Holidays
BFP #1 3/23/12 ~ EDD 11/29/12 ~ M/C 5/20/12 ~ D&E 5/21/12
BFP #2 10/21/12 ~ EDD 7/4/13 ~ Team Pink!
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Potentially hosting my first Thanksgiving
Hi ladies! Traditionally we have had Thanksgiving dinner with DH's family on Thanksgiving Day and then celebrate with my family on the Sunday after Thanksgiving. For DH's family, dinner has always been at my in-laws house. They have a very large home and it can easily accommodate the 15 people in DH's family (parents, siblings, spouses. etc). My MIL is getting older and this past year on the 4th of July, I heard her tell my one SIL that she just didn't know how much longer she could host big holidays. On top of this, she's been having some stomach problems in last two months and has been having trouble eating. As a result, she's lost about 15 pounds. She's on medication now, but it makes her very tired. I honestly don't think she's going to want to try to host Thanksgiving this year, but I know she'll feel obligated. SIL #1 doesn't cook at all and doesn't have the room or furniture to accommodate everyone. SIL #2 has the space, but it's really spread out so we usually end up eating in three different rooms (Easter is usually there). That leaves me and DH. We don't have a large home, but we have a few folding tables, etc that could easily accommodate everyone. I could set those up in our living room. We would have to eat buffet style (we eat family style at MIL's), but honestly we do that at SIL #2's anyways. I know people will offer to bring food, etc so I'm not really worried about all the prep. I'm just concerned that people will complain that it's a little cramped (b/c it will be close quarters, but not unbearable IMO). Should I offer to host? Let SIL #2 offer? I just want to see the family together. We were unable to get together over Easter b/c of schedules and it really bothered DH.
BFP #1 3/23/12 ~ EDD 11/29/12 ~ M/C 5/20/12 ~ D&E 5/21/12
BFP #2 10/21/12 ~ EDD 7/4/13 ~ Team Pink!
Re: Potentially hosting my first Thanksgiving
If people complain it is cramped - they are pretty jerky!!! Seriously, you go through the work to clean your house, set up tables, cook...and someone is going to gripe about the space? Tell them to haul up their behind and cook for the next freaking holiday!
You seem so nice, are your ILS that rude?
If you really feel nobody will be comfortable, then having the dinner at MILs, but you / SILs cooking is also a good idea.
I don't think anyone would actually say anything. I just worry b/c our place is much smaller than my MIL's and SIL #2's. Also, I just found out that SIL #1 and her husband are going to be spending Thanksgiving with his family, so they are out of the mix. I just need to work up the courage to suggest having dinner here!
BFP #1 3/23/12 ~ EDD 11/29/12 ~ M/C 5/20/12 ~ D&E 5/21/12
BFP #2 10/21/12 ~ EDD 7/4/13 ~ Team Pink!
I would just suggest to MIL (alone) that if she isn't feeling up to Thanksgiving, you would be more than happy to host. Or come to her house and help her.
I wouldn't put too much pressure on her, but just make an offer. And don't be upset if they do/don't take you up on it.