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Party invite
Remember when I asked about having a birthday party as an adult? Well I decided to go for it and the party is actually this Friday night. I followed your advice to have DH send out the invite (it was an evite). The timing worked out that he sent it out while I was in Atlanta, so we talked on the phone about it, but I didn't actually see it til it was already sent.
My vision is a wine tasting kind of event - I have 15 bottles that i bought for this party. (8 diff kinds, 2 of all but 1 of them.) I was also hoping it would be a little nicer than the parties we normally throw - more button shirts and dresses than t-shirts and shorts. But, I don't think any of that exactly came across in the invite so I'm not sure what to do about it. What would you think if you read it? If people don't know there's wine tasting involved, well I guess they'll figure it out when they get there. But about the dressing up, should I email people to let them know, or just let it go? I will be wearing a dress regardless. It starts at 7 so maybe that's a clue?
Here's the invite he sent out:
So Leah is one decade closer to the forbidden hill of 40! So we're going to celebrate! There will be some eating of home-made hors d'oeuvres, drinking wines (that are probably younger than her) from different places Leah and I have been, and just good old-fashioned hangin' out. Plus, there will also be an event that Leah doesn't know about (shhhh!). This is a family party, so please feel free to bring loved ones (that includes kids and spouses, in case you were confused...hahaha).So don't miss out! Please RSVP ASAP.
Re: Party invite
1) I would let it go and 2) From the invite, no, I would not think to dress up.
ETA: I like the wine tasting aspect. It sounds like you're going to have a lot of fun.
Maybe he could have started all the sentences with So. (sorry, pet peeve)
My thought is, unfortunately, you're screwed. The fact that it's at 7 or that wine is mentioned are not reliable clues to people under 30 who live in Florida. In fact "black tie" wouldn't be a reliable clue to Floridians under 30. That gripe aside, he didn't make it clear that it was a nice event, and the "good old-fashioned hanging out" certainly didn't do the formality any favors.
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Yeah, good old-fashioned hangin' out plus kids.. I would def be in jeans, especially if that is the norm for your parties.
There's no way for you to do anything about the dressing up. I feel like it could be salvaged by DH sending out a follow-up email, but I can't actually envision any wording that wouldn't sound douchey.
Yeah I agree with the sounding douchey. I couldn't figure out how you would possibly say that.
As for kids - it will likely just be one baby who will be put to sleep in the guest room. We offered the same to other parents so they wouldn't have that excuse to flake out on us, but they are either getting babysitters or not coming. So yeah family party conveys something totally different than what I think this will be.
I guess that's what I get for asking DH to do the invite. But it did make me feel less weird than if I had sent it out myself. You win some, you lose some.
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Totally. I would too & I think he did it on purpose.
Yeah I think most guys are pretty clueless on that kind of stuff and unless you specifically told him to put a dress code on it and he didn't, I'd think he just didn't get it.
Yeah...I have to agree with LB and Pants. I don't think it was intentional. I think it was just him being a guy. For what it's worth, I thought the wording for the invite was cute. I chuckled a little when I read it.
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