I'm quitting....POLL

kinmir30

my BC. After our little talk last week about BC and Non-existent sex drive....H and I think we have decided to have me quit using my BC. But I am so nervous. While the payoff will be nice (assuming that's the problem), I really really really don't want kids for at least 2 years. AT LEAST!

So if you were going to quit your BC what would you do instead? Please feel free to explain your reasoning below!

 

 

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kinmir30

LegalBritt:

I was so worried about getting pregnant when I first went off too but when I really paid attention to my ovulation cycle and how frequently we have sex, it occured to me that I'd actually have to make a concentrated effort TO get pregnant. I rarely pay attention any more and DH just pulls out when I think I'm ovulating or about to ovulate. Get "Taking Charge of your Fertility." That will help you chart your cycle. FYI---it took me about 3 months after I went off the pill to get regular again. I didn't even get a period for the first month. When I thought I might be ovulating we did other stuff besides vaginal sex. Now, I don't even care. I just tell him to pull out.

 

But he doesn't pull out when you think you are not ovulating? Did I understand that correctly?

 

...that would make things a lot easier.

niq24601

I don't know enough about the non-hormone BC alternatives for ladies, but if you two really don't want kids I wouldn't rely on the rhythm method. If it's that important he should be willing to use condoms.

Ofcourse I used condoms 100% of the time before W decided it was time to TTGKTFU so I didn't really have any "oh the sex is better without a condom I can't go back" thoughts. But I think that's sort of BS anyway (I mean sure it's better but not that much better).

kinmir30

niq24601:

I don't know enough about the non-hormone BC alternatives for ladies, but if you two really don't want kids I wouldn't rely on the rhythm method. If it's that important he should be willing to use condoms.

Ofcourse I used condoms 100% of the time before W decided it was time to TTGKTFU so I didn't really have any "oh the sex is better without a condom I can't go back" thoughts. But I think that's sort of BS anyway (I mean sure it's better but not that much better).

 

Oh he is definitely willing to use condoms......but I hate condoms, and kind of think I might have a mild allergy to them.....but of course it is an option. Just not my favorite. 

niq24601

kinmir30:

niq24601:

I don't know enough about the non-hormone BC alternatives for ladies, but if you two really don't want kids I wouldn't rely on the rhythm method. If it's that important he should be willing to use condoms.

Ofcourse I used condoms 100% of the time before W decided it was time to TTGKTFU so I didn't really have any "oh the sex is better without a condom I can't go back" thoughts. But I think that's sort of BS anyway (I mean sure it's better but not that much better).

 

Oh he is definitely willing to use condoms......but I hate condoms, and kind of think I might have a mild allergy to them.....but of course it is an option. Just not my favorite. 

Err, yeah, sorry, forgot that no condoms might also mean better sex for the ladies.

jennlin

niq24601:

Err, yeah, sorry, forgot that no condoms might also mean better sex for the ladies.

how sexist of you

it's totally better w/o....but i'm also allergic to latex..so i'm pretty sure that's why i like it w/o lol.

to answer OP...i chose rhythm/timing. we pulled out 90% of the time. we only didn't if i was on my last day of my period or something. 

Johlise

I temped, charted using Fertility Friend. Did the Charting to Avoid method. It was based on what I was comfortable with and never too close so that we still might have an oops baby. It worked well for us for almost 2 years! So it can be done

sarack

niq24601:

I don't know enough about the non-hormone BC alternatives for ladies, but if you two really don't want kids I wouldn't rely on the rhythm method. If it's that important he should be willing to use condoms.

this. exactly. 

niq24601:

Ofcourse I used condoms 100% of the time before W decided it was time to TTGKTFU so I didn't really have any "oh the sex is better without a condom I can't go back" thoughts. But I think that's sort of BS anyway (I mean sure it's better but not that much better).

you guys are TTGKTFU??? did i just miss this somewhere???

jennlin

FWIW, a friend of mine got pg using "pullout" twice. but she's also extremely extremely fertile.

(i call it POAP--pull out and pray)

uwhuskygirl

What about a copper IUD? Those don't have any hormones.

KST_

We rely on a combo of the rhythm method and male condoms. We've been using this since before we were married and have had no accidents.

