clicky: current state of Seattle Nestie reproduction

uwhuskygirl

I've been seeing a lot of changing siggy's lately, so lets do a quick check in.
[Poll]

sarack

why didn't you answer yet??

uwhuskygirl

sarack:

why didn't you answer yet??

just did

sarack

uwhuskygirl:

sarack:

why didn't you answer yet??

just did

ok. good. because we all know your answer.. but i just wanted to make sure. i don't ever answer my own until a few people have.

jennlin

not me, but you might want to add NTNTGKTFUBNTTGTKFUE (not trying not to get ktfu but not trying to get KTFU either). i know someone on here who's that.

uwhuskygirl

jennlin:

not me, but you might want to add NTNTGKTFUBNTTGTKFUE (not trying not to get ktfu but not trying to get KTFU either). i know someone on here who's that.

dunzos

uwhuskygirl

sarack:

uwhuskygirl:

sarack:

why didn't you answer yet??

just did

ok. good. because we all know your answer.. but i just wanted to make sure. i don't ever answer my own until a few people have.

Ooh, someone out there shares my sentiments!

Whoooo are youuuuuu, Mysterious Nestie?!!!!! 

jennlin

uwhuskygirl:

sarack:

uwhuskygirl:

sarack:

why didn't you answer yet??

just did

ok. good. because we all know your answer.. but i just wanted to make sure. i don't ever answer my own until a few people have.

Ooh, someone out there shares my sentiments!

Whoooo are youuuuuu, Mysterious Nestie?!!!!! 

i *think* it's therickson. i think she doesn't want to have kids. but i'm not positive.

QuirkyIntellect

uwhuskygirl:

sarack:

uwhuskygirl:

sarack:

why didn't you answer yet??

just did

ok. good. because we all know your answer.. but i just wanted to make sure. i don't ever answer my own until a few people have.

Ooh, someone out there shares my sentiments!

Whoooo are youuuuuu, Mysterious Nestie?!!!!! 

That would be me. I've never been good with kids, I don't typically enjoy them, I don't want to give up what I have now, lots of health problems run in my family... the list runs on. Way more cons than pros, personally. 

uwhuskygirl

QuirkyIntellect:

That would be me. I've never been good with kids, I don't typically enjoy them, I don't want to give up what I have now, lots of health problems run in my family... the list runs on. Way more cons that pros, personally. 

Hi, friend! 

QuirkyIntellect

uwhuskygirl:

QuirkyIntellect:

That would be me. I've never been good with kids, I don't typically enjoy them, I don't want to give up what I have now, lots of health problems run in my family... the list runs on. Way more cons that pros, personally. 

Hi, friend! 

Hello! So, I haven't been on here long enough to know, and if it's too personal, completely fine. But when did you know you didn't want them? 

uwhuskygirl

QuirkyIntellect:

uwhuskygirl:

QuirkyIntellect:

That would be me. I've never been good with kids, I don't typically enjoy them, I don't want to give up what I have now, lots of health problems run in my family... the list runs on. Way more cons that pros, personally. 

Hi, friend! 

Hello! So, I haven't been on here long enough to know, and if it's too personal, completely fine. But when did you know you didn't want them? 

Even as a child I never really wanted kids of my own. I never played baby dolls or house when I was a kid. I'm totally happy being Auntie Husky. I'd rather spoil everyone else's kids, sugar them up and send them home.  

A lot of my reasons are the same as yours too.

Are you in the minority in your group of friends too? 

 

QuirkyIntellect

uwhuskygirl:

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Even as a child I never really wanted kids of my own. I never played baby dolls or house when I was a kid. I'm totally happy being Auntie Husky. I'd rather spoil everyone else's kids, sugar them up and send them home.  

A lot of my reasons are the same as yours too.

Are you in the minority in your group of friends too?  

Sounds like me too. Yeah, lots of my friends are starting families, or graduating college soon with babies on the brain. I just wonder what the hurry is. Not judging at all, I just think I'm missing that piece of DNA, lol! 

Temp222512500003295

I'm also in the never had kids, don't want kids camp.

amandasw

jennlin:

not me, but you might want to add NTNTGKTFUBNTTGTKFUE (not trying not to get ktfu but not trying to get KTFU either). i know someone on here who's that.

this option cracks me up

uwhuskygirl

QuirkyIntellect:

Sounds like me too. Yeah, lots of my friends are starting families, or graduating college soon with babies on the brain. I just wonder what the hurry is. Not judging at all, I just think I'm missing that piece of DNA, lol! 

