Oh FFS (work related)

mrsbecky07

wawajeanne:

I do judge deciding that the best way to balance your home life and your work life is just to throw all of your energy and time into your work life and hire people to run your home life - and then (and this is the real kicker) hold yourself up as a great example of somebody who's managed to find a balance.  That's not finding a balance.  That's choosing one over the other. 

 

Yeah I think this is exactly what bothered me about her comments. She didn't say, you know, I can't do it all, I have a LOT of help which makes it possible for me to work these hours etc, she said this is how I have it all (essentially.) But she doesn't.  She doesn't seem to have a family life - and if that's her choice, I think that's sad but "it is what it is" (that was for LLHR.)   But it's not a question of "how does she do it."  It's really clear how she does it. 

LoveLossHopeRepeat

mrsbecky07:

Yeah I think this is exactly what bothered me about her comments. She didn't say, you know, I can't do it all, I have a LOT of help which makes it possible for me to work these hours etc, she said this is how I have it all (essentially.) But she doesn't.  She doesn't seem to have a family life - and if that's her choice, I think that's sad but "it is what it is" (that was for LLHR.)   But it's not a question of "how does she do it."  It's really clear how she does it. 

Now that's just mean.

SarahKate31

kathrynmd:

agree this woman's behavior of giving out unsolicited parenting advice is obnoxious and if that's what we're all distressed about then, I'm on board, but I don't equate outsourcing some of the care of your kids to not raising them. 

I think what people are saying is that it's not that she's outsourcing some of the care of her kids, it's that she's outsourcing all of it (or nearly all of it).

wawajeanne:

I do judge deciding that the best way to balance your home life and your work life is just to throw all of your energy and time into your work life and hire people to run your home life - and then (and this is the real kicker) hold yourself up as a great example of somebody who's managed to find a balance.  That's not finding a balance.  That's choosing one over the other.

Absolutely agree with this. Her thinking she's a good example of balance is what is really obnoxious.

wawajeanne

Ragdolls:

If I knew how to insert a clip I'd put that B&W guy clapping here.  Woman, I knew I had a girl crush on you for good reason.

KathrynMD

FTR - after reading everyone's further responses and explanations, I don't feel defensive anymore.  I'm on board.