They do make non-latex condoms and you can also look into spermicidal foams, etc.

kinmir30

uwhuskygirl:

What about a copper IUD? Those don't have any hormones.

 

I looked into that because it sounded like the best option......I had the mirena and it was HORRIBLE for me. Absolutely, positively hated it, so I am a little nervous about trying the copper one. Also, I read that it makes your periods heavier and causes a lot of cramping, and when I am not on BC, I already have hellish periods. I can't imagine something making that worse. 

However, I really wish that the copper iud would work for me! But we don't have health insurance  so it would be OOP and I don't think it's worth it if it didn't work out.

kinmir30

jennlin:

FWIW, a friend of mine got pg using "pullout" twice. but she's also extremely extremely fertile.

(i call it POAP--pull out and pray)

 

great! thanks for the encouragement!  

kinmir30

KST_:

We rely on a combo of the rhythm method and male condoms. We've been using this since before we were married and have had no accidents.

They do make non-latex condoms and you can also look into spermicidal foams, etc.

 

So I could use the pull out and a spermicide, as a double whammy? Hmm....do you buy these just at the drug store/walmart, etc.? Apparently, I am not up on all these "keep the babies away" tricks...

 

p.s. how do you quote more than one person in a post? .....

jennlin

kinmir30:

 

p.s. how do you quote more than one person in a post? .....

the easy way is to click quote on mulitple posts, then c&p the parts you want....or just write the code yourself...it's really simple...... quote user="username" in brackets...then /quote in brackets.

dreamwinds

kinmir30:

KST_:

We rely on a combo of the rhythm method and male condoms. We've been using this since before we were married and have had no accidents.

They do make non-latex condoms and you can also look into spermicidal foams, etc.

 

So I could use the pull out and a spermicide, as a double whammy? Hmm....do you buy these just at the drug store/walmart, etc.? Apparently, I am not up on all these "keep the babies away" tricks...

 

p.s. how do you quote more than one person in a post? .....

Randomly, when we use condoms... I think I'm allergic to the ones with spermicide so we don't use them anymore. It would make me itch something fierce.

niq24601

sarack:

niq24601:

Ofcourse I used condoms 100% of the time before W decided it was time to TTGKTFU so I didn't really have any "oh the sex is better without a condom I can't go back" thoughts. But I think that's sort of BS anyway (I mean sure it's better but not that much better).

you guys are TTGKTFU??? did i just miss this somewhere???

Nope, I didn't send a telegram to anyone. I guess it's not that we're trying, so much as we're NNTTGTFU (Not Not Trying To...). So far not much progress, but that's a little TMI for me to share at the moment .

jennlin

niq24601:

sarack:

you guys are TTGKTFU??? did i just miss this somewhere???

Nope, I didn't send a telegram to anyone. I guess it's not that we're trying, so much as we're NNTTGTFU (Not Not Trying To...). So far not much progress, but that's a little TMI for me to share at the moment .

gooooooooo niq!!!! bow-chicka-bow-wow!

picksthemusic

I chose SS because, really, you don't have to take BC, and you don't have to use condoms (unless you want to have sex during your O time).

Please check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I'll never go back to BC again - or an IUD for that matter.

ETA: This is NOT the Rhythm Method. It's getting to know your body and its signs to predict when you will ovulate and avoiding that time if you don't want to get pregnant. If you do it right, it's extremely effective.

jennlin

my 12th grade health teacher had a "joke"....

q: what do you call people who use the rhythm method to prevent pregnancy?

a: parents.

jennuinne

I hated BC, had no sex drive and we knew we would want kids sooner than later.  So, I stopped b/f the wedding (over a year ago).  At first we used condoms, although I really don't like them.  But for several months, I've been charting and we use nothing except around ovulation we either use condoms or avoid sex.  But, if we "accidentally" got pregnant, that'd be fine.  If I really didn't want to get pregnant, I'd stick to condoms.  I just don't want any more hormones.  I have friends who have IUDs and love it and others that just track their cycles. 

mrandmrsbrist

Charting is not the rhythm method and anyone who thinks it is should find themselves a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility, ASAP. That's just plain ignorance...

cheryl2006

I've been tempted for so long to try the FAM and use condoms (or just abstain) around ovulation. I only have 2 months left of my pills, so I need to decide soon. I'm just so nervous that I'd somehow accidentally become pregnant.