What do you call your MIL?

Bump Kathleen

Tell us: What do you call your mother-in-law?[Poll]

JNL$LSM

I call my MIL Mom, we started off bumpy but when she realized that I wanted to be a part of the family and not take her first born away from her, we got better. She invites (SP) my niece (DH and I have custofy of her and her brother) and myself to breakfast and out to eat etc. We have a really good relationship. However, I call my mother "Mommy." If I am talking about her I called her my Milwaukee Mom.

PnkBride

You left off another option. I call her what my kids call her. Before kids, I avoided calling her by name altogether.

Dragonfly08

If my kids are around, I call her Yia Yia, because that's what they call her.  If I'm speaking to her without the kids around (which is pretty much only we speak on the phone, since they live out of state so if I'm seeing them it means we're all staying in the ILs house together and it's unlikely that I'm there and the girls aren't!), I use her first name.

law67

When I'm with her I call her Ma, which is what my husband calls her. When referencing her in conversation I usually refer to her as DH's mom or by her first name.

ArtisticEngineer

When I first started dating my DH I called his mother by her last name "Mrs. -" After couple years of dating I started to call her by her first name. I'd never call her "mom" because my mom is the only "mom" to me. 

Sue_sue

I call her the Tenth Nazgul.

heartsandstars10

I call her by her name and H calls my mom by her name. No one will be called mom by me except my mom. H and MIL wanted me to call her mom. Sorry you are not my mom. Same way with our dads.

JoEsther

Sue_sue:

I call her the Tenth Nazgul.

Not a great relationship, huh?

Ilumine

You left off other.

 

I used to call he Ma, but over the course of our relationship and it's degradation, it's gone to:

Calling her Grammy when the kids are around.

Referencing her as DH's Mother or Your Mom (when talking to DH) or

Carol when speaking directly to her.

As a 40 year old woman, I interact with my own family and inlaws on a level of social equitabilty. Unless specifically asked to call them Mrs/Mrs Last Name, I will call them by their first name, just like I would in an office situation. My being married to their son/brother/nephew does not lessen or negate who I am as an adult.

Aiobheann

Left off other. I call her by her first name. As an adult, I expect to be treated as an adult and I treat others as adults-as in first names. When she isn't around I call her the woman that birthed my husband. He calls my mom, mom, even in front of his-which is rare since we don't have a relationship with his parents.

kriss08

Old Evil and she calls me a no good hussy so the feelings are neutral.

ms12345

You left off an option for "I don't really call her anything"! I picked the "calling her Mom" option but that's because that's where I think we're headed. I'd really like to call her Mom and my FIL Dad, not out of any disrespect for my parents but as a term of endearment for the ILs (who, despite a rocky start, have turned out to be wonderful!) I figure, I call DH's grandmother "Grandma", called his grandfather "Poppop" when he was alive, say "Aunt" and "Uncle" for his aunts and uncles...so why not Mom and Dad. They're family now too.

But as far as actually taking that plunge, I'm having a hard time. It's awkward for some reason. IL's have said "Hi it's Mom" or "Hi it's Dad" but they've also said their first names too. I think we'll have a final plunge soon though... since our relationship has dramatically improved, MIL especially has been making stronger and stronger hints that she wants to be called something LOL.

katarczyna

SS - I call her by her first name, but I would not consider us "close" by any stretch of the imagination.

DancingLikeTheCrackers17

I call her by her first name  or Momlastname.  She would love if I just called her mom, but that's not going to happen.  First, because she's not my mom (who I'm super close with) and second because the only reason she wants me to call her mom is because she's always wanted a daughter (had 2 sons) and so wants us to have a closer relationship than we actually do.

BowiesInSpace

XMIL

ShannersLA

I call my MIL by her first name.  She has pushed the whole, "Call me mom!" on me several times but I just can't do it.  We aren't close and even if we were, it just doesn't feel natural to me.  She isn't my "mom" and if she were, it'd be wierd that I am married to her son.  Another suggestion she had for me was to call her "Mom ____ (last name) ".  Right, because saying "mom" isn't strange enough for me.

TPINK6283

Her first name when talking to her or DH, MomMom when Gia is around.  What I call her when talking to my family isn't nice, but she doesn't deserve to be called anything nice because she a rotten c word to me!

ILikePineapples

None of the above, because I live in England, so I call her mum.  And no, to me it's not the same as mom, because that is actually what I call my own mother.

ChavayJakov

I call her and FIL by their first names unless we are around the kids (then it's Granny and Old Grouch - his choice, LOL).  It took 4 years of marriage before I was told to do that, however, so priorly I called them Mr. & Mrs. just as I had before I married their son ... to be fair, I only saw them once a year on a specific holiday.  And you know you don't use someone's name (even last name) that often while visiting.  One instance my MIL "heard" what I was calling her and hadn't realized before then...I was raised in the south by uber etiquette northerners, so it wasn't going to be something I switched unless asked.  She made a big deal about it, announcing to her husband, in front of everyone, that I called her Mrs. X...and then promptly told me to call them by their first names. 

sugarontop

On social media and email, when I'm responding to her, I will say mom. When I'm talking about her or trying to get her attention, I'll call her by her name. My husband calls my mom by her name as well.

Knats_Manushak

I call my MIL "mum." She's from canada and they (her and her family) use Mum. I call my mom "MaMa." I'm from armenia and we use mama instead of mom. 

Sue_sue

JoEsther:

Sue_sue:

I call her the Tenth Nazgul.

Not a great relationship, huh?

lol

meganyani

Sue_sue:

JoEsther:

Sue_sue:

I call her the Tenth Nazgul.

Not a great relationship, huh?

lol

 

Word. I call her "b!tchface" in conversations. To her face (which is rare since I avoid her at all costs), "HerName".

trigal

I call her by her first name, but we are not very close (so I didn't vote).  My mom is my mom.

annabelle.27

I don't call her anything.

 

onceuponadisaster

Sue_sue:

I call her the Tenth Nazgul.

 

ditto 

hellokittie

I call her the spawn of Satan in conversation, when I actually have to talk to her i call her by her first name. 

Buttercup619

First name.  Calling her anything else wouldn't feel natural to me.

ShadowAP

She wants me to call her "Mom Lastname" (I guess to differentiate her from my real mother), but I find it obnoxious to say and I don't like it.  I'd much prefer to just call her by her first name, and I slip it in every now and then, but I'm pretty sure she doesn't like it.  She doesn't view me as on equal footing with her - I'm "just a kid" - which bothers me to no end, so I pretty much insist on calling her by her first name and being treated like an equal.

yummymango

Other - I call her by her first name but we aren't all that close. She wants me to call her mom, I think, since she has a tendency to sign all her emails as "Mom2", but that isn't happening.