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bye bye sex
I have been dating my bf for a little over a year now and our sex life has really went down the drain. I am now pregnant and I asked him if that was affecting it at all; he answered no. I asked if he still finds me to be sexy ; he answered yes. But he never really gave me an answer to why it has been so infrequent. We have sex like twice a week and it does happen its usually in the morning and over really quick. So should I just give up because the couple minutes in the morning isn't worth getting up for , or can anybody give me some tips the aren't to riskay?
Re: bye bye sex
I don't get why everyone seems to think that 2-3x/week=no sex. WTF? We have sex the same amount and we're newlyweds! I mean, of course if it's not enough for one or both partners, then there needs to be communication about it, but seriously? I'm more concerned for the few people who post that haven't had sex at all in months.
OP, sit down and have this talk with him. How often do you think you should be having sex? How often does he think you should? Is there any compromise you can work out between these expectations? Or is it about the quality of sex? Do you want more foreplay? More orgasms? You can't expect him to be a mind reader. You have to tell him want you want so he can give it to you.
it is probably just a phase, it can pick back up , no worries. just keep being a pleasant person to be around. there is probably a deeper issue. are you both upset about the pregnancy ? was it unplanned? maybe he is a little sad about that. maybe he is thinking about the responsibility of becoming a dad. how far along are you? has his schedule or anything else changed?
i know sometimes if there is one thing going on I tend to talk about that alot and that can annoy my husband. for example when planning the wedding thats ALL I could seem to talk about. if he is stressing about the coming baby try not to have it be the only topic of convo.
these r just ideas i really dont know lol
that is not a small amount of sex to me, unless you used to do it way way more?
If the two times a week was as crappy and unfulfilling as the OP claims, I can't say I blame her for wanting it more. If twice weekly adds up to less than 10 minutes total I'd demand more too!
~ The Nestie formally known as MrsBrittany ~
What do you mean by "over really quick"? Do you mean that you don't get off? It seems that way, since it's not worth getting up for.
I know you'll hate this suggestion, but I'd advise breaking up with any guy who thinks your orgasm is optional.
If there is 1 thing I've learned in the past 4 years I've been with BF, it's that sex kind of ebbs and flows just like everything else. Sometimes it's really frequent, and sometimes not so much. Sometimes it's really awesome, and sometimes it's just mediocre. It's perfectly OK, and I find the more I worry about it, the worse the problem seems (when it's really not a problem to begin with). Things always seem to level back out.
If you really feel like he's not into it as much, and you're taking it personally, you need to have an honest conversation with him about it. You're obviously not OK with the way things are, so do something to change that.