Wedding Guest Etiquette - WWYD

TexasHarmony

DH and I received an invite to a fancy evening wedding.  He isn't going to be in town.  Would you:

Skip it

Go Alone

Take a friend - most likely a female mutual friend

I don't want to skip it, I don't want to go alone and I think it is rude to take someone else.  I will likely only know 1 other person at the wedding besides the bride.

Belle101781

I'd RSVP for 2 and take a friend, especially if I don't know anyone except the bride.

We've had plenty of parties/weddings/birthdays where people have rsvp'd for 2 and don't end up bringing their s/o, spouse and bring a friend.

fay07

If it were me, I'd send a nice gift and skip it.

kreeper611

Do you feel comfortable emailing the bride and asking if she minds you bringing a friend since your DH it OOT?

If not, send a gift and skip it.  I know I would never care if someone brought a friend instead of a SO, but some people would. 

TexasPaige

I would either go alone or skip it. I wouldn't be comfortable bringing a friend to a fancy evening wedding. I have no clue on the etiquette rules, but to me, the invite is intended to be for me and my husband, not me and whoever else I want to bring along to keep me company. 

PAGAS

I have been the plus one for a female friend three times, I don't see an issue with it.

Febbride04

Belle101781:

I'd RSVP for 2 and take a friend, especially if I don't know anyone except the bride.

We've had plenty of parties/weddings/birthdays where people have rsvp'd for 2 and don't end up bringing their s/o, spouse and bring a friend.

This.

*BlueAvocado*

I remember at least one or two of our guests RSVP-ing for 2 and bringing a friend - one's husband was away on deployment, the other had just gone through a breakup or something. It was not a big deal at all.

From the hosts' perspective - if it was between you coming with a friend or not coming at all - I'm sure they'd prefer to get to see you and meet your friend.

Personally, though - If my presence, or lack thereof, wouldn't be too heavily noted - I'd send a gift and skip it.

michellebelle

If you think it's rude to bring a friend, and you don't want to skip it - I want to ask - do you not want to skip it because you want to see her get married?  Or are you looking forward to the reception?

If it's just the ceremony, I'd RSVP that you and +1 are going to the ceremony but not the reception.

But like others said, you could inquire with the host and see if they would mind if your +1 was not your husband and go from there.

TexasHarmony

michellebelle:

If you think it's rude to bring a friend, and you don't want to skip it - I want to ask - do you not want to skip it because you want to see her get married?  Or are you looking forward to the reception?

If it's just the ceremony, I'd RSVP that you and +1 are going to the ceremony but not the reception.

But like others said, you could inquire with the host and see if they would mind if your +1 was not your husband and go from there.

I want to see her get married.  We used to work together and she is one of the nicest people I know and she's had some real crummy boyfriends in the past and she finally landed an amazing fellow.

She would notice if I wasn't there, but I don't know that it would be a big deal.  However, she brought us food/gifts for the kids after J was born, came to the sip 'n see, came to a couple of our parties. 

I will probably email her and let her know that K is out of town, but that I will come anyway and bring a friend if she doesn't mind.  If she does mind, then I'll come alone for the ceremony and head home.

Eboix518

TexasHarmony:

michellebelle:

If you think it's rude to bring a friend, and you don't want to skip it - I want to ask - do you not want to skip it because you want to see her get married?  Or are you looking forward to the reception?

If it's just the ceremony, I'd RSVP that you and +1 are going to the ceremony but not the reception.

But like others said, you could inquire with the host and see if they would mind if your +1 was not your husband and go from there.

I want to see her get married.  We used to work together and she is one of the nicest people I know and she's had some real crummy boyfriends in the past and she finally landed an amazing fellow.

She would notice if I wasn't there, but I don't know that it would be a big deal.  However, she brought us food/gifts for the kids after J was born, came to the sip 'n see, came to a couple of our parties. 

I will probably email her and let her know that K is out of town, but that I will come anyway and bring a friend if she doesn't mind.  If she does mind, then I'll come alone for the ceremony and head home.

 I had 2 friends do this at our wedding, they both asked me if it was ok and I totally did not mind. I have also been a plus one with another friend to her friends wedding

opallover

I *think* actual etiquette would be that the invitation is extended to whomever is on the invite. If it's "Mr and Mrs XYZ" then it's only for you and dh but if it's "XYZ and guest" then it's you and a friend.

I agree emailing her and asking ~ I wouldn't care if it were me but some people might. *shrug*

River Pestie

I love weddings, so I wouldn't want to skip it. I would bring a friend.