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Hey Diamonds...
Seeing as you are posting, just wanted to check in and see how you are doing. I know you got a lot of feedback regarding your anger/relationship posts....
2011 Races
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Re: Hey Diamonds...
I went to the shooting range this weekend and it was fun. I highly recommend it. It was actually kind of scary the first few shots but overall it was a fun experience. I don't think it particularly helped me with anything but it was a fun/different thing to do...
Still dating the new guy despite what everyone thinks. Even my attorney didn't sound too pleased. However, I feel I have a pretty good head on my shoulders and I feel I am making the right choice for me and my son. I wish that all the naysayers could meet him and see who he really is. He is very handsome, mature, loving, responsible. I know he isn't perfect but I feel he is good for me right now. And like I said my therapist doesn't seem concerned and she knows me the most out of anyone. I have been seeing her on and off for many years.
I know it isn't ideal to start dating right away but it wasn't ideal for my ex to throw me out on the street either. And of course he jumped right into his new relationship/family too. Which doesn't make it right but I'm just saying worse things could happen then me having a boyfriend. At least he isn't a crack head or something.
Glad you enjoyed the gun range, haha! My BF is supposed to take me some time which I am scared but looking forward to. He has his permit and owns several so we discussed it so I would feel more comfortable with it.
I didn't mean to make you defensive about the BF thing. It is your choice and you are an adult. I can only speak from my own experiences and give advice from there. What is good for me may not be good for you and that is absolutely your decision. FWIW though, my concerns were never what type of man your BF is, but rather your ability to be "ready" to be in a relationship.
I am sorry that you are still hurting because of your STBXH. My XH cheated on me as well so I know how you feel. Regardless, this post wasn't to give you shiit, just to check in. I know how you are feeling and it sucks
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
He knows all of my emotions. He understands that I have been through a lot and for whatever reason he is willing to deal with it. He said that he would rather I continue dating him than stop dating him because I am still emotionally healing. So he got all the info and made his decesion. I have not tried to sugar coat anything for him.
It kind of sounds like he went through a lot of stuff with his ex wife so he brings some baggae too I would imagine.
Aww, you're sweet. I'm sorry you got cheated on too. It really sucks but I am trying hard to put it past me...
At least half of your problem is that you don't have higher standards than this.
Are you going to leave out that you posted on Blended Families over the weekend discussing starting a new blended family?
http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/59381877.aspx
IMO it is way too soon for you to be dating at all, and there is a world of difference between seeing someone and discussing marriage and more children.
If you really want what's best for your son why are you so unwilling to slow things down?
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Yeah, you and your BF should not have even met each other's kids yet, let alone talked about starting a family together. I'm really not saying this to be mean, but there is a lot of desperation that comes through in your posts and I think you are willing to settle for any man that shows interest in you, whether or not it's in your or your son's best interest. In your Blended Families post, you seem to grasp that this isn't the best situation for your son, yet you're plowing right ahead. I really don't understand why you're so opposed to putting on the brakes even the tiniest bit.
At least you made me laugh out loud. You are not LISTENING TO ME. He is HOT, KIND, LOVING, CARING, FAMILY MAN, RESPONSIBLE...and so much more. I know I am not making a mistake. He is amazing. Maybe a pic of him will help? See, what's not to love??
I definitely hear what you are saying. Just to clarify I wasn't married. I was engaged. Not sure if that really makes any difference.
BF is or was concerned that I might leave him for that reason but he is obviously willing to take that chance. Like I said I told him everything and he had the choice to stay or go and he is willing to hang around and see what happens...