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Work Bridal Shower Help
Hi All,
A friend here at work is getting married 10/1. Only a small handful (4-5) are invited to wedding, due to the budget. We wanted to throw her a small shower after work at a local Happy Hour gathering place. Bride initially said that she onlywanted those of us on the wedding guest list invited to the shower. However there are a LOT of people here at work that really want to "shower her" and some feelings (okay, several) have been hurt over this. I know it's all what the bride wants, but she lost her soon to be father in law yesterday and is now open to the idea of inviting more people that have been supportive of her and her family as of his recent decline in health and death.
Is there an eloquent way to throw a work shower for a bride and indicate on the invitation that the invite doesn't include the wedding? What would be the best wording to use??
Thanks so much
Re: Work Bridal Shower Help
I can't think of any possible way to say "you aren't invited to the wedding." Work showers can get a pass for not being invited to the wedding, but generally the shower is AT work. If you are set on doing something with these people, do it during work hours.
I would imagine more feelings would be hurt if they were invited to a shower and then not the wedding.
I work with a ton of women and we are constantly having a bridal shower, or baby shower, or birthday, or retirement....
Virtually none of us are invited to the weddings (maybe the same as your office- 3 or 4 who are friends outside of work) and we throw all of these showers during the work day. I think it would be little odd to do an after work happy hour bridal shower in general, and especially if the vast majority of the attendees are not invitees.
But we still usually get food or do a pot luck (because apparently we like to eat) and pool resources (because we like to give gifts) to get a gift card or something off the registry (anything you want to donate, not set amounts). It's sort of the culture of my office that we share in one another's milestones (maybe because we just like parties??)
Everyone at work gets a shower. We have it in the conference room, meet for an hour or so and the bride to be opens gifts.
I would never expect to be invited to the wedding of someone I worked with even if there was a shower being held. Unless I was good friends with them.
They email them or print them and hand them out to everyone.
If I had to invite all of my coworkers - that would be 130+, not including guests. Over half of that typically give something, a contribution toward a large gift or their own at the work shower.
Agree with all PPs. Any work showers are done at work, usually in a conference room during the lunch hour. In all those situations, it was understood that there wasn't an invite to the "event" attached.
If I were a coworker, though, and was invited to something at someone's home or a restaurant or whatever and then didn't get an event invite, I'd be a little put off.