Me too!

 

QuirkyIntellect

uwhuskygirl:

QuirkyIntellect:

Sounds like me too. Yeah, lots of my friends are starting families, or graduating college soon with babies on the brain. I just wonder what the hurry is. Not judging at all, I just think I'm missing that piece of DNA, lol! 

Me too!

 

Glad to know I'm not the only one.  

Lib-bride:I'm also in the never had kids, don't want kids camp.

Welcome to the club. 

Either of you feel frustrated by it sometimes? I get left out of family/friend baby things because I don't want any of my own. I don't see how my lack of desire to have kids affects my ability to be a good, happy-for-you friend.  

uwhuskygirl

QuirkyIntellect:

Either of you feel frustrated by it sometimes? I get left out of family/friend baby things because I don't want any of my own. I don't see how my lack of desire to have kids affects my ability to be a good, happy-for-you friend.  

I'm more annoyed with the comments of "when are you going to have kids?" or "you'll change your mind" 

amandasw

I'll add my own thoughts:

The thought of having kids right now absolutely terrifies me, no desire whatsoever - I like our freedom, we're still young etc.  However, my current thought on the matter is that someday I'll feel ready because I can't really imagine not having kids either.  So I'm hoping one day we'll wake up and feel like we want to have kids.

KST_

uwhuskygirl:

I'm more annoyed with the comments of "when are you going to have kids?" or "you'll change your mind" 

Totally agree with that, even if I'm not necessarily in your camp. I'd like to add, why is it that EVERYONE assumes it's A-OK to ask about your reproduction plans because you got married? I don't think it's cool...you don't know if the couple just had a miscarriage or found out they can't have children, period. Keep your laws off my uterus and keep your curiousity off my belly!

MiniSteph

I am trying but not actively. If that makes sense. So NTTGKTFU but trying at the same time....

Uh...what?! I'm confusing myself.

I want kids. There, hope that settles it. 

MiniSteph

KST_:

uwhuskygirl:

I'm more annoyed with the comments of "when are you going to have kids?" or "you'll change your mind" 

Totally agree with that, even if I'm not necessarily in your camp. I'd like to add, why is it that EVERYONE assumes it's A-OK to ask about your reproduction plans because you got married? I don't think it's cool...you don't know if the couple just had a miscarriage or found out they can't have children, period. Keep your laws off my uterus and keep your curiousity off my belly!

Exactly! You might as well just ask, so are you guys having sex to procreate? Cause that's basically what you are asking.

jennlin

amandasw:

I'll add my own thoughts:

The thought of having kids right now absolutely terrifies me, no desire whatsoever - I like our freedom, we're still young etc.  However, my current thought on the matter is that someday I'll feel ready because I can't really imagine not having kids either.  So I'm hoping one day we'll wake up and feel like we want to have kids.

the thought of having kids right now absolutely terrifies me, too. but i've always-always-always wanted to be a "young" mom (i wanted to start at 24).  my mom had my brother at 24, and coincidentally, MIL had her oldest (H) at 24 also. i love the age of them, and i think they are just the "perfect" age. young enough to play with their own kids, and still young enough where we don't need to "take care of them" as they age.

i know some "older" parents (36+ for their first) and i just never wanted that for myself. my mom's bff's H was "too tired" to play with their kids, and he rested a lot. a bff of mine (parents are in their 70's) and he's only in his late 20's...has to deal with aging parents/nursing homes, etc.

while i know having kids takes a lot of work and is a huge sacrifice of my personal life, i'd rather have the hard-work now and give up my social life rather than later. h and i feel the same when it comes to "work hard now, play later". by the time our kids are all grown up, we'll still be young enough to enjoy our life.

so...um..to end my rambling....having kids terrifies me too. most our closer friends don't have kids, but we wanted to "work" now and "play" later...which is why we decided to TTGKTFU.

mgoss228

I voted for No kids and waiting 2+ years.  I like to talk about future babies while I'm drinking, that's the only time I like thinking about children... which is all the more reason to wait.  I don't hate kids, but I'm not an OH EM GEE BABY person.  When people bring babies around me I usually don't try to hold them, but looking is nice

QuirkyIntellect

uwhuskygirl:

I'm more annoyed with the comments of "when are you going to have kids?" or "you'll change your mind" 

