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watson wedding2011

So DH and I are thinking about doing thanksgiving at home this year with "our" family. I love the idea of not having to pack the kids up and go, I just feel like it's rude. We don't live far from our parents or grandparents for that matter. I want to cook and stuff, it's just that we are always gone for the holidays. I have a huge family and the holidays are the only time I see every one. I can wait until X-mas to see people that's not the issue. I just feel like there is no reason we shouldn't go be with the family.

cjcouple

Can you offer to host? Or maybe invite them all over for coffee and dessert after dinner so you can see them but still have your own family dinner

SueBear

Why don't you you see everyone?  Is it b/c they travel to your area for the holidays?  If so, then they'll probably be around the morning after Thanksgiving.  If you don't see them b/c nobody makes an effort, a) that's not your fault, and b) you can always see them some other time.

I think it's great you are making your own holiday at your house.  DH always went to his grandparents home (cousins, aunts, uncles, girlfriends and boyfriends) and when they passed, nobody came to his dad's home b/c they didn't have that tradition established. 

You can also go to someone's home for dessert, or invite people to your home for dessert.

EastCoastBride

There is absolutley nothing rude about wanting to stay home.  Honestly, I think toting the kids all over the place so that you can see "everyone" isn't fair to the KIDS.  Why don't they get a nice, relaxing holiday at home too? 

BlackDiamond3201

There is nothing wrong with wanting to stay home or deciding to do it.You can also host. Or create a new tradition. We go to a relatives and everyone brings a dish - granted it's about 100 people.

Disneygeek77

EastCoastBride:

There is absolutley nothing rude about wanting to stay home.  Honestly, I think toting the kids all over the place so that you can see "everyone" isn't fair to the KIDS.  Why don't they get a nice, relaxing holiday at home too? 

I completely agree with this and I am so grateful that my  parents never dragged us kids all over town to visit with family.  I have many fond memories of relaxing on Thnx morning and watching the parade, having our house smell like turkey, helping my mom make a few sides and just spending time with my parents and my siblings.  My parents made us kids the priority and I am so glad they did. 

AMJ6511

You can do whatever you want! If that sounds peaceful to you, then do it. Who cares if people think it's rude.