WWYD? Mexico

jennuinne

My family has been planning a vacation ot Mexico for a while.  They already all have tickets (first class!) and are staying in my parents time share.  My parents will also probably pay for most of the food.  DH and I haven't bought tickets b/c he was looking for work and now he started a new job and probably can't take the time off.  I've already cleared my schedule.  DH says I should go w/o him.  It'll be my dad and step-mom, step-sister and her b/f and my brother.  I could afford it, but we certainly are don't have a lot of extra money and we should be saving and want to have a baby soon (was hoping this would be our last hurrah). 

So, WWYD?

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KST_

I'm all for moderation! So being all super-responsible would be to stay home, but that's no fun. Being super-irresponsible would be to splurge on first class and go! So I say, sit in coach alone but still go and be mid-sponsible Since it's mostly your family and your H okayed your solo trip, you should go. Good family bonding time...which seems harder to find as we're adults.

karimychel

How long is the planned trip?

Does your H intend to even ask if he can have time off? 

Can your H take any time off of work and perhaps go on part of the trip?

 

jennuinne

karimychel:

How long is the planned trip?

Does your H intend to even ask if he can have time off? 

Can your H take any time off of work and perhaps go on part of the trip?

 

They're going for a week.  He did ask for the time off and they acted sorta weird, said they'd see if they could work it out and then haven't said anything else about it in over a week.  No, if he can't go, he can't go at all.

kinmir30

Eek. This is a hard one. Honestly, I absolutely love vacationing with H. So I am not sure if I would actually enjoy myself if I wasn't with him. I think the whole time I would feel bad because I was enjoying myself in Mexico while he sits at home and works, so I wouldn't be entirely enjoying myself.

 

On top of that.....I can't see myself enjoying a vacay with just family, just because of my family dynamics. I would really need H to keep me grounded and sane.

 

I say, if you think you won't feel bad about H being at home and you think you would have a great time vacationing with family, then go for it. If you are similar to how I'd deal, then I'd stay home, even if it meant giving up time in Mexico...as hard as that may be. 

karimychel

I think I'd go on my own - based on the additional information you provided. 

jennuinne

kinmir30:

Eek. This is a hard one. Honestly, I absolutely love vacationing with H. So I am not sure if I would actually enjoy myself if I wasn't with him. I think the whole time I would feel bad because I was enjoying myself in Mexico while he sits at home and works, so I wouldn't be entirely enjoying myself.

 

On top of that.....I can't see myself enjoying a vacay with just family, just because of my family dynamics. I would really need H to keep me grounded and sane.

 

I say, if you think you won't feel bad about H being at home and you think you would have a great time vacationing with family, then go for it. If you are similar to how I'd deal, then I'd stay home, even if it meant giving up time in Mexico...as hard as that may be. 

This is my dilema.  I know it will be fun w/ DH and I will miss him if he doesn't come and feel guilty for going w/o him.  But, I do like my fam and will have fun w/ them too.  I had just planned on not going if DH didn't, but he's telling me I should, so I'm torn...  We could do a long weekend here maybe if I don't go...but he'd still have to get a few days off or move his schedule around (he has two days off a week, but they're not back to back).

jennlin

i would save the money...since your h can't get the time off, and you wanted one last hurrah before kids, maybe you can save that money/time off for something else, local/smaller and spend time with him.

jennuinne

jennlin:

i would save the money...since your h can't get the time off, and you wanted one last hurrah before kids, maybe you can save that money/time off for something else, local/smaller and spend time with him.

I was thinking about this.  Maybe Friday Harbor for a long weekend, and we could officially start trying...