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Can we Trick or Treat but say no to candy?
Has this been asked already? Sorry if it has. My son is 17 months old and we don't give him candy but we have a costume for him and want to take him around but we don't want the candy. Is it rude to trick or treat but say "no candy, please" ?
Re: Can we Trick or Treat but say no to candy?
We took DD around when she was a little over 1 year. We only went to our neighbors and said we wanted to show her off (or introduce ourselves to the neighbors we didn't know).
Our block doesn't get a lot of trick-or-treaters, so they were happy to give us stuff (which we took), but if they had a baby-friendly choice (pretzels, chips) we would pick that option. Obviously, they knew that dd wasn't going to eat the snickers bars (or at least, I hope they knew we wouldn't give that to her!).
It would be extremely rude to something along the lines of "sorry but no candy please, can you give us something else?".
I would not understand the point of going to the door and saying "trick or treat" and then when they hand you candy to say "no candy please" leaving the homeowner there in an uncomfortable situation. I mean what are they supposed to say "okay then have a nice day".
Either accept the candy and eat it yourself/ throw it away or just stay home or go to visit family/friends who may accommodate your child.
I wouldn't, it is very odd. If you were dressing him up and bringing him to your families houses that is different.
Why not just let him go to some houses? You don't have to feed him all the candy. Give him a chocolate or two and give the rest away at work or something.
I wonder if I didn't explain myself well in the OP. I definitely don't want them to make any accommodations for my child. I do want to meet the neighbors and of course "join in the holiday cheer" type thing. I just feel bad taking candy people pay for and then throwing it away.
Taking it to work is a good idea!
DS was 22 months old last Halloween. We took him out, we got candy, he wasn't really aware of what was going on. He just knows he was getting a lot of attention.
Take the candy and give it away. Don't make a stance on "no candy, thanks!".
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I think this is a great idea!
We get kids in waves. We know that the youngest ones come early before the slightly older ones get off the bus. We always had kid friendly/non candy items for them or keep some on hand for them. I know people who give their neighbors candy or items to give to their kids who have dietary restrictions.
I do find the just going around and showing your kid off a bit odd.
What if you gave them something to fill the awkwardness?
Like say "No thanks, but here, DS has something to give you." I'm thinking it could be a package of homemade cookies or something similar.
This. I understand wanting to show your cutie off (every mother does), but make it comfortable for everyone.
Oh just go to a few neighbors and TOT and happily take what they give you, and MANY people no longer give candy, when DS was 22mos he even got Play-Doh and pretzels and Goldfish. Then sit at home and have him help give out candy. Or just walk around the neighborhood in a stroller, Cozy Coupe or wagon with him dressed up so you can see everyone but not go door to door.
This! I don't really get why you'd take a small child trick or treating....just let him hand out the candy...and come out early for pictures.
how about you say "Trick or treat" - take a little pice of candy - and then bring it to your work the next day or something...
i would think you were quite odd and annoying if you came to my door and then said "oh, no candy"... like WTF? you want me to get you something else? You just wanted to ring and make me get up to look at your kid? it's just odd.
This. What's the point of trick or treating if you don't want candy?
I agree that if you want to take him out then you should accept the candy and then donate it. Although the idea of sitting outside all dressed up is cute too!
One other suggestion that I have seen before is a bunch of families (or just 2 families) going around together. This way the little kids (under the age of 2 or so) can go to the door but when you are offered candy just have the older kids hold out their bags. This way the people giving candy still get to give some out to the older kids and you still get to show off your cutie pie!
Also this would allow for more eyes to watch the little ones which doesn't hurt
I agree. If it were a neighbor I was kind of close with, it would be fun seeing the baby dressed up & the no-candy request would be fine. But just random neighbors? It's weird & I promise it will be awkward. Even if you don't feel it, it will be for everyone else.