I've done something drastic

Tayrusso

I've scheduled a meeting with MIL tonight (and Casey).  After four long years of BS, she finally put me over the edge last night with some comments about our choice to baptise Lucy. 

I'm excited.  I'm nervous.  I'm hoping that this will finally help clear the air and make things better. 

Wish me luck ladies!!! 

NesJas

Are you going to baptize her? I hope the meeting goes well.

Tayrusso

NesJas:

Are you going to baptize her? I hope the meeting goes well.

Yes'm!  We finally met with the pastor last night, and we've made arrangements to have her baptised at the Oct 30 service.  We're very excited!

PS - What is the difference btw baptize and baptise?  I know, I'm a huge idiot for not knowing... 

b15chik

that's really lame of her to think she should have any control over how you choose to raise your daughter. she definitely needs to know where her grandma line is drawn. has casey tried to talk to her? imo he should be the one to put her in her place, but i think you mentioned before he's already talked to her, or something like that. good luck taylor!

Jenn is Silly

It'll go great!!! You're making the best decission for your family.

NesJas

Tayrusso:

NesJas:

Are you going to baptize her? I hope the meeting goes well.

Yes'm!  We finally met with the pastor last night, and we've made arrangements to have her baptised at the Oct 30 service.  We're very excited!

PS - What is the difference btw baptize and baptise?  I know, I'm a huge idiot for not knowing... 

I dont know, I've always known it that way. Same thing, lol. But I hope it goes well, I dont know the whole story but yeah, there is a line when it comes to how you and your DH raise your child.

jasnem

Wishing you all the best and the right words to say, Taylor! Hopefully, everything will get sorted out and I'm sure you'll feel a lot better once everything is out in the open. Way to be proactive, so it's not something that continues on down the road as well!

kimberlykenya

Good luck Taylor! 

 Oh and it's baptism(n) and baptize(v)

MrsNolan

Good luck!

bhead81

Good luck.  I really hope things get better once you all sit down and you lay down the rules and draw you like.  Keep us posted.

Tayrusso

Thanks everyone for the support, but last night didn't go quite as planned...

LuvNCupcakes

I am sorry it dodn't go as planned Tay.  If you need to talk I am here

bhead81

Sorry to hear that yesterday didn't go as planned.  ((HUGS))

sweetie6609

Sorry to hear Tay.  Hope things get better w/the situation.

xxSOMMERxx

Ugh! MIL's are a pain!  lol

MrsWeiner

I agree MIL's are a pain! I don't have kids yet but mine is an issue too! Sorry to hear your meeting didn't go as planned.

MoFree

I don't know the history between you and your MIL but it sounds like she is not being respectful of the choice you and your DH are making regarding your daughter's religion.  Just wondering if she is a different religion or denomination from you and feels that your daughter should be raised in the church where she belongs.

I know that when (being optimistic) we have children there will be issues with my family because we are different religions.  I converted to my husband's religion before we got married and my very closed minded father has never accepted or respected that decision.

Tayrusso

MoFree:

I don't know the history between you and your MIL but it sounds like she is not being respectful of the choice you and your DH are making regarding your daughter's religion.  Just wondering if she is a different religion or denomination from you and feels that your daughter should be raised in the church where she belongs.

I know that when (being optimistic) we have children there will be issues with my family because we are different religions.  I converted to my husband's religion before we got married and my very closed minded father has never accepted or respected that decision.

She's Non-Denominational Christian, we're Lutheran.  It's all Christianity, just different practices.  She has zero respect for us.  She also ruined our wedding ceremony over the religion thing, too.

We didn't get a chance to have the "meeting" because my Dad was rushed to the ER that night.  Casey has since had a one-on-one with her, and put that beezy in her place.  SO proud of my sweet man!!!

MoFree

Tayrusso:

She's Non-Denominational Christian, we're Lutheran.  It's all Christianity, just different practices.  She has zero respect for us.  She also ruined our wedding ceremony over the religion thing, too.

We didn't get a chance to have the "meeting" because my Dad was rushed to the ER that night.  Casey has since had a one-on-one with her, and put that beezy in her place.  SO proud of my sweet man!!!

  So sorry about your dad and hope he's okay.

Thanks for the explanation.  What many people fail to realize is that their faith is their faith and their children are under no obligation to follow it.  In my case, I converted from non observant, non believing to Catholicism to Judaism.  My father totally disrespects that I am no longer a Christian, and I am sorry he is having a hard time, but despite hos disapproval, I have no regrets about my decision.  Is there any way of getting her to understand in a nonconfrontational way that it's not about her but a decision you and your husband made about raising YOUR child.

Tayrusso

MoFree:

Tayrusso:

She's Non-Denominational Christian, we're Lutheran.  It's all Christianity, just different practices.  She has zero respect for us.  She also ruined our wedding ceremony over the religion thing, too.

We didn't get a chance to have the "meeting" because my Dad was rushed to the ER that night.  Casey has since had a one-on-one with her, and put that beezy in her place.  SO proud of my sweet man!!!

  So sorry about your dad and hope he's okay.

Thanks for the explanation.  What many people fail to realize is that their faith is their faith and their children are under no obligation to follow it.  In my case, I converted from non observant, non believing to Catholicism to Judaism.  My father totally disrespects that I am no longer a Christian, and I am sorry he is having a hard time, but despite hos disapproval, I have no regrets about my decision.  Is there any way of getting her to understand in a nonconfrontational way that it's not about her but a decision you and your husband made about raising YOUR child.

Thanks!

Umm, I think Casey's one-on-one was pretty non-confrontational. He explained what the ceremony meant to us and that she did NOT have to be there, if she couldn't be supportive.  She's coming, but we've got too much going on right now for me to really care.  We don't have a lot to do with his family (he can't stand them either); after the baptism and the holidays, we can go back to avoiding them.