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Holy babies, batman!
No, I'm not PG. . . BUT I feel like everyone around me is! Another friend just announced today that she is PG! I feel like all of our friends got married last year (us included, we were invited to 15 weddings in 2010), and they are all getting PG this year, and it scares me! When she told me, I had a minor freak-out because we are just not ready. Don't get me wrong, I'm excited for all of you ladies and all of my friends that are PG or TTC, but every time I hear an announcement I realize just how unprepared we are to start a family! Anyway, sorry for the vent, I'm just feeling more and more pressure to start TTC and it freaks me out! Am I crazy?
~Margaret (and Nick)~
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Re: Holy babies, batman!
Omggg I thought this was your baby announcement! Ack!
Anyway. You're not crazy, but I think you do need to realize that the "pressure" is probably in your head. Heck maybe it's better that you're not ready so you won't be stealing any of your friends baby thunder
You are in grad school, right? I think this makes things a little complicated because your non-higher education friends sort of got started on life a few years sooner than you, know what I mean? I think you're smart to wait until you are done with school, or at least until YOU are ready, and not judge your life schedule on everyone else
I definitely understand it can be frustrating though!
I actually feel like the same thing is happening to me. Of the other engineers that I work with (all men) 4 of them have pregnant wives or just had a baby. I am goin to a book club tonight and of the 7 other girls that will be there 4 are pregnant, and another is not coming because she just had her baby. DH's sister just recently announced that she is pregnant (oops, did not want kids, not married) and numerous people my age on facebook have just recently announced.
Before this I have only had a few friends with kids, and now it seems like this huge wave of everyone having kids. I am very excited for all of them and all of you girls that are pregnant! I just feel like I should be ready to have kids now like everyone else, and I just dont feel quite ready.
We are definitely in a position in life where we could provide for kids, no problem at all. And honestly, I dont really feel pressure to have kids now, I just feel selfish for not quite wanting kids yet, and worry that I will never really get that motherly instinct.
I know that this is easier said than done, but try to ignore pressure from anyone else. You are still really young, and I am sure that you want to finish school first. You will have kids when you are ready, and that will be the best thing for your kids.
Thanks ladies! I was definitely hyperventilating a bit at work when I found out a very good friend was PG this morning, it's just so much change at once! But I'm super excited to be a babysitter for a few more years and super excited for all of my friends that are going to be experiencing motherhood.
I will definitely finish my PhD before I even think about having kids. The plan is to be done in June. DH wants to start TTC then, but I really would like to get myself grounded in a real job before we start a family. Maybe I'll compromise with DH and get a puppy when I graduate. Or maybe I'll have baby fever by then :P
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I'm feeling totally the same way!!! I friend of mine from high school just had a baby and another friend just announced she was PG! I feel like baby fever is EVERYWHERE!!!! I would love to be able to get PG now but it just can't happen because we are totally NOT ready. But I suppose when are you really ready for a baby?
Don't worry, you are totally NOT alone!
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My friend once called this a "comparathon". When everyone is getting engaged, you feel like you need to be in a relationship. When everyone's getting married, you feel like you need to. And now it's mommyhood. The important thing is not to compare yourselves to anyone or any other couple. I know you know this already, but it's easy to get caught up in that feeling when everyone else around you is in one stage, and your not there yet. You will know when the time is right. I am feeling like you do...I want to be selfish for a little while longer and start trying next spring/summer at the earliest. You have to do what's best for you, no matter what's happening around you.
And Laurie made a great point, let all the experienced mommies do it first, so they can give you advice and handmedowns!!!!! HEHE