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S/O Christmas- Christmas wish lists?
Do you make one for yourself? Do you ask your DH or family members to provide one?
I absolutely hate making a Christmas list and DH's family always insists on one. If someone wants to buy me a gift I think that it should be something they want me to have, not something I told them to buy. Maybe it's just me.
I don't ask DH for a list. I usually have several things in mind just from hearing him talk about stuff he would like.
Re: S/O Christmas- Christmas wish lists?
I've had an amazon wishlist since the late 90s.
I couldn't care less if someone bought something off of it or not.
But it makes it easy on folks to not have to try to think of something if they don't already have ideas. And if they don't have my address handy they can just ship to whatever address I have in there, which is also convenient for out of town family who want to send a gift, and most of my family members are Amazon prime members because we all live in other cities, so the free shipping helps too.
I'm not one who talks about things i want that much (I am that annoying person who will just go get it if I want it) so it's hard for people to think of ideas for me.
PS - I do ask my sister in law to maintain a wishlist for my niece and nephew because it's hard to know what they already have or don't have. And for others for Christmas in particular, I will ask them to let me know if there is something in particular they want by November 1st. Otherwise they run the risk of getting a decorative sweater that I WILL expect them to wear. ;-) (PS - i never get that... but it's a fun threat).
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I also have an Amazon wish list. I don't expect people to buy off it, it's more to keep organized with things I want to buy myself eventually or books I want to read. If people buy off it, awesome.
We've always made lists in our house. Growing up, I remember going through the big JCPenny catalog and marking all the clothes I liked and sometimes the same with the Toys R Us catalog. My mom would distribute this to the grandparents.
Now, they didnt always go by the list, but it gave them ideas of what we liked and they knew they could get us something we wanted.
I still make my mom a list. She will try to find a few things that were her idea but she would rather get me something she knows I want/need than waste her money on a bunch of things she hopes I like.
The first couple of years DH and I were dating and even the first Christmas, my MIL did not ask for lists so I did not provide them. This did not turn out so well. She tried to buy me clothes and for the most part, it was not good. She has started asking for lists more lately and I'm happy to provide one. As with my mom, she doesnt just follow that but at least she knows what I like and doesnt buy me clothes she would wear.
I don't see what the big deal is about people wanting a list. Some people just aren't good at picking out unique and special gifts, some people are. Sometimes you arent around someone enough to know what they need/want. To me, its just them saying that they want to get you something you really want... maybe something you wouldnt buy yourself.
At this point in my life, I prefer lists. It makes life easier to buy for others and it saves me from getting stuff I don't want or need. For example, I am trying to eliminate sulfates & parabens from my lotions, soaps, etc. So a list saves me from getting the well-intentioned Bath & Body stuff versus me being able to specify what I do want. I have a lot of kitchen gadgets/supplies already but a SIL who knows I love to bake but doesn't know I research all my gadgets before buying may buy me something I already have or a different version of what I want. I am also trying to buy Made in the USA only, so that also affects things that I would buy vs what someone else may buy me.
Pretty much exactly what she said, except the MIL part.
OMG I loved looking at the dept. store catalogs when I was little. They always had cool toys and "fancy" barbies. Good memories!
I very much prefer for people to provide ideas for Christmas gifts, and I do the same (when asked).
I keep a running list all year long on my computer of ideas for me, my husband, and the boys. It's so nice to be able to reference those lists when people ask.
I keep a wishlist on Amazon that DH and my family knows about. It mainly contains certain cookbooks, kitchen gadgets and camera accessories. He usually gets something off the the wishlist and then surprises me. He likes the extra help, since my birthday is 3 days after Christmas.
I keep a working list for DH and add things as he mentions them.
DH always wants a Christmas list from me but then he thinks he has to buy EVERYTHING on the list. He already gave me an early present - gift certificate for a specialty lingerie place so I can finally get some new bras that fit. The only thing I want are citrine earrings.
My mom always buys me kitchen stuff so no need for a list. I always ask DD to give me a list. She gave me her "new and APPROVED" list a couple months ago hahaha.
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This. It is a combination of things I want and things I want to buy when I have extra cash.
It is one thing for me to expect DH to come up with an idea on his own. I just don't expect the same from the ILs when we see them 4-5 times a year.
Just as I feared. It is just me.
We made lists when we were kids and my girls make lists as well.
I don't know why it makes me feel selfish and like I'm insisting that they buy me exactly what I ask for.
I don't ever make a list. But I do let Dh know a couple of things I want.
Bettyjoe, I also loved the department store catalogs when I was little! That does bring back memories!
hahaha...you're not selfish for making a list...how about this is what i told DH...
I want a new coach purse- do i need to go pick it out myself?
and if there's extra cash, I'd like some new cowboy boots for Rodeo season.
he always tells ME that he doesn't know what he wants, but then the in laws have a laundry list of things he wants. so i always call them to see what he wants. why he can't just tell me? I dont know. but he's like a kid, if I dare buy him something he doesn't like, I catch heck for it for a long time.
Well, I feel if someone is asking you for a list and you provide a range of price points (or at least not all hundreds of dollar items) there is nothing selfish about it. They asked, you answered.