ok, i'm just gonna start by saying... i am so f-in turned off by him right now! who can be turned on by a little boy? not me.. i want a man, damn it!
this is what happened- so i quit my job about a month ago so that i can focus on school, i'm nearing the end of my education, so i'm taking extra classes and looking for internships, ect. our deal when we moved into our place was, he pays the bulk of the bills and i buy grocercies and my phone and car insurance (his parents still pay his).. well so i got a student loan check to help supliment my income that is no longer coming in.. plus i've been having problems with my teeth for about 2 years now- and i'm to the point that something HAD to be done. so thats a couple thousand dollars earmarked for them (just so i dont have to live in pain on Ibuprofen and anti-biotics anymore).
well he acts like we won the frekin lottery! he keeps trying to spend MY MONEY! he is irresponsible with money and that is why i handle the finances.. i cant even trust him to take care of his own vehicle! i f-in gave up! for 6 months i've been tellin him that he needs a tune-up, oil change, new fuel filter and tire rotation... every check i'de take what we needed for the bills, and leave him enough to get these things done, in 6 months, he's gotta a f-in oil change! thats it!! i'm like, dude you had $300, you got an oil change, thats $30... i'm not kidding.. 7 days later he would be broke! i'm like, "wtf did you do with $250 in 7 days that you have NOTHING to show for it???"
last weekend we went to the fair, and we blew through some money.. but it had been a while since we had done anything fun.. i mean you gotta pay yourself every now and then. then the same week, he wants a blue-ray player with wi-fi so we can watch netflix (which is good for us, bc we do watch ALOT of movies and the xbox crapped out.) but its $150.. i'm like, thats alot of money to spend on a whim. so i said, ok, how much do you have right now.. he gives me $40.. so i said ok. now we have both put money into this thing, right.. nope, he bitches that he spent all of his money on taking us to the fair.. and its not fair for me to take all of his money- yah.. are you kidding me? thats life, ***!!! he thinks bc he wants something he should just get it, without having to give up something!
so last night- he tells me that he owed his buddy $20 from last week and can he just pay him with some of my left over pain killers from my dental work.. i ofcourse said no.. he's like, "well i jsut need some help, why cant i ask my wife for help?" ummmm.. maybe bc a MAN SHOULDNT ASK HIS UNEMPLOYED WIFE FOR HELP!!! its disgusting! he f-in wined all night, like a little ***! then he suddenly had a terrible toothache that kept him up all night.. lol. even though, he wouldnt take any ibuprofen or numbing gel that i gave him... oh and then he ate 2 bagels and a push-up ice cream.. like really? its that bad, but the cold ice cream isnt bothering you? its that bad, but you can eat? its that bad but you dont want to use numbing gel? then i wake up in the middle of the night to him moving around downstairs.. like i'm an idiot, he was looking for my pain meds! i guess bc the sympanthy card didnt work.. idk. i could have really had a toothache, but it seems oftly convient.
hes a good guy, and i usually love him.. lol. but -A!!! here i am, trying to squirrel away money and just buy the essentials and trying to be responsible, trying to come up with ways to save and add money into our household and he's finding new ways to spend it!!! and then when he runs out of money, he doesnt see anything wrong with coming to me and asking for more- even though he has nothing to show for the cash he has already spent! i'm so sick of it! its time he man up, for real! you know, what mostly p++ses me off, is that i'm tired of being th only one to plan of even think about the long-term game! he doesnt care if we spend every dollar in the bank, bc when he runs out he'll just ask for more- like a little kid at the arcade, whose mommy gives him $10 and tells him to make it last.. but he just blows in it 10 minutes and doesnt care bc he'll just go ask mommy for more.. thats how i feel!
thank you for allowing me to vent.
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Maybe the OP was just really tired, or has pent up frustration since her H sleeps on the couch and jerks off instead of having sex with her?
he sleeps on the couch every night....
we have married for 2 1/2 months now and havent had sex for about 2 to 3 weeks.. mostly because i'm tired of always having to initiate it and i'm tired of fighting over his "lack of romantic libido".. (i told him that he thinks just cuz his *** is hard he gets turned on and that girls do not work that way. lol)
well for the last couple of weeks he's been falling asleep on the couch after i go to bed. at first he made it out like it was an accident, like he just fell alseep watching tv, but it has turned into every night. every night i wake up in the middle of the night, alone. i usually have to go to the bathroom and take the puppy outside, well then he wakes up when he hears me creeping around upstair and comes to bed, like nothing. i dont think anything fishy is up, he doesnt have a phone because i broke and he still hasnt gotten a new one, and he's not on the internet because i put a password on my laptop. (not because i am trying to stop him from looking at porn, just on my laptop! he got along just fine before me without a computer or internet in his apartment..lol. and if he wants to look at porn, he can go buy his own computer.)
but i do think he is staying up after i go to bed to jerk off.. although, i dont understand why he doesnt just come to bed and have real sex. so my question, should i be alarmed that he is purposely sleeping on the couch and chosing to jerk-off instead of sex everynight?
btw- this morning i rally had had enough, so i ignored him. lol i know- so mature, right? but i figure if he is going to ignore me at night, i'm going to ignore him in the morning. :P
Really, you're hoping that my husband hits me?
