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Re: Friday UO's/AW's/Vents/Confessions/whatever...
UO - I think if there's going to be student loan forgiveness programs, it should be based on income, not on profession. the people who are really struggling to pay are the ones who should be able to get assistance.
Another UO - I don't really get why everyone is judgey of smokers. Maybe it's because my husband is a smoker? But I just know the circumstances under which he started smoking, and I've seen him try time and time again to quit. it's an addiction just like anything else, so it's not fair to be judgmental about it.
AW - I don't have one.
Vent - I finally got up the nerve to go to the dentist about my tooth that's been bothering me, and they're closed. Why? because it's Friday. Why do businesses close on Friday? It's bad business.
Confession - I almost *almost* bought a bag from banana republic yesterday, even though we're not supposed to be spending right now. I could have gotten 35% off, plus $10 off reward from my cc, which would have made it only $130. So tempting. But I didn't do it.
Honestly I find being super judgey of or to hate smokers to be one of the most hypocritical things ever. When I hear someone go off on how dumb/terrible/gross, whatever the person is for doing it, I just think PLEASE, like you don't have a vice. You can dislike smoking all you want, but seriously back the fvck off the actual smoker.
UO- I dont like it when people throw the term alcoholic around. I don't think its fair to call someone that unless they really have problems with alcoholism. its a disease, and its real. maybe because my life has been affected by it, i dunno. when people use it as a derrogatory term it irritates me.
AW- This happened like two weeks ago but I still want to share because I never did. One of my clients did a job closeout review and said that I (by name) "perform flawlessly time and time again". YAY! Go me.
Vent- Its annoying when my boss asks me to document how much work I have booked through the end of the year and it ends up being over 2000 hours and there are only like 500 hours left in the year to bill. But they STILL decide we dont need to hire anyone.
Confession- Andys cousin just announced on FB that she is engaged and they didnt tell anyone first. I really dislike her fiance.
Whatever: I made the salted caramel shortbread bites from Pinterest last night and they taste really great but somehow I totally flopped at the caramel. Its fine when its in the fridge but as soon as it unchills a teeny bit, it turns into a melted pile of goop. Sigh.
UO: I am that person who judges smokers. *shrug* My father is a smoker, and I judge him too. Sure, I have my own vices, but they don't affect the health of those around me.
AW: Samantha's party tomorrow is going to rock.
Vent: See below.
Confession: I have been having 1 gourmet cupcake a day. I'm counting the WWPoints as best as I can, but I know in the end it's going to come back to haunt me on Sunday. And I'm OK with this.
Whatever: THIRTY FOUR DAYS UNTIL OUR GIRLS' WEEKEND IN PA!!!
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Once you put caramel in the fridge/freezer, the condensation automatically makes it gooey when you thaw. Add coco butter to your recipe. That seems to work for me on getting it to be firm.
UO- I try not to judge people, and I most certainly have my own problems, but the smokers I judge are the ones that don't care where they blow their smoke. I just feel like it's more than just a vice or an addiction when you're forcing others to be around it. If you're a smoker, fine. But, don't blow smoke in my kids face, or around pregnant women....and hey, when you see someone holding an asthma inhaler as they walk by you---move your smoke elsewhere. Not all smokers behave this way, but the ones that do.....I judge.
AW- I received a homemade card from some of the kids I used to babysit. It says, "You arr grate! We luve you!" .....so cute. (4-5 year olds.) It's on my fridge.
Vent- I took my dogs to the groomer today. One of my pups has a yeast infection, and some allergy problems. I just paid nearly $400 at the vet for pills, shampoo, and ointments to fix this. The groomer tells me this morning that a tsp of vinegar daily, and an anti-fungal human cream rubbed on once daily for 2 weeks will clear everything up. Vinegar and the cream total to be $23.52. AHHH!
Confession- My grandfather had a heart attack this morning. He's had SO many health problems recently, but his heart has always been strong. I'm completely terrified that he will pass away soon.
Whatever- I don't like being at home without my pups here. the end.
This. Everything about smoking disgusts me. My mom and sisters all smoke and I HATE it! Even if they don't smoke around him, all I can think of when they hold him is that all the residue is rubbing off on Weston. My mom said she was going to quit before Weston was born, and that never happened. I wish that if she won't quit for her own health, she would for the sake of her grandson.
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hmm thanks. the recipe said to let it cool in the fridge for a few hours and i left them in overnight, so maybe thats the issue.
i was also thinking that it said to heat to 230 degrees, which i did, but when i took it off the burner there was some undissolved sugar and i was afraid to cool/reheat so i just let it go. im thinking maybe i didnt let it get hot enough?
I never do it by temp, always by color and bubbles...So I'm not sure about that. As soon as it turns tan and has bubbles on top (sort of like how you know a pancake is done), take it off the heat. Then follow the recipe. Definitely don't leave it in the fridge over night.
Hope that helps!
UO: I hate reality TV
AW: My boss heavily complimented my work on the website I'm working on. Like, she loved it. It felt really good to get some appreciation for once. It's just too bad it doesn't happen more often.
