Remember how hard you thought life was at 20?

hindsight's_a_biotch

bwahahahaha!

calle28

At 20 I thought it would have been a great idea if me and my BF went to Vegas and got married for my 21st birthday! Where were we going to live and support ourselves? I have no idea, but those were just minor details!

BowiesInSpace

I was dating XH and drinking too much.  It was a helluva wake up call when I took off the beer goggles.

JsuperJ

When I was 20, I dreamed of getting my shiit together and then going to TIP to tell everyone about it. So everyone would be inspired by my awesomeness.

*goes back to lurking*

Mortomo

I barely remember 20.

hindsight's_a_biotch

JsuperJ:

When I was 20, I dreamed of getting my shiit together and then going to TIP to tell everyone about it. So everyone would be inspired by my awesomeness.

*goes back to lurking*

Oh no no no, people who can pull out this level of awesome shouldn't be lurking. lol

Muddled

JsuperJ:

When I was 20, I dreamed of getting my shiit together and then going to TIP to tell everyone about it. So everyone would be inspired by my awesomeness.

*goes back to lurking*

::impatiently awaits inspiration::

doglove

At 20, I'd come home from parties @ college and literally sit on the phone ALL night with my then (d-bag) bf. He would cry ALL NIGHT because he didn't like me having beer and being around other people who I might be attracted to and would cheat on him with, nevermind the fact that I never gave him any reason not to trust me. I would pacify him and try to make him feel better about himself while I wasted my entire night listening to his bs.

Yeah and at 20, I thought that guy was a keeper.

Interrobang

At 20, I was engaged to a 27 year old man who had no job, had one degree under his belt he didn't use, went back to school to escape real life when he couldn't pay his rent, was in the middle of working on another degree he wouldn't use, and was living on loans from the Icelandic government "for school." 

I had a 4.0 and a great job at college, but I was pretty fvcking stupid.  

fussbucket

At 20 I had a cheating boyfriend who thought I was going to marry him. LOL.

I drove a bus during the day and spent my evenings reading Euripides, or perhaps Catullus.

I bought a 1966 Ford for $300.

I smoked at least a pack a day.

I didn't have too much figured out but I was having a hell of a time.

imoan

I was with H at 20 but barely remember it.

Pinkplasticdoll

At 20 I weighed the same that I do at this very moment. I worked at a shitty call center job but it paid really well, i had an asshat for a manager that I should have reported to hr but was too chicken.

DakotaDangerDog

I was dating a POS who I eventually married 2 years later, and then divorced 5 months later.

MyPunkinPie

Ahh, 20. Going to a college my parents paid for, working just enough every summer to make money for books and beer and dating a gem of a guy who most likely cheated on me with a sorority sister. My lyfe was HARD, yo!

huber22

I was with a guy who I thought loved me and was the best I could get (mostly because he routinely told me this). I built my life around this guy while he was telling me that I was fat, ugly and treated my like dirt.

Sometimes I want to shake my 20-year-old self.

Peanut2202

I would rather be where I am than have to repeat life at age 20.  Life for me at 20 was not easy.  I'll take my mortgage and bills over that bull shiz.

CurlyQ284

I was dating DH, and had a roommate that moved her roided up, abusive FORTY YEAR OLD boyfriend in when we were gone for a break. The leasing company said there was nothing we could do (individual leases, she was randomly placed with us). Roommate got knocked up and found out right after spring break. Boyfriend was a deadbeat that lost his job as a used Kia dealer and spent all his time smoking up in the apartment... I think my life was more stressful at 20 than it is now.

hindsight's_a_biotch

I'm not even going to bore you with the deets. Suffice to say, I thought the fact that it was hard meant I was a big girl, yo. After all, if you love him, you'll make it work, right? Because no one is perfect. Or something. lolol

heartlyric

Oh at 20, I was smacking men with douche-be-gone sticks all night. That or they were perpetually like 20 going on 12. I did listen to a lot problems my other 20 year old friends had and in all honesty, I found out how emotionally and sexually controlling other 20 year olds could be. I had one friend that gave her bf a blow job to talk him into moving in with her. She only did half the job to get him to agree then left him hanging up he put down the deposit and she got her own keys. And he did it! Sad really.

Motzie

At 20 XH and I broke up because I wanted a house and a baby soon after he graduated college. I'd been away and working for a few years already and was ready to settle down in a few more. We got back together, broke up again, got back together, and my baby fever quickly subsided. Ugh, I was stupid.

Sue_sue

Holy smokes. At twenty I was working at a drycleaners and a restaurant and going to college full time; bf and I were going to be married upon graduation (this is the one I broke up with when he gave me his favorite record for my birthday, when I didn't have a record player). I was starving, literally no money for food. I was at Rutgers, studying political science and ancient history and having a great time in many ways. 

I do remember thinking how hard life was, lol. 

emilykathleen511

I wasn't attempting to inspire anyone. Just making the point that you can create change in a relationship if you're both committed to it. That is all.

ReturnOfKuus

emilykathleen511:

I wasn't attempting to inspire anyone. Just making the point that you can create change in a relationship if you're both committed to it. That is all.

 

Everyone else is saying that it's bad judgment to commit to a relationship that's so bad that it needs a lot of change.

BookMaven

At 20 I was married, working as a preK teacher, in college, and had a surprise baby. Life was hard. But it was also wonderful in the fact that it was mine, and so unlike my former existence. I never complained because 12 was worse, 16 even more so.

ArtisticEngineer

Honestly, I feel that life was "hard" before I was 17. I was on the top of the world when I was 20, so life was definitely awesome for me. When I was 17, I had a life alternating surgery that has opened my world tremendously and it has made me enjoy my life to the fullest. I know it sounds cheesy, but it's true.

zitiqueen

Mortomo:

I barely remember 20.

When I was 20, I was high. That's all I can tell you about 20.

rt4life

I was pregnant. and alone. ugh. dealing with my unit being pricks about the pregnancy. but as bad as it sounds...it wasnt super horrible. I loved being pregnant. my daughter is the best thing thats ever happened to me

turbostang7

When I was twenty I had been married for almost 3 years, had a brand new baby, worked at a preschool, and just about to graduate from college.... oh wait lol that's now!

Jessimau

At the beginning of 20, I thought I was never going to be able to find a boyfriend and I was DOOMED, so I did online dating.  Back before it was okay to do.  Well, I started online dating at 19.

In the second half of 20, I met DH.  Not through online dating, through an organization at our college.

Other than the agita re: relationships, I didn't think life was all that hard.  Paying bills & rent on a tiny salary still seemed do-able somehow, probably because I was in a college that my parents paid for with a car they bought me.  I had a pretty cool part-time job at a DJ store, too.  Still, I'd rather be 31 than go back to my 20s.

sillygoosegirl

My life was a lot harder at 20 than it is now.  

Mortomo

I was trying to think back at what I was doing at 20:

living at home with my parents

going to college full-time

working at a bank part-time

not dating anyone

still a virgin

had a crap car

was a lot thinner

had really long curly blonde hair with big bangs

I think I probably had it pretty good back then.  I still wouldn't want to go back...except maybe to my 20 yr old body, hair and skin!