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Alanon - what to expect?
I'm dealing with a brother who has severe self-destructive tenancies. Drinking, getting DUIs, doing drugs. I know I can't do anything about it but it's so hard to watch someone slowly kill themselves and not know what to do to help. It's painful and half of my family is in denial. Does anyone know of an online support group I can join?
I am going to try and find an English speaking Alanon as I am in a French-speaking area. Has anyone watched a family member go through this and it ended up ok? I already lost a few friends to similar problems so I am basically preparing myself for the worst. I walk around with a constant knot in my stomach.
Re: Alanon - what to expect?
Is there a toll free number that's listed on the AlAnon website? You might try calling AA, also -- I'm pretty sure there's a number on their website, also, if all else fails and you can't find an English AlAnon meeting. GL.
Here you go---I hope this helps. It looks like the "how to find a meeting" link also includes many groups outside of the U.S.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/electronic-meetings
An Alonon meeting is rather anti-climatic and ordinary. Just go to a bunch and find a neighborhood and time that suites you. Really, it takes a it of tries to find a fit.
It's not magic. It's just support. And, oddly, it becomes support you give others, too. But you're not ready to think about that, yet.
There is support for you. And your situation. If you show you show up for it.
Im actually going through this with my brother- have been for about 5 years now and he's only 22- also has a 6 month old son. He's stopped the drugs by himself- which is awesome but the drinking is outta control & he harms himself- it's so hard to try and help someone who doesn't think they have a problem or who doesn't care.
I hope your brother gets the help he needs and knows he has a problem. I hope someday soon my brother can get to that place before something really bad happens to him. GL!
Hi there-I have a brother who is an addict and just relapsed. He got addicted to percocet and was in rehab last year. He has gout, so he started using to deal with that pain, then it wasn't long before he abused it. Anyway, this time my sister in law kicked him out so he's living at my parents, and hasn't seen their 1 year old son in about 3 weeks. He's been going to NarAnon meetings and a therapist, and I took him to one last week. I'd like to start going to a family support meeting because there's a lot about this situation I don't know how to deal with. It truly is a family disease, in that it affects everyone. I think I was more removed from it last year during his rehab, but now I feel that as a family we all need to understand it. It is painful. My brother has lost 2 jobs in the last year and is on the brink of losing his marriage. So, I can't tell you what AlAnon meetings are like but I think you're doing the right thing by trying to find one.