Holidays

majik921

So this is the first holiday season without the ex husband and though I'm in a relationship, my bf will be in OR with his family for Thanksgiving and Christmas. I don't really have family in the area except for my mom and though spending time with her is nice, she's my best friend, there's something about having a significant other at the holidays that I've come to really value in the last ten years with my ex. We had so many traditions and memories. If you're recently divorced or separated, what are your thoughts about the coming holidays?

Butterfly4210

It isn't my first being apart from my xh, but it is my first offically as an "exwife" .. I remember my first apart / out of the marriage and it was hard... But my entire family is here and we had everybody over to my parents house so my mind was occupied. Once I was alone with my thoughts at night I cried a litttle, but just a little. As for this year? I'm going to Australia for the holidays (well, christmas and new years) but will be just my parents & i for thanksgiving. I'm very much looking forward to the holidays and 2012. The only sad part is I have never been away from my family for the holidays and I won't be with them this year - they aren't coming with me.

Happy2BeMe

This year will be my first. Christmas Day was always for his family, so my daughter will probably be with him (we haven't finished working out the holiday visitations...) I am thinking of volunteering to serve a special dinner to the elderly and maybe doing something fun with my mum or something.

RedRedWine2

Last Christmas was my first Christmas post-D. I was honestly OK with it...but because my family is awesome and I was happy to spend it with them. my neices and nephew were so much fun to be around and ultimately I think it's just about spending time with people you love, whether friend or family.

hainesherway

This is my second holiday season after divorce.  Last year was hard but ended up being ok because I was surrounded by family.  This year, I'm over my divorce and it will be even better to spend time with my family, L, and his family.

chrissie3416

This is my first real holiday season post D.  LAst year we were seperated but hadnt told our families yet so we sucked it up and did it together.  He will have our DD on Thanksgiving so that will be rough but ill be with my family.  Christmas Eve she will be with him as well.  My family doesnt do anything really.  The BF mentioned me joining him and his family so that could be an option or I may just get some take out and geta movie...and who are we kidding, Ill prob still be wrapping.

Christmas day she will be back with me and we will be doing our normal holiday routine. 

bluebirdphoto

This will be my second w/o him but first post-divorce... and it was fine last year and I'm sure it will be fine this year I love spending time with my family and I HATED spending time with his... not because they were evil, it was just hard to sit around the table as they chain-smoked and his Dad drank himself to death. So I'm looking forward to some relaxing days doing exactly what I want.

MintChocoChip

Personally I'm relieved not to have XH for the holidays.  I'm looking forward to spending time with my brother, SIL and nephew.  I'm sure New Years might be a bummer but NYE is XH's birthday and he was always b!tching about not having a dealer close by or using so this NYE should be a relief.  Another plus is not having to buy expensive gifts for an unsatiable man!

DakotaDangerDog

Last year we were separated, I'm pretty sure the family knew by then. I had a good time without him I'm really excited for the holidays this year!

becwheat

I enjoy spending time with my family, SO or no. Last year was my first alone and it was wonderful actually! This year BF will be with me and my family and I am sure it will be great as well

Don't worry about being alone, celebrate it.