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My husband's exgirlfriend comes and stays with my inlaws. What should I do???
Well my husbands ex is actually his stepmothers niece by marriage...... why they were allowed to date is insane to me but we cant change that now. She lives in another state but when they broke up she decided to get knocked up by his friend who lives in the same town as we do. Recently the father of her child has taken her to court and got visitation so her aunt by marriage/ my husbands stepmother has let her stay at their house while she is in for the visitation every other weekend. Im at a loss for how to handle this my husband says well dad know if she is there i wont come over so he is not worried about it. I think crazy that he/ we should fell like we cant go to his dads because she is there, however i dont want to be there with her because thoughout our relationship she has tryed to cause trouble and contact my husband. One last bit of info his dad works out of town and is only in every other weekend and its the same weekend she is here so we havnt seen him in 6 week because of this. I need help with this one because I'd really just like to slap a ho...... but it a touchy situation because of his dad and stepmom.
Terri Beth Vaughn
Re: My husband's exgirlfriend comes and stays with my inlaws. What should I do???
Honestly, it seems to me as if your H's stepmom's loyalty is to her family, not to her husband's.
There is no reason that your H shouldn't have been allowed to date that girl. They aren't related by blood, and aren't even stepsiblings (which is legal for marriage as well, if a little too close for comfort).
If your H wants to see his dad, there is no reason you need to go to your ILS home. Invite your FIL over to your house. Even better, you can control the visit and maybe the stepMIL won't show up.
There is nothing you can do.
They are allowed to have and like whomever they want.
If you or your husband don't like it - don't go there when she is there.
Problem solved!
Your husband isn't interested in her and won't be going over there to see her. So what's the problem?
You certainly don't have to like her, but you're WAY too invested in her life. Who the hell cares who knocked her up and what she's up to lately? She's in your H's past and it seems like he's moved on. You should, too. She's no threat to you. Saying that you want to "slap a ho" when she's done nothing wrong to you just makes you sound like a wackjob.
If his dad complains that he doesn't see you guys enough, your H should just shrug and say, "Well, Dad, obviously I'm not going to your house if XGF is staying there." If he wants to get together with his parents, he can invite them to your home or meet them at a restaurant and make it clear that XGF is not invited.
It's their right to host whomever they want at their house. Likewise, it is your right and your H's right to avoid people that you don't like. You're turning this into a gigantic issue when it absolutely doesn't have to be. Chill out.
This. Who cares? He married you, not her. Why do you care? Why can't his dad leave his own house and come visit you guys? I don't get it.
Holy run on sentences....
Invite your FIL to your house.
Problem solved.
You seriously think this is a problem?
If you don't like the woman, stay away from her aunt's house when she's been INVITED to stay there. And have your FIL come over to your house; are you homeless or something?
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
You shouldn't feel like you can go over to their house anytime you please, anyway. It's THEIR house. Sometimes they're going to be busy. Sometimes they're going to have people over, and sometimes there will be people over who you don't like. Get over it. It's his stepmother's niece, of course she's going to help out her family no matter if they're her stepson's ex. It's not like she's even there all the time- it just sounds like the occasional weekend. Unless you spend 48 hours every weekend sitting in a living room with your FIL, I don't get how this is such a big deal. If you're so melodramatic you can't handle ever being in the same house his ex stepped foot in, then just invite your in-laws to your place instead of visiting them and be done with it.
You really need to stop caring or thinking twice about this woman. Your husband clearly doesn't have feelings for her or like her, so it's not like she's a threat. You're fabricating drama and tension where there doesn't need to be any.
Agreed.
"Hey FIL, we haven't seen you in a while, would you like to come over for dinner Saturday night?".
Problem solved.
Why do people make things so effin' complicated *glares at the lactose intolerant post on TIP*?
This seems like a better option than slap a ho.
Ah yes, the lactose intolerance post. I couldn't believe what a spoiled, entitled brat that one was.