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My H will be gone for about 7 months :(
I'm really just venting here... My H is going to be working out of the country for about 7 months and won't be able to come home at all (some rules the company has). I'm going to visit him in March/April, but it's still really hard. He's leaving in about 2 weeks and I'm trying to just stay happy until then so that we can enjoy the time together. Ugh, this just sucks. 
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Re: My H will be gone for about 7 months :(
What does your H do that his company doesn't allow him to travel home at all? Wtf?
It's a contruction job and he'll be working 6 days/week. I have heard from other people that most overseas jobs don't allow you to go home in the first 6 months because of the potential that you won't return to the job. I don't know if that's the real reason, though.
The only upside (and the only reason he's doing this) is that he'll be making a $hit-ton of money. The situation just really sucks a big one.
Eek, that would be really hard. Where is he going? At least you'll have a cool trip to look forward to.
Otherwise, I would just use the time he's gone to do a bunch of stuff to keep you busy. Take a class of some sort (something that interests you...martial arts, cooking, art, whatever!) The key is just to keep yourself busy to minimize the times you're feeling lonely. Also use the time to catch up with friends and go out. Whenever my DH is out of town, that's the times I go out to dinner with old friends or invite them over to hang out.
And skype will help too.
I'm not really allowed to say where he's going, but it's a loooonnnngggg plane ride.
I'm thinking that I'm going to join Toastmasters to work on my public speaking and paint a lot. My mom does Zumba twice/week and wants me to do that with her also. I should be ok, but it still sucks that he'll be gone for so long. And, I know that it will be harder for him than me because I have friends, family, and the puppies to keep me company and he doesn't. Skype will definitely be used almost daily, I'm sure.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
It's something like that, but not in such a crappy part of the world.
It sucks and all, but you get a visit. It was your choice (I assume he consulted you), so make it work. Also, quit being so dramatic. Telling us the name of a country will not automatically point a red light at your husband and/or his employer.
OP, as a military wife, I understand your fears and concerns. My DH just returned from a two week trip to Iraq. I've been through a 15 month separation with my DH (training and deployment)--but the 15 days he was gone, this time, were tough! You can bet that my calendar was full of activities and plans for my toddler and myself. I scheduled something for us nearly every day, and some days, we had two activities planned. Take the time to do things you enjoy, take care of yourself (meaning that you have to eat and sleep, exercise will help a lot, too). You can get through this. It may suck, but you can!
Umm, she said "company" twice, so I'm not sure why you immediately jump to military. Also, I don't really care who her husband's employer is and didn't ask, much less badger, for any additional information. I merely told her to stop being so dramatic. With the looooooonnng plane ride and the pre-emptive venting, it was the vibe I was getting.
I was long distance (Dubai to New York and then Turkmenistan to Dubai) from my fiance for a year and we survived. Of course there are hard days, but I don't understand gearing up for them by posting on a message board in advance of anything happening or sucking yet. It just seems overly dramatic, especially for something which they both agreed on and benefits both of them. She wants the money more than she wants him around. Fine, own it.