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Morning, how is everyone?
Ups? Downs?
QOTW: How did you give birth, what was the "thing" that helped you most in your recovery?
26: kahleorourke's (US) DD, 2009
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All is going well here!
Ups: LO has rolled over (front to back)!!
Downs: Shes not big on her car seat, she screams every time we put her in there!
QOTW:Csection - having to get up to deal with LO and the pup as DH had to be at work during the day!
Things are generally going pretty well. W starts nursery next week, and has his visit today. I get to be with him today, and he's excited, but I can't believe it. Here, nursery is 'school', so many of his friends are in uniform. How did 3 years go by so quickly?
Ups: W is excited about nursery and looking forward to it. M is growing, W is super.
Downs: M's sleep hasnt' been great recently, and we're not sure why. I think it may be a cold, but it's rough.
QOTW: I had a c-section with W, and was up within 12 hours. I moved around, like Mouse, and think that helped. I had a forceps delivery with M and actually found it harder in ways - I kept trying to sit on the floor to play wtih W - ouch! Going upstairs to the loo was also awkward. I think generally my recovery from my second birth was worse as although I had help in theory, I was doing more. So doing less helps?
Morning!
Ups: Still having lots of energy, sleeping well, and overall enjoying pregnancy. I feel really blessed! Oh, and my mom is going to be here in a month! I can't wait.
Downs: Other than the occasional inability to breathe and having difficulty getting off the couch there really aren't any downs at the moment.
QOTW: Haven't delivered yet, but I'm planning on going med-free and at the moment we are deciding between a homebirth or a natural hospital birth. I've been doing kegels to keep my pelvic floor strong after birth which my instructor swears by and also perinneal massage to decrease my chances of tearing...hopefully those things help with a smooth recovery. We shall see though!
W is doing well. He's all over the place and constantly trying to climb me just so I can pick him up and then put him down. It's exhausting, but cute at the same time. His sleep patterns have changed and since the H went out of town slightly after the sleep patterns changed, we haven't really figured out our new schedule yet. So, it's been a bit tiring.
QOTW:
I had a forceps-assisted delivery. Recovery really started to seem impossible for a while. What helped? Wearing cushioned shoes in the house. Our floors were so cold and so hard that I just couldn't stand/walk and without doing those things, there was no way I would ever recover. TBH, even though I was able to start walking for longer than 15 minutes after 6 weeks, and for up to 2 hours after 3 months, I just started to get to the point where I could walk around for the day without being in immense pain at night and we're at 10 months.
I had another appt last night with my OBGYN and he did an internal ultrasound to make sure I'm ovulating. Everything checked out fine with that, so combined with clear blood work and s/a, there doesn't seem to be anything obviously wrong. Which is good news.
He also walked through what our next steps could be, such as clomid, IUI, IVF, surgery. DH and I aren't sure we're ready for any of those yet, so I think we'll be continuing to try naturally until at least the end of the year, and then we can reassess.
I also started getting acupuncture last weekend, and she's recommended some additional herbs and vitamins. Hopefully that will help speed things along.
I think I just O'd, so moving into another 2ww. Maybe we'll just get lucky this cycle and not have to worry about all of the above!
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Good luck Sushi! I have unfortunately been there. We just went through IVF but neither of us seem to have anything wrong. Its really hard and frustrating. I'm here to talk if you ever want to.
Ups: I am feeling really good. We are getting closer to our next ultrasound on Oct 4. I get so nervous in between ultrasounds so I hope it hurries up!
Downs: Not too much to complain about really. Some nights I toss and turn a lot and others I sleep really soundly. Those toss and turn nights are really my only complaint.
Sushi, I'm glad everything came out OK with your blood work. Fingers crossed that this 2ww is your last!
Ups: Still feeling good, really. The baby has been moving more and more so H has been able to feel it too. On Friday, we find out the sex! I'm very excited about it. Oh, and I'm 21 weeks today. Whoo hoo!
Downs: I still feel tired and get overwhelmed easily with everything I have to do. I feel good relative to the first tri, but with everything on my plate, it'd help if I could stay awake past 8:30 or 9!
Ups: M was great this week while H was away. He loves school.
Downs: He was picked on by 3 older boys at recess last week, they took his shoes and hit him. They were punished, but the next day they were at it again. If it happens again this week, I'll have to have a meeting with the director.
