Need help - advice for friend

emyinpink

Ugh, what should I do.

FI just left for his bachelor party (out of town). One of his friends at the last minute told him he was coming (the only non-family member outside my brother going), and when we were talking about it last night, I asked FI if friend's girlfriend was jealous (she also loves Austin, where they're going). He said he actually got a weird comment in the email from friend, saying "Don't tell "GF's Name", she was freaking out and doesn't want me to go, so I'm going behind her back.  You can just play ignorant ." He said he figured friend booked the flights without telling friend's gf, but was going to tell her at the last minute, since they live together and obviously she'd find out. 

She just pinged me on gchat, asking if I knew if he was going. I told her yes, sent her his flight info, and mentioned the comment. She's really really upset. I guess he cheated on her 2 months ago, and so she didn't trust him to go out of town to a bachelor party. I'm calling her in a few minutes. What advice can I give her?

emyinpink

I also just found out the actual text of the comment because I checked his email for the flight info. He just told me that friend told him in email he didn't tell friend's gf. 

mgoss228

  I'm not sure what advice you could give her, except to maybe reevaluate her living/relationship situation.  I wouldn't want to be with a guy who cheated on me, and I ESPECIALLY wouldn't want to be with someone who LIED to me.

emyinpink

mgoss228:

  I'm not sure what advice you could give her, except to maybe reevaluate her living/relationship situation.  I wouldn't want to be with a guy who cheated on me, and I ESPECIALLY wouldn't want to be with someone who LIED to me.

ya, we just talked. she said she think's this is completely the last straw. I guess not only did he cheat on her, he full on went on 3 dates with another girl. she found out when they ran into her randomly on the street, and she ran up to him and gave him a hug. 

karimychel

emyinpink:

mgoss228:

  I'm not sure what advice you could give her, except to maybe reevaluate her living/relationship situation.  I wouldn't want to be with a guy who cheated on me, and I ESPECIALLY wouldn't want to be with someone who LIED to me.

ya, we just talked. she said she think's this is completely the last straw. I guess not only did he cheat on her, he full on went on 3 dates with another girl. she found out when they ran into her randomly on the street, and she ran up to him and gave him a hug. 

Had that been me that hug would have been followed up with a slap to BF and me walking off.

I'd also take liberty to 1) change the locks this weekend or 2) move out depending on the living/rental situation.

emyinpink

karimychel:

emyinpink:

mgoss228:

  I'm not sure what advice you could give her, except to maybe reevaluate her living/relationship situation.  I wouldn't want to be with a guy who cheated on me, and I ESPECIALLY wouldn't want to be with someone who LIED to me.

ya, we just talked. she said she think's this is completely the last straw. I guess not only did he cheat on her, he full on went on 3 dates with another girl. she found out when they ran into her randomly on the street, and she ran up to him and gave him a hug. 

Had that been me that hug would have been followed up with a slap to BF and me walking off.

I'd also take liberty to 1) change the locks this weekend or 2) move out depending on the living/rental situation.

I guess she didn't know right away. She asked him who the girl was later, and it all came out.She said she hopes to see us at the wedding, I said I hope to see HER at the wedding , and also let her know that they can change their RSVPs up to 3 days before so whatever she feels most comfortable with.

jennlin

mgoss228:

  I'm not sure what advice you could give her, except to maybe reevaluate her living/relationship situation.  I wouldn't want to be with a guy who cheated on me, and I ESPECIALLY wouldn't want to be with someone who LIED to me.

yup. this. 

uwhuskygirl

mgoss228:

  I'm not sure what advice you could give her, except to maybe reevaluate her living/relationship situation.  I wouldn't want to be with a guy who cheated on me, and I ESPECIALLY wouldn't want to be with someone who LIED to me.

That. wow. I'm at a loss for words.