women (about 10 kids) and they baby these kids so badly. I know they are LS, but isn't the point of LS to teach them how to do ADLs on their OWN??? There are a few kids who can write, but still have dotted lined paper. Really? Give the kid a notebook and back the fvck off. And I get told (by at least 2 adults,mind you) on a daily basis that I'm "mean." Well, when I tell a kid to sit down and get out their work, I fvcking mean it. Don't make me repeat myself 8 times. I don't have that kind of fvcking patience. Lots of f-bombs from me today. Sorry. I'ts been a looooong 4-day week.
The only reason I wore anything different than the hospital gown was because I was comfy in my own clothes that day and no one ever told me to change. I certainly didnt plan a special outfit to labor in and I ended up totally nude in the end. I didnt bleed much after her birth (still havent) so ruining my own stuff wasnt a concern.
You better believe I left that hospital with wet hair, no make up and in yoga pants, huge undies and yoga pants. My lady friend hurt and I wanted nothing to do with real clothing.