QOTD: I wanted an epidural, but unfortunately they couldn't give it to me. It was hell, I had a tear and they had to use the vacuum. It was a painful recovery but I was out and about once released from hospital after 5 days. I think I had pain for about a month. I wish I knew what helps in recovery! Apparently there is a numbing spray in the US, I asked my gyno about it and he said they didn't have anything like that in Vietnam, but that I could do coke for the pain (I hope he was joking!)
Good luck Sushi!
Ups: He seems to be getting over the naughty phase pretty quickly. Yay! Because I was almost ready to go back to the doc for med for me again, I was ready to crack.
Downs: He has a cold so he has had a slight skin flare up (but still not as bad as before)
QOTD: I had a natural birth. They gave me gas and air (that does nothing, its a distraction) and took it away when I had to push. I did tear. I had second degree and vaginal wall tearing. What helped? I started at 35 weeks pg having red raspberry leaf tea capsules (and then had a 3 hour 7 minute labour, including delivering the placenta). I started with Arnica tablets within hours after having J and the most relief that I got was from putting coarse salt in a warm bath (but concentrated on the area where my stitches were) and sitting on it. OMW! I have never ever felt relief like that in my entire life.
Ups: Bean turned 3 on Saturday(!!!!) and we had a lovely party. Bean loves preschool! It only took a couple days for her to adjust to going and now she is excited to go every morning. Bug and I are enjoying some 'just us' time during the day, although she seems to nap for most of it.
Downs: Nothing major.
News: Bug has a daycare spot starting on the 1st. mixed feelings
QOTW: After the c/s, I basically just did what the nurses told me as far as getting up and walking around, and then when we got home, I just took it easy and didn't push myself. I did the things I needed to do, but I took my time and asked for help when I needed it.
After my VBAC, my ILs made me take the train up to their place (an hour away) the very next day, and I'm still angry about it, tbh. They should have come and picked me up. I had just given birth, ffs. That day was dreadful. The whole day. And after dinner when I said repeatedly that it was time to go, they just kept talking and offering to put on another pot of coffee. I was livid by the time we left. Other than that day, I just took it kind of easy and slow again and it was fine. I felt great after just a few days.
I really don't have any complaints about either recovery. The VBAC one went faster and I was able to do more right away, but the c/s one was fine as far as recoveries go.
FWIW, gas and air was more than just a distraction for me. I don't think it's great as a long-term solution to pain relief, but it worked fine for getting me just a little further.
Ups: I think we are done with baby food. It's a little inconvenient because I liked knowing exactly how much she was eating at least to some point, but she just won't take it or deal with it anymore so I'm embracing the ease of just using finger foods.
Downs: DH is gone away more than I expected. His schedule here is just...a little bit ridiculous. For how few games they have, the training is so intense and from what I'm learning this is the Japanese way. So I'm alone a lot with V. Twice this week I have found myself thinking '4 more hours, 3 more hours' counting down until her bedtime. I feel TERRIBLE about that.
QOTD: I had a vaginal delivery with a small episiotomy, 2 stiches. My recovery was very easy overall, some soreness starting the day after but I was out for walks within 24 hours of giving birth. I think the things that helped me most were 1) ice diapers, 2) witch hazel pads 3) drinking tons of water, 4) REST. Letting people do things for me, it's not easy for me, but that was crucial.
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Ups: Beth is in nursery school, and loving every minute.
Downs: She doesn't really nap at nursery school, so she comes home just exhausted. Poor thing.
QOTD: I had a forceps delivery too, and I can't take codine. So I was on paracetamol only. I think lots of water and rest helped a lot.
Good morning!
Wow, I have to say, these stories are freaking me out. As much as I'm really struggling with being pregnant right now, the thought of labour and delivery is absolutely terrifying.
Can I ask something? Did you have your SO in the room with you? I always thought I'd rather not (honestly, I do so much better on my own usually) but since we'll be here, no one else will be around (I always wanted my BF and Mom in the room) and that just seems kind of sad. What did you do and how did it go?
Good luck sushi, honestly, it happened right when I had given up so I'm really crossing my fingers for you.
I can't remember who said their son was bullied (sorry! can I use the pregnancy brain excuse?) but that is HORRIBLE. My brother was bullied through elementary school and it was so upsetting for everyone. I really hope you can get this sorted out soon. Hugs to your son...
