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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Updates?
how could i possibly take that the wrong way..... i would be offended if you said otherwise.
glad that the kid is doing well and figuring out her path. great news.
A little late to the party.........
T - 10 days until little no namer enters this world.
I'm getting nervous about my repeat c and crankier by the second. I almost changed the locks on DH yesterday when he and his buddy bottled the home brew cider in our basement and had sampled a bit too much while bottling. Normally I don't give two rats if he gets drunk on a random Sunday but 10 days from having a baby, having a cranky toddler who refused to nap all day, and he worked about 60 hours that week, leaving me to "work" just as long with weeman I was NOT amused.
Today I feel much better and have my to do list pretty much "to done" minus grocery stocking and lists for the toddler.
It was so easy having him, I had to put out a note: Dog food in tub in basement, feed 2x a day.
With Drew I have a "timeline" of what a typical day looks like, list of possible foods for breakfast, lunch, dinner, snack... lots of dumb stuff that I'm sure people will find with no problem, I over plan way too much!
I cant believe how close we are to the next wave of nestsie babies! wishing all the preggos lots of luck the next few weeks!
Thing 1 is in fifth grade and loving it. He is playing fall baseball instead of roller hockey and soccer this year since ya know, he is going to be an MLB star and all. He has developed a lovely pre-teen attitude that I am not feeling at all. The "girls are gross but really I think they are cute" phase has begun and it's fun to see him develop into a little man.
Thing 2 is so sweet when he is good but when he is bad, dear Lord, I want to sit in a corner, rock and cry. I want to say he is officially potty trained but he still has the occassional accident. And he has a thing with being naked when we are home. I just go with it... less laundry. He also started nursery school last week three full days a week, so far so good. I am hoping it brings him back to the sweet boy that -existed before I turned him into a spoiled brat monster this summer or so DH claims. I think the structure, routine, and discipline from someone other than mommy is what he needs. Oh and he is not getting dressed up for Halloween he told me, so a ghost t shirt it is because thats a battle not worth fighting.
Thing 3 is my sweet heaven sent angel (for now). i thank God every day she is such a pleasant, easy baby since I am usually being pulled the other direction by thing 2. She started cereal last week and loves it so much she shoves my hand with the spoon into her mouth. You can tell she doesn't miss many meals since she is weghing in at over 18 pounds already (JD's size at She is up to 6 oz every months old). She eats 6 oz every three hours and sleeps from 9-7 every night in her crib. She only does little twenty minute cat naps during the day but I will take it if she is going to sleep all night. She is startign to develop her own little personality and it's so cool to watch her grow and change. And of course, playing dress up is awesome!
We just celebrated five years married which seems crazy to me. We are heading to Mexico the end of November to celebrate. I too am struggling with the working full time thing. I was supposed to go back in August but here I am a month later and still at home. I said I am going to stay home as long as I can before they force me back, low and behold I got that dreaded email so tomorrow I have a meeting to discuss a part time option. I feel like in this economy I cant just turn down a job so I hope to go back part time until I breakdown and decide it's just not worth it. DH also started a new job last week so there is a lot of change on the Del family horizon.
Jonathan Dean 4.5.08
Anna Capri 5.4.11
Thanks! My FIL did just call and say, I got your copy of Drew's outline and I think it will really help us. LOL
He's just at such a BUSY age with only a small ability to communicate (milk, eat, show) so he gets frustrated quick and he's going to be so out of routine that I think I'm driving myself more nuts than needed. I know he'll be fine but I want to try to make life easier for both him and those that are taking care of him.
we're really enjoying our new house in Ardmore. We love it here, being able to walk everywhere but have the suburban lifestyle --- it is a perfect fit for us.
Oliver is running all over the place and now looks like a little boy vs. a baby. He starts at a new daycare on Monday (we're happy with the place he's at now, but the one is super close to our house and it's highly recommended). I'll be able to walk him to daycare in the mornings, on my way to the train -- which will give me an extra hour with him in the a.m.
re: working...I'll add to LD's discussion above, that it really took me 6-8 months until I finally accepted the fact I'm working full-time. I'd love to work 3 days/week but we can't afford it. I miss Oliver so much by the end of the week. It never gets easier, but I accept it more now than I did. DH and I are making a few adjustments to our schedule (like me waking up earlier in the a.m.) so I can maximize my time with Oliver on weekdays.
