Poll: Leaving

billyandsara

Since it appears from the FFFC thread at least two niners are no longers with their H, my question is

 

[Poll]

billyandsara

sorry for the typo

rach83

I said SS - I've had the thought in a fit of rage when we're having a really bad fight, but I've never REALLY considered it, if that makes any sense. 

MBMcC421

I thought about it, but like Rach said, in the midst of fits of rage.  I thought of logistics- where I would go, how I would afford to live -  but the minute my mind drifted to taking Sam away, I woke up and realized how stupid of a thought process it had become.

law67

I haven't thought that since we've been married but the first year that we were engaged, I can't say it didn't cross my mind somewhat frequently.

We were newly engaged, living together for the first time, I had started my first year of law school going to class from 9-5 and commuting from the burbs to the city and he was working a 3-11 shift that consistently had him working until 1AM with Wednesday and Thursday nights off. Needless to say we rarely saw each other, everything the other did was hitting a nerve, we were having zero sex and we had a giant fight at least once every two weeks.

There were many times when I thought about calling off our engagement that year or at least delaying the wedding further. I'm glad I didn't, obviously, but that was tough to go through especially after 5 years of dating in relative harmony.

billyandsara

MBMcC421:

I thought about it, but like Rach said, in the midst of fits of rage.  I thought of logistics- where I would go, how I would afford to live -  but the minute my mind drifted to taking Sam away, I woke up and realized how stupid of a thought process it had become.

agree.

I was raised by a single mom, and even though I have a great family and ha a great childhood I wouldn't want to do that to Teaghan.

amelianguy

I can honestly say I've never thought about leaving. We fight, sure. But we are really good about resolving things then and there, and not letting things fester. Guy is a great husband, but he's absolutely the most amazing father I've ever seen, and I would never want to break our family up.

Firefly062

I have genuinely never considered leaving my husband. I truly believe that I will never find a guy as all-around fantastic as Jon. We have stupid little fights that are often the result of being frustrated with other things, but for the most part we communicate really well when we're annoyed. Or, rather, Jon communicates really well and is good about asking the questions that lead to a positive end result. Even in the face of the obstacles we're coming up against now, Jon is patient, willing to do whatever it takes to get to the goal and even wants to find a therapist/counselor to work with us and be proactive about how we both may feel about things. So, no..I have never thought about leaving and I honestly don't know what could change to make me consider it.

sarges05girl

SS here.

I've not thought about it, but we are hardly "soooooo happy" together. We have our fights and disagreements, but we're pretty good about resolving things. Our first year we had a HUGE knock-down drag-out fight. And I do remember saying "I want to go home." But that was more of a "I want my mom" kind of thing than an actual "I want to leave you" thing. It was our first fight of that magnitude (and I'm an emotional cripple to begin with) and I wasn't coping well with that fight. Since then we have improved drastically on our communication.

We do joke about getting a divorce all the time. That fight up there, we scared Buddy so bad that he hid under our bed and didn't come out for 4 hours. No matter the coaxing or cookies. So now, every time someone raises their voices (even laughing and having fun) he runs upstairs and hides. We usually say, "Ah, we're getting a divorce! Buddy says so!" or we'll call up the stairs after the dog, "It's okay, Buddy, we're not getting a divorce!" On one hand it's sad that our fight made him so scared/sensitive, but on the other hand, it's pretty funny.

lneuner09

amelianguy:

I can honestly say I've never thought about leaving. We fight, sure. But we are really good about resolving things then and there, and not letting things fester. Guy is a great husband, but he's absolutely the most amazing father I've ever seen, and I would never want to break our family up.

Same here (minus the father part).  We've had our share of fights (although, not nearly as bad as we did the first year we lived together), but never once have I considered leaving.  We only had one fight, a few years ago, where I even questioned our realtionship.  Never even come close to considering it since. 

tdmd09

I've never ever thought about it. I've heard people say that sometimes things like a miscarriage can drive a marriage apart, and that really worried me, but honestly I feel closer to DH than I even did before our losses. We've had a few disagreements but no crazy fights and I've never once questioned our relationship.

mrs pH

Well, I clicked No but maybe I should have clicked SS.  As you all know Dan and I have had our issues but I don't think I ever really thought of leaving him or getting a divorce. I have thought of taking a week away just so I can collect myself after a bad fight.  I don't think it's a bad thing to cool off like that and then go back and work things out with a clear head. 

michelle142

I've never considered it.

Honestly, and this is probably going to sound like a lie, we don't really fight. We communicate really well and always find a way to get on the same page with things. We've never had a big blowout argument or held grudges. I don't know how we do it, but I'd say being able to talk through everything without anger has really helped us.

I'm honestly sort of waiting for the day we blow up at each other. I know that sounds dumb, but it's bound to happen.

macdidlyicious

there were times during our first year that I thought we wouldnt make it or he would get sick of fighting and leave me. as for honestly considering leaving him? no. the thought makes my heart ache.