Confession: I spend more time online than working now that I'm doing exclusively website work.
AW- Tomorrow Jay and I will have been together for 10 years. People tend to look down on couples who were "high school sweethearts" but I'm proud of us as a couple for being committed to each other when things were hard and for helping each other grow up into the adults we want to be.
Vent- The people in my courtroom go on and on during cases about trivial nothings, the judge chatters away with people and a large portion of our support staff is completely incompetent and everyone looks at me when we're running behind schedule every single day, ugh!
Confession- My cousin got married last weekend and no one in my family, including me, thinks she should have. I give her marriage no more than 3 years and that makes me sad because she's only 22. I could be wrong but they seem like a hot mess.
Whatever: I totally slacked off on Jay's anniversary gifts this year because of how busy we've been, yet I am still expecting an extremely thoughtful gift from him because I've done all the work for everything and he hasn't had to put in any effort for anything the past two months. He's getting a t-shirt and an IOU for a jersey of his choosing and he's gonna like it!
Yeah, I judge smokers, too. I used to smoke. I was able to quit pretty easy, too. But I know it's not easy for everyone.
I judge when I am walking by with my kid and a smoker blows smoke in our direction. I stopped smoking for a reason... If I wanted her to inhale smoke, I'd do it myself.
I said the other day I judge Adele in her smoking pics. I do because on her FB page she has had to cancel concerts due to a sore throat... Now I don't know if she really does smoke in real life or was just posing in those pics but if she is a smoker... You would think she would know better NOT to smoke as it can affect her voice. But hey. To each his own. Also, if she isn't a smoker and decided it would "poetic" or "glamourous" to pose with a cigarette then I really don't understand why she would do it.
Time for a confession:
SIL posted last night she thinks she could handle having 5 daughters. Pft. Girl can barely handle the 3 she has. Why does she think she could handle 5, who the hell knows.. And this is also coming from the same woman who doesn't care if her kids are screaming and throwing tantrums in nice restaurants. Yeah, I judge her, too.
Speaking of Restaurants:
I applaud the restaurants who are banning young children. I know not all children are misbehaved... or I should say not all children's parents are so lenient... but perhaps this is a wake up call to parents to do their jobs better. I know way too many kids who are disrespectful and have no regard for authority. I pray and hope that I can raise Evie well enough so she is never categorized as a brat.
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UO's/AW's/Vents/Confessions/whatever
UO- I agree with Ames- I like these programs but I worked for a non-profit for 5 years and didnt get sh*t forgiven. That should be written in there as well.
AW's- I am down 15lbs from prepregnancy
Vent- with that weight loss my body fat percentage is still insane... UGH.I think boobs shouldnt count in these measurements.
Confession- I really havent done *** today I need to but I dont feel like it.
You know, I probably came off pretty aggressive about being anti-smokers, 'cause I totally get being upset about this. Ya, thats totally rude. I guess I just take anti-smoker sentiment a bit personally since I used to smoke. But, I was always really conscience of where I would light up so as to be least offensive to non-smokers. I know not all smokers do that.
although, while we're on the subject, my AW is for my H who's now into the 2 month mark of quitting smoking. He's one of the one's who has had a VERY difficult time quitting, but I'm so proud of him for really sticking through it. I want him around for a long while, for me and for Phoenix, and smoking a pack and a half a day was not going to help make that happen.
just thought of an AW - a girl that I've recently become pretty good friends with told me the other day that she hopes her future children are as well behaved as Ellie. *swells with pride*
I agree, Stees. Once you've seen and been around people who are really clinically alcoholic, it definitely changes your perspective.
UO: I don't understand why people like Jersey Shore. I've never seen an episode but even watching the previews makes me uncomfortable. I don't see the entertainment in watching people act like drunken slutty idiots
AW: I had an awesome hour long massage yesterday. My neck and shoulders don't hurt for the first time in a month
Vent: I hate trying to be non-judgmental at work. I took care of this girl last week who was in the ER because she was pregnant and cramping, and she was open about the fact she did not want her baby. She got diagnosed with a threatened miscarriage and looked right at me and said "Oh that would be such a blessing if I miscarried." I mean, I know not everyone who is pregnant wants to be, but really? What kind of heartless beast says something like that?
Confession: I wish DH weren't back in school. I am proud of him for doing it, but right now I really need some time with him and between his week-long trip (which I also wish he hadn't gone on) and his class for the next two weeks, I can count on one hand the amount of hours we've spent together since before Labor Day. It really sucks.
Whatever: Our good friends who had a miscarriage right before our first one (and were incredible support people for me) delivered their first child on Tuesday via emergency c/s. He had some kind of complications and was flown to another hospital where he died Wednesday morning at 17 hours old. My heart is so incredibly broken for them.
I made a care package for her that I'm mailing today but I feel like nothing I do will ever be enough. It's truly awful.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
I have another Vent/Confession-
My oldest friend from high school just put this as her status on FB:
"Happily Married Husband and Wife Week - If your spouse is still your best friend, works extremely hard, has been with you through triumphs and tragedies, loves you when you're at your worst, and you are PROUD to be married, copy and paste this with the years you've been married..."