The trashiness just oozes from you. Please, keep it coming - it's fascinating.
don't you be worryin yer pretty little hed over tht may....you will defend you in curt iffin he dos it. she goonna be a laywer u nose.
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maybe next time he doesnt get her off because he is in such a hurry to be done with her....IF he gets off the couch..,.she should bit0ch smack him?
I can only imagine how totally f'in awesome her behavior will be in a courtroom someday if she becomes a lawyer, if this is how she answers a bunch of random internet strangers after airing her dirty laundry by her own choice. Can't really tell a judge that she hopes the judge's SO will b!tch slap her if she doesn't win her case. Well maybe she could, but that would probably quickly be the end of her legal career.
You mean the imaginary one in her mind?
Of course. I would certainly hope so, because if this is how she argues with internet strangers, I'd imagine the law career isn't going to go far.
I'm playing the scene in my head...
Judge: [does not rule in favor of Taaka's client]
Taaka: YOU DON'T KNOW ME OR MY LIFE!11!!!!111 I HOPE YOUR F'IN SPOUSE B!TCH SLAPS YOU!!!111!!1!! HOW DARE YOU DISAGREE WITH ME YOU F'IN JUDGE!!
In my head I'm seeing the role of Taaka as Reese Witherspoon's character in Legally Blonde, except she's all disheveled and hasn't showered in three days and is possibly missing a tooth. I'm starting to think the narcotic cough syrup I've been taking for bronchitis is making me a little too loopy today.
FUNNIEST. POST. EVER.
She sure sounds like shes a real big lawyer and stuff, makin lots of cashflow to make up for her drug dealer husband
so last night- he tells me that he owed his buddy $20 from last week and can he just pay him with some of my left over pain killers from my dental work..
Is this guy a doper? and has he got a drug problem???
Could very well be that is where the money is going.
Hey, TASSka, if yr lurking, only MEN are esquires, not women. Were you asleep when you were supposed to learn that in fifth grade?
whats funny, raw? is it funny when, out of frustration and aggrivation, a person posts a personal problem in an annoymous forum to gain perspective and possible widsom, only to have some person that takes it as a personal invitation to rip you and your life apart with snap judgements she made based on a few paragraphs, hastly written, about the events transpiring in only a weeks time?
"i hope the fair was worth it?" "i hope you are using birth control?" how does a person say something like that to someone she doesnt know? Maybride2, you dont know the things i've sacrificed for the last 2 years, to get to this point. you dont know how much money my husband makes our what we pay in bills, or what our bank accounts look like. who are you to dictate how someone should live?
some one said something about "argueing with strangers on the internet", obviously, i'm not trying to argue with anyone! i've had a pretty *** day, actually, on top of all the stress of my daily life, my marriage and the drama from a few snide, bitter-b*tches, my dog went missing. so thanks for that, really i didnt have enough to feel bad about today, ladies, thats classy. so, thats why i went through the troubles of deleting my post, but, thanks to IMO, who was kind enough to copy and repost it for me.. only furthering the "arguement".
also, i never said i was a lawyer or was intending to be a lawyer. there is quite a difference between studying law and practicing law. there are also, other applications of a law degree, then being a lawyer.. jsyk. i dont know who first said it.. but who did, you should get your facts straight, before posting things.
which leads me to my next point, i've reported this post, so you can delete it now, or you can wait for it to be deleted. its your choice.
in closing, yah, i've got problems and my life is not perfect, nor is my husband or marriage, we all know that. but whats your problem? yes, i said your husband should slap you, someone should.. any person who would take such pleasure in kicking someone while they are down, has something seriously, pathologically wrong with them.
oh and jsut to put it to rest- who ever said my husband was a drug dealer, you are so off base.. yes, money, goods or services in exchange for illegal sustances, is infact a drug deal. however, in this particular case, it was a discussion in the hypothetical sense and no such exchange ever took place. i was only upset that he had suggested it in the first place.
so once again ladies ( and i use the term loosely) thanks for the support and compassion. lol.