Anyway, I'm feeling horrible. Honestly, I think this is my worst week yet. I am so tired and nauseated and so bored of feeling like this. I really can't believe my life came to such a screaching halt so quickly. I am just holding on until the 2nd trimester when everyone keeps promising it gets better.
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks, Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks
PLEASE don't be terrified! I know it's hard because so many people have a 'war story' from their labor and/or delivery. When I have talked with friends about my experience in detail OF COURSE I tell them honestly about the moments that were darkest and the pain was REALLY intense, but that's ok! You are pushing a human out of your body and it's not easy! But my recovery was not something that I think back on at all as difficult, and that's been the case for MANY women I know! I was sore and tired, but a few minutes after giving birth, after holding my baby, I was eating and eating and then Skyping with friends and family and such. Try not to fixate on the scary elements if you can, you want your mind to be as open as possible to what you are capable of!
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Pitt, for me labour was worse in my head and the build up was a lot worse than what the actual labour was. I am not saying it is a breeze, because it is hard work that is why its called labour, but a) just keep reminding yourself that it is just a few hours of your life b) millions of women have done this before and c) at the end you will get the best reward of your life and you will have a story to tell.
I had DH in the room with me, and I would not change it for anything. It was just DH and the midwife (until I hemorrhaged). DH was holding my one leg and the midwife the other while I was bearing down and he saw James coming out and neither him nor I regret that at all.
That breaks my heart for M. I am not even sure what I would do in a situation like this. I am sorry this is happening to M.
With Leo, I had back labor. Back labor felt like I had some one on each side of me, grabbing at my hips and ripping them apart. I was in labor for over 24 hours and like I said, I got the epidural. Once I had the epidural I felt nothing and labor and delivery were easy. Leo needed help getting out so they used the vacuum on him and I had a 2nd degree tear from the episiotomy. Recovery was pretty straight forward and I had no major issues.
With Jax, I had back labor again and I was in labor for 2 hours. It went so fast with him. Too fast lol! He was delivered naturally but I had no tears and no problems with his delivery. Weirdly though, this time around I seem to be having post partum bleeding a lot more and longer than I did with Leo. But, I think that may be partly because I am running after a toddler instead of chilling and resting.
I was just discussing this with two friends at lunch who both had babies in the last month. I had H with me the entire time - he even slept at the hospital for the entire stay. He stayed because he wanted to, but he didn't want to be in the delivery room, I would have forced him. No way I was going through that alone!
Anytime I hear the Ring of fire song, I think of giving birth!
Thanks for the well wishes about M's bullying. It sucks. He does not have the personality at all to be bullied, he is pretty tough. So far the school seems proactive about it.
I had DH in the room with me both times, barring a few minutes of getting me prepped in the OR.
I don't sugar coat my birth stories, especially my first. It was the worst pain of my life, hands down. But it was only three days. And yes, that's a long labor, but my daughter's been alive for more than 1000 days since then, and those days matter a lot more to me.
Things are going well, as far as we could tell from my appointment last week.
Ups: I'm almost at 9 weeks, getting oh so close to being done with the 1st trimester
Downs: Morning sickness still hasn't let up to much even though I'm on medication making most days not so fun
#1-BFP 08-22-09 ~ M/C 08-31-09 at 5 weeks 6 days
#2-BFP 08-6-11 ~ Due 04/18 ~ born via c-section April 22, 2012
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Happy Tuesday, everyone!
Sushi- thinking of you, and hoping that you very soon get your BFP!
Ups: 24 weeks today! Last Wed. I had my glucose test, and I passed. Hooray! We had an appointment last night with the OB. Everything looks great. She did a scan, and we watched him stuff his whole hand in his mouth- so cute
Downs: Leg cramps. I'm having a lot of trouble sleeping because of leg cramps.
QOTD: Well, haven't gotten to delivery yet. We actually brought this up with the doctor last night. I explained that I have a prolapsed disk, and am a little nervous about labor. She suggested that I go to a birthing clinic at around 34 weeks, they will help us make a decision.
Ups: Our AC is fixed.
Downs: It's still really hot out.
QOTD: Had a med-free birth with a vacuum for the last few pushes. The placenta didn't pass so I was knocked out to be cleaned out. Doh!
The thing that helped the most with recover was my kick ass DH who was a saint during the 3 weeks bed rest I had after I had DS.