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new hampshire
i'm bored 
so here's a poll of sorts.
how do you feel about living in NH? do you live here because you were raised here? because you have to? because you want to? because this is where you ended up? because all of your friends/family are here? why?
i grew up here- i was born in PA & moved here when i was 2- and i love it. i lived in NY during college & abroad for a while but i obviously came back & haven't left since. and my husband was born & raised here.
the thing is, is that i'm bored. i LOVE NH- seriously, but i feel like i need a change. i want to move somewhere completely different like california or portland or washington or hawaii (swoon) or SOMETHING! but i know that as a soon as we leave- i'd miss it. i love new england.
we want to get out of our condo and buy a house, but then i wonder, do i want to live here for the next 10+ years? my husband doesn't want to move simply because he's been with his company for 10 years- but i could move anywhere & still work for my company. blah. it's like a catch 22.
honestly i think i'll end up living here forever, which wouldn't be a bad thing, but sometimes i wish we could just up & go like so many other people seem to do.
what about you? do you want to stay or go? and if you want to go- where?
Re: new hampshire
it's funny you posted this today. Last night over dinner Mr. Feef and I were discussing some long term plans. We probably won't be ready to buy for about 4-5 years, but we actually discussed moving to the seacoast! We live in MA and I love Boston a LOT, but recently I feel like it might be time to go back home.
how do you feel about living in NH?
I like it a lot. ?I love New England. ?The only thing I dislike, and it's a biggie, is not having any family around. ?I really, really wish my IL's would move here (they would like to, but the housing market is even worse in Michigan right now and they would make crap on their house).
do you live here because you were raised here?
Nope. ?Born and raised on Long Island. ?There are lots of things I miss about NY, but there are TONS of things I don't miss. ?Plus, it's only a five hour drive if we want to go there.?
because you have to? because you want to? because this is where you ended up? because all of your friends/family are here? why?
Because I met DH on match.com and this is where he lived. ?I was laid off from my job and he had been at his job for years and loved it. ?So, I moved up here to be with him. ? We've talked about moving to Ann Arbor, MI, to be closer to his parents, but it's never been more than talk. ?Don't know if we'll ever move out of state, but I would be open to it.
how do you feel about living in NH? do you live here because you were raised here? because you have to? because you want to? because this is where you ended up? because all of your friends/family are here? why?
It is OK - I grew up in a town in MA bordering NH, so I practically grew up here anyways - we ended up here mainly because of my husband's jobs/business and location to family, I like the fact that the ocean and mountains are only an hour away from us...and I'll always consider myself a Massplant.
what about you? do you want to stay or go? and if you want to go- where?
We'll continue to live here...maybe if my FIL, and my parents were no longer alive, we would probably move in a heartbeat to someplace my husband could find better work, but family certainly holds us here...if we could live anywhere, we'd move to Italy...if we could afford it that is...
I love NH...I was born and raised on the seacoast. These days we live in the lakes region. I love it here...we are minutes from the mountains and the ocean. My parents and my DH's parents are about 45 minutes away from us here. I have wonderful friends who live in this state. And I love the small town feel you get no matter where you go in the state. Whenever I am in my favorite haunts either me or DH know people. And I know that I will never be one of those people who can just up and move somewhere. I am very grounded and feel like I have settled in nicely. Ask anyone who knows me...I really don't deal with change all that well!
I had the same itch to move somewhere & try something new. But I was living in NYC at the time. And my restlessness made me move to NH!
Attempt at short story: I was living in NYC for over 10 years, I loved it, but was getting antsy to make a change. But it was really difficult for me to just go & uproot myself when I had a great job, friends, apartment, etc.
But I started considering NH, where my family has spent summers, vacations, & holidays since I was born. I loved NH. But I worried, "What is a single 30-something going to do in NH?"
So one summer, I decided to post a profile on Match Dot Com in NH, thinking maybe I'll make some friends & see what being a single person here is like. To decide if maybe I really could move here. And I met my husband, he was born & raised here (so are his parents). So I got to leave NYC for NH for a good reason!
And I really love it here (but it is all so new to me, as a full time resident, & not just a vacationer.) Compared to NYC, it is so easy & relaxing to live here.
DH and I both grew up here and its OK. My family is from NH and DH's family is from MA. DH has lived all over the country and keeps coming back here. NH is home to us and we have talked about moving to somewhere like FL. I really wish I had the guts to just do it, but I have to say that family is what keeps us here. If we did not have a child, things would be different. It would be easier to just up and move across the country. But, I can't imagine raising children without having family around to share them with and make memories that they will remember. We will probably always live here. I don't dislike NH, but I don't think its that great either. I'm actually really kind of bored with NH! LOL! I love the snow and the winters, but thats about it. I'm more of a city girl. I would LOVE to live in NYC for awhile. But that probably won't happen in my lifetime! = )
My husband and I both grew up in upstate NY. (We didn't know each other growing up, though.) We both went to school in Boston, returned to NY after college, and ultimately moved here for my husband's job. We got married in NH and plan on staying here for a while. We like the seacoast area; it's a nice nitch accessible to everything. I do miss my family and where I grew up, though.