We know he can't come up with $20 to pay back his friend...
I love the Esp. part! too funny!
this was the best post in weeks thank you OP. It was great fun and you really should get yourself some professional help for yourself. Your marriage well, maybe if you get help for yourself you can see what your marriage really is, and the kind of man you are married to. Hoepfully if you are as wonderful as you think you are you can see what a mess you are in and act like an adult and get help for yourself.
You post about your F-d up situation and then you get angry for people calling the truth on it? You have posted a number of times about all the issues you have and then you get mad for people lumping them together? You complain one min,. and then you get angry at others for agreeing with you. You make a comment about your H and then people take it a step furthur and you get bitochy with them? You call people bitotch and then tell others they arent classy for doing the same?
You really are acting like a hypocrite among many other things, but I'm sure you won't be able to see that.
Maybe if you listened to people instead of getting so defensive, their adivce might help you. Again, i highly doubt it because you have this really f-d up idea of what a relationship is or what is normal in one.
I feel sorry for you and I hope that you get some help.
Your H used him to pay back that 20$ since you wouldn't give him the painkillers.
Taaka, do yourself and your H a favor and look up the drug statutes in your state. Where I am, passing a joint to a friend constitutes "distribution," so doling out prescription painkillers definitely qualifies.
Tarpon, in the US *all* attorneys are "Esquires." There's an "Esq." following my name 6 days a week, on average.
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The funniest part about her yelling "you don't know me!" to our responses is that we're only basing our opinion on what she's telling us. She herself says her husband is lazy, he spends her money, he's bad at communication, he avoids sex, she had to password protect her computer because he kept downloading porn on her laptop, he wanted to illegally pay off a friend with drugs and lied to her about a toothache to get drugs, and then snooped around looking for drugs when she was asleep . . .
But suddenly if we say he's a loser and she's an idiot for staying with him, we're complete b*tches who don't know her?
Larriassa, do yourself a favor and read things through before commenting. the act has to actually happen for it to have been a "crime taken place". its not distrobution, if it doesnt actually happen.
wow! you are a real peice of sh*t.
Taaka25- Someone seriously needs to wash your mouth out with soap. You came on here to ask for advice, just because you aren't getting the kind of advice you wanted doesn't mean you need to go crazy on everyone. We all understand it's your life, your relationship, ect... We are telling you what we would do.
It honestly sounds to me like you and your husband need to see a counseler about your issues (together and seperately).
Yes, you're a great representative of my chosen profession.
I hope you get disbarred the first year after your DH gets arrested and you're brought in as an accessory.
kurtiswife, you are a lawyer? really? i feel sorry for whomever hires you to rep them..lol first of all, you are probably as effective as council are you are at reading.. since i never said i was a lawyer or intended to be one, infact i said that i was not.. so, based on that, your point is moot. secondly, mrs. litigator, your read comp skills have failed you again.. arrested for what, exactly? state your case? whats your arguement, miss prosecution? idiot!!
allow me to quote myself:
money, goods or services in exchange for illegal sustances, is infact a drug deal. however, in this particular case, it was a discussion in the hypothetical sense and no such exchange ever took place. or ever even came close to it.. i believe i already stated that my answer to the hypothetical was no.
also to who ever said i "asked for advice" you should re-read the title, i didnt ask for advice.. i said i needed to vent, i.e. i was angry and upset and wrote unsavory things about my family member that i should not have. if you want to offer some kind of advice or feed back, thats fine... but i have never seen so many untruths departed from a single statement in my life! first someone keeps saying that i said i was a lawyer, that my husband made a 'drug deal'.... rlearn to read something in its entirety and comprehend it before you comment.
on another note, if that is your "brand of advice" then i dont think its a mistery why you are cruisin message boards looking for people to dictate and put down.. no seriously, if your real life friend came to you and said, "oh man, i dont know what to do about my teenage son, he's getting in trouble, he has a smart mouth, ect.." would you tell her that her kid is a "bad seed" or she should wash her hands of him, or tell her she is a bad mother?? no! you wouldnt! not unless you wanted to end the friendship and get slapped. you dont put down or trash talk someones family!! ever! even if they are your best friend since first grade, you dont trash her husband or desicions in life! so dont back peddle now, and call what you all have been doling out, advice.. its just plain meanness and self-rightiousness.. but hey, whatever makes you feel beter about your life
oh and thanks to whomever it was that brought up my old post, i had forgotten about that, its a good thing too. turns out, he really was just tired, having been working 6 sometimes 7 days a week.. and you know how that problem was solved.. haha it wasnt with negativety, we just changed our diet.... just like, today i finally broke down and talked to him (i found my dog too, thanks for asking.. because we know "cupcakes" is such a humanitarian) yah, turns out, he really did have a toothache and was just rooting around, looking for his asthma inhaler and letting the puppy outside to potty. btw, i believe i said i suspect him of faking the toothache, and honestly it bothered me most that i suspected it in the first place.. why am i so negative? why do i always suspect the worst in people?
