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Things are starting to get better for me!
I moved to the US 3.5 years ago to be with stbx. We have now been separated/going through a divorce for 4.5 months and things are changing super fast for me. Nothing happened during those 3.5 years but now it's changing and I haven't done anything really. 1st, I got a promotion at work. I am going to be doing something totally different (new position at my company) and it's going to be 10 times better than what I am doing now. Then, I got 'adopted' by a family here. I have 0 relatives now in the US but this family invited me to have dinner with them every Wednesday night. And they are also inviting me to family events. They are such nice people! I also want to say that they did not invite me because I was alone or divorcing. I share something special with one of their family members and they wanted us to meet. I am also making a ton of new friends.
I also decided not to engage with stbx anymore. We still have a lot to take care of but I finally realized I can't force him to be involved. If he doesn't want to be involved, that's not my problem anymore. The more I would try to have him understand that it was important he takes care of things, the more he would see me has the b!tchy wife always on his back no matter how nice I was about it. I hadn't talked to him in over a month and out of the blue, he sent me an email asking how I was doing. That's it. The old me would have mentioned issues to be taken care of. I just answered: I am doing good! It felt so good to type that. Just imagining his WTF face when he read that made my day. He either assumed I was unable to read my emails hence the silence or that I would write a long email with all the things that need to be addressed. Nope.
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