I think she's one of those people who boasts about a happy marriage but really isn't in one. Her husband works a lot of nights and has some anger issues (he once threw a beer bottle through dry wall in their house and tried to cover is by saying he was looking behind the wall at electrical stuff); she stays at home with their daughter all day, everyday and the only time they go anywhere is to their parent's houses. I think all of those things about mine and jay's relationship, I just feel like I need to post it on FB. Also, shouldn't every week be happily married husband and wife week or at least most weeks (I know we all have our bad weeks).
RE: your vent, I probably would have punched her in the face. Employment be damned.
Re: your friends, that is so heartbreaking. I will definitely say a prayer for them and their angel baby.
I totally agree with this. Kids in college would always joke around saying how they were alcoholics and it's just not a laughing matter. I think it has a lot to do with being affected by the real deal. The term is very commonly used for the wrong reasons. There is a big difference between enjoying drinking (how ever often it may be) and suffering from a disease. It bugs me too.
aaaaand that's what she said. :P
Confession/UO: I judge women who say things like, "I gained 60 pds when I was pregnant. I wanted cake, so I ate cake." FFS, take care of yourself and your unborn child. There is NO reason to gain that much weight, but don't let me hear you biitch when you can't lose it all after the fact. Also, I hate "elective c-sections." I understand c-sections are definitely necessary sometime - but if you're doing it by choice, you've lost a lot of my respect.
Oh - and I judge parents who let their little boys have mohawks. They just look like little douchebags.
And while I'm at it - people who are "surprised" by unplanned pregnancies. If you don't want to have a baby yet, double your efforts. Take the pill AND pull out or use condoms... don't just freak out about how screwed you are when you didn't do everything possible to prevent getting pregnant.
I judge women who DON'T gain weight during pregnancy. You're growing a human being, not competing in a beauty pageant. You're supposed to eat for both yourself and you're child... pregnancy is not a time for diets. You're not fat -- you're pregnant. Embrace it. And cravings happen for a reason -- your body needs what it is you want to eat for one reason or another. Denying your body, especially in such a delicate state, will probably come back to bite you in the arse.
FTR, I gained 30lbs when I was pregnant, and at the time it didn't bother me because you know what? I was pregnant. I was supposed to be gaining weight. Hell it didnt even bother me while I was nursing for those 7 months after. Only now, was Sam is turning 1, amd I really buckling down and finally getting my act together.
But I am in no way ashamed of what I have done, or would I judge any other mother who has gained due to her pregnancy.
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I 10000% agree. I am completely beside myself that I need to have one and am still holding out on that every-so-slight sliver of hope that Gabby will turn. Heck, I plan on asking the doc to verify she's still breech the second I get to the hospital. If she's not (& is head-down), I'm heading right back out that door.
Dx: Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism After 2 years TTC & failed IUs,we have our IVF baby born 9/24/11
LO#2 aka 'Miracle Baby' Orig. EDD= 9/28 EDD moved to 10/3/13
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
You are a VERY strong woman for not saying anything. I, on the other hand, would have totally told her off and may have even become physically violent with her. I get that it was an unplanned pregnancy but to HOPE your baby DIES ?!?!?!!? Fvcking cvnt.
Dx: Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism After 2 years TTC & failed IUs,we have our IVF baby born 9/24/11
LO#2 aka 'Miracle Baby' Orig. EDD= 9/28 EDD moved to 10/3/13
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
Oh goodness, I have something to say in regards to this. First off, I agree that being pregnant isn't an excuse to eat whatever you want. However, there IS a reason that you gain that much. I gained 55 lbs and good majority was swelling due to my blood pressure issues. I was so insanely swollen my skin looked like it was going to rip open.
Also, my son has a mohawk. That is how his hair is naturally growing in and he does NOT look like a little douchebag.
Yup, women should gain weight during their pregnancy. 30 pounds in normal pregnancy weight gain... 60 isn't. "Eating for two" is bull.... A pregnant woman only needs, what, an extra 300 calories a day? Not an entire second dietary intake. One can gain 30 pounds due to a pregnancy. A woman gains 60 pounds b/c she doesn't wactch what she eats. And just because I crave a big fat piece of chocolate cake every day, doesn't mean I'm going to eat it because "baby wants it, and dammit I'm pregnant I can do whatever I want." Choosing to not over indulge every time I want to is a healthier decision for both me and my unborn baby.
And I hate this whole "I'm fvcking pregnant and going to be pushing a human being out of my crotch, so I deserve whatever I want and fvck anyone who tells me I might be wrong." attitude that so many women seem to have.
All I'll say is that in central-PA monster-truck-loving county where I live... little boys don't just have mohawks because they grow in that way. It's a whole culture of douchebag here that love to shave mohawks on their little boys heads and let them run around with toy guns and kool-aid mustaches.
Nope. He looks freaking adorbs.
... because, ya know, toy guns and kool-aid mustaches are the eptiome of douchebag.
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