This. I will never get why people feel the need to say these things. H and I have been together since we were 16, when we were told "Don't you dare!" and when we got engaged at 19, the first question his mom asked (literally) was, "Is she pregnant?" And now, after we've both finished college and a year of being married, we haven't heard the end of "When are you guys going to 'settle down' and have kids?" "Why don't you want to have them?" "You're young, you'll change your mind." "Kids are great, not having them is selfish." "What are you so worried about? It's not a big deal." "You don't know what you're talking about. Just have them. Then you'll see." I've actually been told all of these things. Yeah, I'd rather not just throw caution to the wind, thanks. It terrifies me. H thinks he may want them "one day," but neither of us is really sure, and we don't talk about it much. When we told our family and friends we didn't want them, once we got past the above questions, they started to ask, "So what are you going to DO with yourselves?" Like just not having kids isn't an option and we have to have a "replacement" or "backup" plan. LOL

MiniSteph

QuirkyIntellect:

uwhuskygirl:

I'm more annoyed with the comments of "when are you going to have kids?" or "you'll change your mind" 

This. I will never get why people feel the need to say these things. H and I have been together since we were 16, when we were told "Don't you dare!" and when we got engaged at 19, the first question his mom asked (literally) was, "Is she pregnant?" And now, after we've both finished college and a year of being married, we haven't heard the end of "When are you guys going to 'settle down' and have kids?" "Why don't you want to have them?" "You're young, you'll change your mind." "Kids are great, not having them is selfish." "What are you so worried about? It's not a big deal." "You don't know what you're talking about. Just have them. Then you'll see." I've actually been told all of these things. Yeah, I'd rather not just throw caution to the wind, thanks. It terrifies me. H thinks he may want them "one day," but neither of us is really sure, and we don't talk about it much. When we told our family and friends we didn't want them, once we got past the above questions, they started to ask, "So what are you going to DO with yourselves?" Like just not having kids isn't an option and we have to have a "replacement" or "backup" plan. LOL

I hate it when people say that. How are you being selfish? Oy.

I used to be in the no kids for me ever camp. Clearly I have changed my mind. But that doesn't mean everyone is going to change their minds. If you don't ever want to have kids, I will support you. I won't tell you that you'll change your mind because you may never. 

Kids aren't for everyone and some people need to realize it.

Ciaram22

I almost clicked the had a child in the last 30 days but then I realized that Edmund is almost 5 months old. Having a baby this young terrified me but he has been so wonderful. We plan on having at least one more but not until Edmund's first 2 surgeries are out of the way.

CDMay2006

MiniSteph:

QuirkyIntellect:

"Kids are great, not having them is selfish." "What are you so worried about? It's not a big deal."

I hate it when people say that. How are you being selfish? Oy.

How could it be selfish to not have kids?  HAVING kids is selfish... there's nothing wrong with it, but really, people have kids because they want to, and doing so increases their family's use of natural resources, etc.  What a dumb thing to say to someone who has chosen not to reproduce!

And it's not a big deal?!  I do hear people say this, but it baffles me... everything about having a child is a big deal (in terms of physiology, psychology, social life, marriage/relationship, financially, environmentally, daily life... it changes everything).  And it's no one's business.

QuirkyIntellect

CDMay2006:

And it's not a big deal?!  I do hear people say this, but it baffles me... everything about having a child is a big deal (in terms of physiology, psychology, social life, marriage/relationship, financially, environmentally, daily life... it changes everything). And it's no one's business.

This. Thank you.

uwhuskygirl

QuirkyIntellect:

CDMay2006:

And it's not a big deal?!  I do hear people say this, but it baffles me... everything about having a child is a big deal (in terms of physiology, psychology, social life, marriage/relationship, financially, environmentally, daily life... it changes everything). And it's no one's business.

This. Thank you.

Hells to the yes.

jennlin

CDMay2006:

MiniSteph:

QuirkyIntellect:

"Kids are great, not having them is selfish." "What are you so worried about? It's not a big deal."

I hate it when people say that. How are you being selfish? Oy.

How could it be selfish to not have kids?  HAVING kids is selfish...

from the mommy-brained point of view...i do believe that not having kids is selfish....not that selfish is always a bad thing. the way i see it is that by having kids, you are choosing to share everything you own with someone else who cannot help themselves. when you do not have kids, everything that you earn is spent on yourself (unless you are heavy-donators). 

but like PP said..it's no ones business.