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Confessions
I'm being a PW today. Even if no one else participates in this thread, I want to say some things...
- This afternoon when someone asked me "When are you going to have a baby?" I nearly started to cry.
- I am starting to get concerned that this (having a baby) is going to become a real issue in our relationship, since Jeff and I disagree on whether we are financially ready. I realize that it would be better if we had more money, but I think we will never feel 100% ready, and we will be ok. Plus both of our parents were dirt-poor when we were born and we both turned out fine. We have earning potential, it's not like we'll be stuck in grad school forever.
- Jeff's father just got promoted to VP of his very large department in a very large company, and I am insanely jealous. I truly regret the decision to go to grad school and wish I could go back in time and tell my college-aged self that all jobs effing suck, so I might as well go into engineering and be happy in my time off, spending all my money.
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WhyTF do people think it's okay to ask that kind of thing? It's very rude. I assume it's not a close friend, by the way you worded it. If it was a close friend, then I think it's okay for people to ask, but still!
And you're a smartypants, would you really have been happy just working now? I love school, and am so glad I went back to grad school. Maybe you just need to be out to be able to look back and appreciate the decision? I know I always expected to go to grad school eventually, but was really surprised by how unhappy and unfulfilled I felt at my after college jobs.
And one more...I'm sorry it's hard to get on the same page about when you're ready. I know it took a while for us to get on the same page about all our little steps, like when will we be ready to get a dog, get married, have a baby, shoot, even do the floors in the house. I'm probably the Jeff in my relationship, because my H is the one who is like, eh, the money will keep coming in, lets put this money somewhere else. It makes me nervous. Like he wants to be planning a month or so in Europe for when he has his sabbatical, and I'm terrified that I'll get laid off because I work for the government. Blech.
For my confession...I have a really hard time letting people do stuff for me (nice stuff). My friend really wanted me to have a baby shower so I said yes, but it was super hard for me to make my guest list, because I feel like it's an inconvenience for people. And I feel badly when a bunch of them aren't married yet, so it feels like I'm just inviting them to gift-giving events for me. Blech.
And my sister is driving me crazy, with what she's offered to do to help for the shower. We wanted to do an Evite to keep it easy, but she insisted that a printed invite is better because it's more formal, etc. Except then she didn't order enough, put herself (and only her #, not her email) for RSVP even though she's not the host, put the RSVP date for 2 days prior, and didn't ask the actual host AT ALL what she wanted on them. So now my friend is being a complete saint, but was asking my sister to please email people this weekend to see if they're coming (1 week out), and my sister passive aggressively sent the email last night. As in, 10 days prior to when she told them they had to RSVP. I'm seriously pissed off, and feeling like my friends are going to be annoyed with ME about it.
ETA: Sorry, this is much more of a vent than a confession. I'll add a confession.
Ha! Who's the PW now, Laura? Lol.
Okay, so H's parents didn't get an invite, and I assumed the worst of my sister, that she didn't send them one. She ordered 20. My list was 17, one for me is 18, and the host wanted 3. So, 21. My assumption since H's parents didn't get one is that my sister was like, I know they're coming, so she didn't send one to them.
I found out today that she DID send them one; the host's sister-in-law was the one who was left off.
But H's parents made such a huuuuuuuuuuuge deal about it that my mother sent me hers, and H and I just mailed it to them yesterday. It was seriously all she was talking about to us for 3 weeks.
So my confession is that I assume the absolute worst of my sister and didn't even try to ask her about it for 3 weeks, and I don't feel guilty about it.
Aww Mush, sorry about the baby shower! FWIW, I'm sure your friends don't feel like it's an inconvenience at ALL. I felt the same way about my bridal shower, so I totally get where you're coming from, but seriously most people either love showers, love you enough to want to attend even if they don't, or won't go. NBD!
I am a day late on this but wanted to jump in..
jlkdfjadslkfjak!!! EXCITING!!!!
My confessions:
i really dont want to have kids until i am like 35.
i feel extremely behind the other 27 year olds in the world.
i think i have serious seasonal depression.