I signed up for the 1/2 marathon in November. I'm having a hard time finding time to run during the week, but I've been good about running on weekends. I'll have to wake up at 5am, or run at 8pm when the time comes to train more seriously.
Doctor sent me to triage to check my water and see if I was having any consistent contractions. It was a big fat no to both so they sent me home. Because I'm still in this "grey zone" at 35 weeks, they won't stop me if I start but they won't start me either. (which is ok with me)
At this rate, the kid is just going to fall out...
Lachute- love love Milo's jacket! Where did you find that?
My doctor said that past 34 weeks, the medicine that they would use to stop contractions/active labor might not be safe for baby. If the water bag does break, there is only so long that they will let you go (if not in active labor) for fear of infection.That's what happened with Bella last time.
Ideally, they want me to go the full 37+ weeks, like everyone else. But reaching 35+ weeks is huge for me and my history of delivering early so they are happy we got this far. I want to make to it to the end of the week at least. That's when I'll be 36 weeks.
Wow, everyone is so close and outside babies are getting so big!
Claire will be 3 months on Saturday and I'm starting back at work on Thursday (tear). My boss quit a couple days ago, perfect timing, ugh. My busy time is right around the corner and I'll be on my own. Last year I was working late and weekends and I don't know how I'll do it with Claire.
The "syndrome" issues haven't gone away. The last time to the Ped, she had us make a geneticist, cardiologist, physical therapist, and a neck xray appts. We spent 5 and a half hours at chop today, but fortunately everything came back normal. They want us to have additional chromosome testing done, but I really don't think it's necessary. She has torticollis, but the PT should get that straightened out.
Time at home was awesome; we were there for a month and then had to go back for a wedding last week. I really miss having family nearby and it will be even harder with Claire growing so fast.
DD: 6-24-11
EDD: 9-20-14
Max boy turns 1 next month. He walks everywhere, but runs when the freezer's open. He has an affinity for Dibs. I just love him so much. He's so cute these days and has a ton of new tricks.
But besides gloating I wanted to weigh in on the working mom thing. It's so hard. I have monthly breakdowns. Everyone says it's tough to balance but I think it's an understatement. It's a waterfall of "to do" at work followed by a waterfall of "to do" at home and it's a never ending cycle. No break. I feel like I'm not ever able to get anything done and all I want to do is spend quality time with my boys. It requires pep talks and a mentality of "if I'm going do work I'm going to do it and do it well". It also helps to have other working moms with young babies near by to commiserate with.
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I am in a place of trying to cut myself some slack. Not everything has to be perfect, and if the laundry doesn't get put away, whatever. Same goes for work, in the sense that I'm always killing myself to get there before 9. If I get there at 9:15, I still beat most people AND I've found time to vacuum. or nest. or whatever.
As an aside to this-DH is away for work. He left at 5 this morning and comes back Tuesday afternoon. He's been away since Max was born, but this is the longest. I'm a bit stressed about doing it all, but also really excited to spend lots of time with Max.
I feel like I gave up "perfect" a long time ago. It's just getting through the day at this point. I'm definitely delegating more and saying No, both at home and at work. But as a wife to someone who also has a demanding job, time-wise, I keep having this nagging thought that you really can't have two demanding/accelerating careers and raise a baby and stay mentally healthy. Maybe people can and I haven't found my way yet.
Late to the post but since I read all your updates its only fair to give my own, I suppose. After many posts citing the unnerving challenges of my high maintenance maiden, I have to say that she's slowly coming around to be an absolute joy. She's broadening her horizons to enjoy "pill-yo" which is obviously a pillow fight, obsessing over rocks (budding geologist?), reading books in her crib at night, "beeball"--watching baseball, and playing "freeze" where she shouts "stop" or "free" and you are to halt in your tracks. Other than keeping up with her, life has been pretty steady with no major changes. Im getting used to my new 'hood and am loving the right angles and drywall in my newly built house (novel idea right?!), but I miss wawa and any sort of walkability terribly.
Im with everyone else on hating working (even though my job is fine) but it helps to know that dd has such a good time at daycare so its not like Im abandoning her or shes being tortured while Im away, I am just sad that someone else is a major part of her day when I should be the one she spends her time with. I also have many working mom friends and that support and understanding helps as well. I go through phases where I feel blessed to have my own "life" outside of being a mom and phases where I cannot believe that I dare to consider myself a mom when I see my kid 2 hours a day. One positive though, I appreciate and enjoy every moment with DD because I know there are few and one day, way too soon, she will want to play with friends instead of me.