Weird Poll/ Question

kellandragon

I was over on S&R and the one girl was talking about not getting enough sex from her DH, I noticed she is probably one of the virgin brides they see so much of over there... Anyway, here's the question/ poll. Did you wait until you were married or at least engaged to have sex? If so do you regret XH/ STBX being your first?

kellandragon

I messed around before but XH was my first. If I think about it it kind of makes me mad because I gave something to him that I will never be able to give to anyone else... Yes I know how cheesy that sounds lol!

AmandaJordan1985

While I was never married, I lost it to my HS bf-and I'm glad it was him. He was very sweet and kind. I was 18 and in love and things were just as they should have been, I wouldn't have had it any other way.

NinjaPaants

I don't have the willpower for all that lol. I have a friend that just got married and they both waited. It would make for an interesting honeymoon I guess but I prefer to try it before I buy it.

PrettyInPearls23

No, XH wasn't my first. But even if he was, I wouldn't regret it...only because I have my handsome DS because of it.

AmandaJordan1985

PrettyInPearls23:

No, XH wasn't my first. But even if he was, I wouldn't regret it...only because I have my handsome DS because of it.

 

MintChocoChip

Nope, XH wasn't my first.  Lost it at 17. I wouldn't care though, it's not like it's sacred to me now.

River Pestie

Nope, X wasn't my first.

My first was my college BF... no regrets.

hainesherway

NinjaPaants:

I don't have the willpower for all that lol. I have a friend that just got married and they both waited. It would make for an interesting honeymoon I guess but I prefer to try it before I buy it.

I'm also a "try before you buy" kind of girl, LOL!

bluebirdphoto

hainesherway:

NinjaPaants:

I don't have the willpower for all that lol. I have a friend that just got married and they both waited. It would make for an interesting honeymoon I guess but I prefer to try it before I buy it.

I'm also a "try before you buy" kind of girl, LOL!

Me too! Sexual compatibility is so important to me I would hate to have that issue after getting married... but a friend of mine did wait and it seems to be smooth sailing, so to each his own!

marigoldgirl44

XH was my first and I actually found myself wanting to know what it would be like to be with someone else. Now I know If my XH was not an abusive A** then maybe I would not have felt this way. I did find out with XBF that there is a big difference between good and great. I will be trying before I buy always, now that I know there is a difference.

silly.goose

I wasn't saving myself for the person I married, but XH did end up being my first (I hadn't dated much before him) and I was his.  I don't regret it one bit.

kellandragon

I should mention my views changed big time lol! I was young and had no clue. Things are different now. I had my fun after my divorce, I guess I just feel a little bitter because at that point in time he knew what that meant to me and I found out he was cheating the whole time...

becwheat

I waited until I was at an age where I felt ready (20) in a committed, loving relationship with a man that repected me and I trusted. I have no regrets. He was a virgin too, but more than that neither of us to this day have never disrespected one another. We grew apart and it was sad, but it was still a beautiful relationship.

achase123

XH was not my first.  I had several BFs before him including one long-term relationship that lasted five years. 

Honestly, XH was and still is the best I've ever had.  That was the only thing that was good in our relationship so at least I'll still remember that part fondly!

OnlyaFool

No, I didn't wait until I was engaged/married. (And my XH was NOT my first.)

My first was in college, and he was really cute and sweet, but he always made me put the condom on, then he'd go to great lengths to make sure I didn't see his d--k after we were done.

haha.

ButternutSquash

I was 37 when I got married. My husband was not my first lover.

HoolyGo

My STBXH was not my first and I'm glad he wasn't. If he was, I probably would have thought that the direction our sex life took was completely normal because I wouldn't have had anything else to reference. When my STBXH tried to blame our sex problems on me I knew the thing he said weren't true -- I'm not sure I would have known that if he had been my first. 

kjewell

I didn't wait until I was married/engaged but H was my first.  I do wish I had "sown my wild oats" a little before but he was a great person to have as my first.  Very sweet and concerned about hurting me and was willing to go as slowly as I needed.

southsam

Last day of 10th grade-- I was 16.  My xh wasn't my first.