what is up with this RSVP?

creativejuices

I am hosting something this weekend and I have gotten this RSVP from 2 families.

"Wellll, that date looks open as of now. We *should* (emphasis on should) be able to come."

What does this mean? I plan on coming, but I'm keeping my options open in case something else comes along? One of these responses is from one of my favorite mom friends and it really irked me! Maybe I'm reading too much into it - but it hurt my feelings a little. You are either coming or you aren't. Of course, I understand with kids things happen and you might not be able to come last minute. But wording it like this and the delivery didn't imply that. 

People are weird.  

stefwhitney

Lol that's such a snobby thing to say. Are they known for being sarcastic? 

wejustwant2:)

That is incredibly rude, selfish and inconsiderate of them. That would irk me too!

Good Luck with your event this weekend anyways.

julie5220

You can thank Evite for legitimizing the "maybe" response.  Never before was it acceptable to RSVP like that.  Your assumption is exactly what it means.  And it is rude rude rude.  I'd rather someone cancel at the last minute, honestly. Anyone can have something urgent come up.   Maybe you can call them and say, "Great! I'm going to put you down as a yes, so just call if you can't make it." 

erosa

I would contact them I ask for a definite yes or no.  i hate when pple do that.  "I'll free as long as nothing better comes along"... F-U!

GatorWedsNole

You know your friend better than any of obviously - but am I the only on who interprets this as '"we'll def be there as long as something out of the ordinary (like bad cough or belly ache) comes up with one of the kids"?

TarHeels&Rebels

GatorWedsNole:

You know your friend better than any of obviously - but am I the only on who interprets this as '"we'll def be there as long as something out of the ordinary (like bad cough or belly ache) comes up with one of the kids"?

That was my thought.

wejustwant2:)

"Wellll, that date looks open as of now. We *should* (emphasis on should) be able to come."... 

 I wouldn't interpret this any other way...  with young children there is always the possibility of spending the night in the ER etc.  But the date "looking" open and we "should" be able to come is very sketchy.  

BTW - my sister also had this happen to her recently when she threw a "bouncy house" type party - a lot of parents didn't RSVP and some did the "We might be going to a ball game that day... we'll let you know later if we can make it" two days before!

GL!

julie5220

GatorWedsNole:

You know your friend better than any of obviously - but am I the only on who interprets this as '"we'll def be there as long as something out of the ordinary (like bad cough or belly ache) comes up with one of the kids"?

Doesn't that sort of go without saying when someone RSVPs 'yes', though?  Of course the 'yes' becomes a 'no' at the last minute if someone is sick. 

amandasw

julie5220:

GatorWedsNole:

You know your friend better than any of obviously - but am I the only on who interprets this as '"we'll def be there as long as something out of the ordinary (like bad cough or belly ache) comes up with one of the kids"?

Doesn't that sort of go without saying when someone RSVPs 'yes', though?  Of course the 'yes' becomes a 'no' at the last minute if someone is sick. 

exactly, otherwise everyone could only ever RSVP "maybe" to any event!