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Laura- I know people say this all the time but inless you are super super rich I don't think you ever think that you are finanically ready. My confession, we are probably not finanical ready right now. I feel since I have become pregnant sh*t just keeps happening that drains our account. This stresses me out more then anything
Mush- I agree with the shower thing. Work throw me an awesome bridal shower not that long ago . They are wanting to throw me a baby shower since I don't have any family here. I feel bad and like gift grabby since they throw me on last April. I also don't like being the center of attention and get uncomfortable. My confession on this, I don;t really want a shower I just want the gifts so I don't have to buy so much stuff
I kind of agree with you, Laura. If a baby is on your radar, there's no real time when you can say you're 100% ready.
And Mush, if I for some strange reason get KU and my mother insists on throwing a baby shower, I'm just not going to get involved. At all. I'll just tell her to invite her family and friends and leave everything else alone. I HATE showers with a passion. If it's a shower for me, I feel all awkward. All the showers I've been to (in my mother's family) have been like gossipy, one-up-y sort of things. Ugh.
My confession:
I am terrified of my baking class tonight. It says that it requires a professional chef's uniform, but I'm afraid I'm going to be the only idiot wearing one. There's this "knife kit" that culinary majors get, but it was like $300 and I have 90% of the stuff in it, so I didn't get it, so I'm not bringing anything extra with me and I'm afraid we're going to be using stuff from it. AND I don't have a parking pass! BLARGH!!!! And my knife skills blow. Trav is a like a whiz with a knife and I'm not terrible. I can mince veggies and whatnot, but I cannot slice things to a uniform size for the life of me. Trav says I won't be cutting much in baking class, but you never know! Oh and I think I need to remove my nail polish and cut my nails, but I don't know if I'll have time. I should have done it yesterday, but I got my hair cut and then got caught up in Catching Fire and ugh!!!!!! This is too stressful for something I'm doing for fun.
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
Yay for compromise.
I confess:
I'm such a bag whore that the smell of new leather from my new purse really did make me feel better this morning.
I'm still barely talking to my husband. It's been a week. I need to just woman up, grow some balls and have it out with him and I don't want to do it because I get all worked up and will miss half of what I'm pissed about.
I hate the fact that I cannot beat my SIL in Words with Friends.
I have a friend like this and it KILLS me that I cannot beat him. And not only can I not beat him, but I lose by like 200 points.
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QofA - You'll probably be fine. I actually had a chef's kit until maybe 6 months ago, my sister gave it to me after she graduated culinary school. I totally would have given it to you! Darn!
Susie - I'm a bag wh0re too. Jeff convinced me not to buy the laptop/tote bag I wanted to get from the Coach Factory sale, but I definitely use purses as therapy. I hope things work out with your husband soon!
Re: Words with Friends--if it scores the same as Scrabble, use anagrammer.com You can put in all your tiles and it will give you all the best words. Plus it'll be your little secret and you'll beat your unbeatable friends.
My confession is that I am super thrilled to be sharing a hotel room with my brother and KU SIL for the conference this weekend because it is our anniversary and we will get TONS of alone time.
^the bazinga should be very obvious here^
TTC since 08/2010
Anovulatory since at least 12/2010 (probably longer, unDx)
Dx PCOS 3/2012
SA 5/25/12--normal
June 2012--50mg clomid+TI--BFN
July 2012--50mg clomid+Ovidrel+TI--BFN, lining at 5mm
August 2012--5mg femara+Ovidrel+TI
BLESS YOUR HEART!
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awww..Laura...good for you! The good news is that just by having these discussions, you're already preparing yourself.
my confession - I'm believe I'm quite proud of my pee in a drawer/closet/on passport story from this weekend. I know I should be ashamed, but I'm not. I get a good giggle every time I tell it. As long as my mother never finds out, I'm good.
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
I love sleeping alone.
I hate cuddling.
As f'd up as my life is right now, Im happy with who I am finally and that's better then all the mess Im in.
IUI #1 10/12/11 (Bravelle + HCG + Prometrium & acupuncture) = 10/26 BFP! Beta #1=250, Beta #2= 615. 1st u/s 11/8.
Hugs, Jessie. Hope it starts turning around soon.