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Morbid Talk
Have you thought about where you want to 'be' after you die? Do you want to be in the ground and since we're expats, where is that?
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Re: Morbid Talk
Have you thought about where you want to 'be' after you die? Do you want to be in the ground and since we're expats, where is that?
I've discussed this with DH and I told him I want to be creamated and then spread my ashes someplace nice. I told him don't have a funeral but instead take a vacation and spread me in paradise-like place.
We've talked about it way too much in most people's opinion!
We have two plans at the moment.
DH's plan: We become diamonds. Yes, you did read that correctly. They, now, can make you into a diamond which is just pressurised carbon. If DH dies young, he wants me to make hima diamond and wear him. I can't tell if he is kidding or not. When I die, I'll be come a diamond and our kids can take us to Africa and throw us into the sea.
Yes, we plan for DH to die first. He has the more stressful job, works longer hours, and doesn't excerise as much as me. Plus women tend to outlive me.
The other plan: DH is cremented and buried with me. If we move all over, I'll be buried near with my family.
It is still up in the air, but you can see -- we do think about this. But I do want to be buried or made into a diamond.
My grandparents lived across the street from a cementary... we use to walk the dogs there and play hide and seek. Death doesn't freak me out. Weird, I know!
I told H that I wanted to be stuffed and put in the corner as a decoration so that when my kids or grandkids bring home a bf/gf they can introduce them to mom/grandma in the corner! Then I said, since taxidermists don't usually stuff humans, that I would like to be cremated and spread in the ocean. However, H wants me to be buried so that he can be buried beside me (which poses a minor problem, i think, if I die young and he remarries...not sure new wife would appreciate that).
I've never heard of the diamond thing before...I think I would like to change my answer into making me a diamond! cool! do we get to pick the size and have it cut how we want?
ETA: Is that diamond thing even legit? It seems a little shady to me (maybe why I have never heard of it!)
No, the diamond this is legit. Right now it is fairly expensive. And yes, DH can have an odd since of humour. He would want me to wear him as a necklace and if he dies young, he wants me to find happiness and love again. He gets a kick out of me being on a date explaining I am a widow, but that I am wearing my deceased love. He is a bigger guy, 6'3 and 200 lbs so he figures he'd make a fairly large diamond.
I know, we are weird, but all kidding aside, it is something important to discuss.
I definitely want to have my organs donated and want to be buried. Other than that I haven't thought much about it. When I was married, XH said he definitely wanted to be buried in Israel. Perhaps it was telling that I did not and agreed to fly his body there to be buried and resume my life in the US-ha!
I've told DH I don't care where I'm buried. I know he wants to be buried in Israel, but since I'm not Jewish I can't be buried in a Jewish cemetary so we couldn't be next to each other. Not that it matters to me, but our kids may care.
If I go before my parents, I'd ask he consult with them as well.
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I have talked to DH about this. I want him and I to be cremated. I think it's easier, more practical in our situation, and more environmentally-friendly. But he says he wants to be buried in Italy. Even when I point out that this would require a lot of work and cost for me.
He doesn't even have that deep an attachment to his hometown. He hasn't lived there for over 12 years. And I sure as heck don't want to be buried there, but I want us to buried together. Like the pp said, hopefully we'll settle down somewhere soon and we can make that our home.....for all eternity.
ETA: Did anyone see that article on BBC today about NHS maybe paying for funerals if you donate organs? Interesting motivation discussion there.
I want any organs in good enough shape to be donated. Aside from the organs, I've told DH I'd prefer to be cremated and he can do what he likes with the ashes. Sprinkle me around, keep me on the mantle, whatever. DH has pretty much the same preferences, though he'd like to be sprinkled around rather than left on a shelf.
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DH and I have had a talk about it. I know he does not really want to be buried in the cemetery in his hometown, but beyond that, I do not know what his ultimate decision is.
I either want to be cremated or donated to a medical school for use as a cadaver. Yes, I know it sounds gross and horrid, but with the lack of cadavers, many doctors are learning on computer models and/or perfect plastic replicas. People are not perfect and doctors need to know that sometimes people don't follow the book.