i dont know why, but thanks to yall, i know i do not want to be so negative and nasty.. truth is, my H is awsome, the guy works 6 days a week, and comes home to rub my feet, he takes care of our dogs, helps around the house, he always listens when i talk, he teach my nephew guitar and practices football with him, most importantly, he never talks bad about me.. he just loves me and my family.
so thanks for demonizing me and him.. you've made me realize how far out of proportion this whole thing is.. and who the truly disgusting and pathetic are. i've read some of yalls other comments.. one person told a girl that her bf wasnt that into her bc he wanted to spend a holiday with his family.. i mean, who does that? end a relationship over something so simply resolvable? it really makes me question the source, is that how they resolve conflict in their families? idk, in my family, we get mad ( and i come to this board to say the knee-jerk reactions that i would never say out loud, bc i know it would hurt the person's feelings and i would regret it in the light of day... hence, the definition of "venting") but when the anger wears off and we have a chance to examine all angles, eventually we talk it out, we come to a comprise or resolution and then we let it go. i guess i was wrong in assuming that other rational people did the same... or maybe i was wrong in assuming i was speaking with rational people.
either way, i dont care! i'm gong to go snuggle with my dogs and work things out with my incredibly, understanding husband. dueces.
Listen children, do you hear that? Its the sound of Idioticus Trashtasticus changing it's tune.
Deny, deny,deny.
Also, I'm going to quote this 3 times because of the absolute pull-your-head-outta-your-ass truth it has within it.
what am in denial about cuppy cakes? i know how many painkillers i'm supposed to have, and they are all there. thats my evidence, what more does a person need? and if they werent there, well then i'de find some way to work it out.. thats what you do with family. i dont think your relationships will last for very long if you look at everyone's flaws as a deal breaker.. yah my H is bad with money, so i take almost his entire paycheck and give him an "allowence" I HATE IT!! ..(i never said he spent my money, i said he spent his money.. which is now my money.. get it?) but it keeps us from fighting every week.. no one is perfect and there is no problem that cant be resolved or worked on, if both parties are willing to do the work. thats not denial, hun.. its love.. and commitment. i hope you dont have teenage kids, god forbid... smh. you are a vile, digusting creature for making jokes at someone's dog getting taken!! god will get you for that! filthy filthy........
for the record.. my H works a physically demanding job, and i know that the he and the guys he works with get hurt on the job, often and they dont have a choice, but to come to in and work through the pain..as far as i know, he doesnt take anything other than Ibuprofen, but i also have no grand dellusions about how some other guys do it. they fall or hurt themselves and go to the doc, get meds so they can get through the day.. and i am also not ignorant to the fact that they trade meds like candy. sadly, too many doc's keep them on meds after they get hooked, because they never fully heal, not having the luxery of taking the time off.. even more tragically, this becomes a way of life, to get through the day, to earn a living. its an epidemic in our country right now, i dont jugde people for doing what they have to do to get by. i can understand living in pain and not having options to correct it, for the last 2 years i've lived on ibuprofen, sometimes i could take up to 3200mg a day (thats 16 tablets).. so no, i'm not going to enable someone if they have a habit, but i dont demonize or characterize them as "criminals" for being ill, either.
but hey, i we didnt come here to wax intellectually about society's alements in our country.. did we..? i'm curious, cuppy cakes, what has you cruisin the "sex and romance boards"?? i mean, we all clicked on it for a reason, didnt we? whats yours? LOL
i clicked here to make fun of you. worth it!
Of course it's not, but perhaps you'd do well to take your own advice and "read things through." I never said your husband had done it. I'm saying if he's considering doing it, he ought to rethink that idea. And that you should know that passing along prescription drugs, even without receiving actual compensation in return, likely constitutes the crime of distribution where you are, as it does where I am.
The fact that he'd even consider it should be of concern to you, as should the fact that he was rooting around looking for your scripts even after you said no. He's a sneak, a liar, and a potential thief and drug dealer... all according to your own account of the circumstances.
I don't believe for a second that you're in law school. There's no way you got through the reading comp portion of the LSAT. Or, for that matter, the essay.
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