September 2009 Weddings
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Thursday Confessions (just when I thought I said all I could say...)
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Re: Thursday Confessions (just when I thought I said all I could say...)
* I'm secretly mad at my husband for making fun of Ellie's bone/bow for her Pebbles costume. If he wants it different he can make it himself!
* I'm so old that I couldn't even stay awake through the evening news last night to find out when our town is doing their trick or treat. (and then I got annoyed when I found out they're doing it ON Halloween because it would be much more convenient for me if we could do it on Saturday.)
* I still wish I'd bought more whoopie pies.
I personally don't think that a person can ever *really* be ready for a child. You just kind of have to jump in feet first and go with it!
Good luck with whatever you decide, hon!
* I can't stand the following songs: Moves Like Jagger, Paradise, Pumped-Up Kicks
* Sometimes I think getting my mother a job at my company was a bad idea.
* I hate feeling like I'm merely Samantha's mother to Chris' family. It's happened a couple of time and it's really starting to upset me. I've explain this to him, and just when I think he gets it, he says and does things that just egg them on.
updated 10.03.12
- I wish I could start my leave now. I've mentally checked out of work already.
- I found myself using the phrase "damn kids" last night when referring to my neighbor and his irritating girlfriend.
- H is in a wedding this weekend and I kind of don't want to go. I'm the DD by default so I'm going to have to stay up way too late and drive a bunch of drunk people home. Not my idea of a good time.
My husband also feels this way.
I am scared out of my mind to take that step, so here I sit, on the ledge.
Stand up for something you believe in.
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Honestly, if Ellie hadn't surprised us, I'd probably be right there with you. But? It's so worth it. It's scary asfuck, it's stressful, you're constantly plagued with worry....but the love you give and the love you receive makes it all so amazing.
My next cycle I have to go in and have a HSG done and I really want DH to come with me and he even said he would, but for some reason I just want to 'forget' to tell him when it is so he doesn't have to. I hate making him go to appointments even if he agrees to go, I'm not really sure why, I just do.
nope! you're married so it's totes legit.
I'm so horrible at keeping secrets. Not secrets other people tell me, but my own. Like gifts, etc. I give Scott bday presents days early because I can't stand to keep the secret. I'm DYING to tell Scott about bpics. I'm not sure I can hold it in for the weeks it takes to get my book!! I'm so lame.
I took the step/proverbial jump, but it wasn't easy! And it is still scary at times.
My confession: I learned recently that my best friend, and another one of my oldest friends, are also TTC. I am excited that we will possibly be going through some of the same things at the same time, but I can't help but feeling like we are all now in competition with each other or something. And, I can't help feeling that we are going to have trouble getting pregnant, it is like a doomsday feeling for some reason.
<<Sorry for all the BR stuff, I know there are some of you who have been trying for a really long time, so don't want to be insensitive to that>>
~There was a miscommunication about which office my doctors appointment was supposed to be in yesterday (one is 4 minutes from my house, one is an hour and some change away). I went to the close one with 5 minutes to spare, to find I was wrong... we had to change our appointment to tomorrow. I cried about it for 15 minutes when we got home.
~I really want to start contracting so I feel like I'm making progress. My doctor said he won't make it to my due date, so everyone is looking at me like any moment my water is going to break. And I'm pretty sure I'm ok with it happening any time.
~But then again, I'm terrified about him actually being here and changing my life forever.
~The last thing my mom ever bought was a vitamin water on her lunch break. It's still in my fridge. I don't want to drink it or throw it away. I'm not sure how long I plan on keeping it around...
I worked out yesterday and it felt good. If I'm not super sore tomorrow I am going to take this as a sign my body actually needs the exercise. These stupid fertility shots have me fattened up in an obscene way.
I am planning to bake this weekend. Get excited. Not that this helps with the packing that needs to be done or the fat.
Stand up for something you believe in.
oh, I got another one.
I'm seriously considering applying for a job decorating cakes for a nearby grocery store. I know it's probably going to be a paycut, but I dont' really care. With extra SP and catering money, I can probably make up the difference. I hate my job, and I'm not sure I can stay another 6 months.
BAHAHAHA
But, no, I don't think that makes you a prostitute.
Whenever I wake up in the middle of the night and can't go back to sleep because of my husband's snoring, sometimes I get this urge to get violent. But I never do. His snoring has been irritating me so much lately and I never get enough sleep.
I haven't been working out very consistently and I've gained 5 pounds this month. I feel like a failure for gaining so much already.
I guess you could say that. My priorities changed a LOT. I went from wanting to work all the time and get ahead, to thinking more about how I was going to get home so I could hang out with El. Going out, vacationing, etc. became less of a priority just because now we prefer to do things that we can bring Ellie along to. She belongs with us, and we don't feel complete when she's not around.
Yes, it's nice to go out once in a while on our own, or to take a trip by myself. I had a blast during my girl's weekend in PA! But really when it comes down to it, there's no one I would rather spend time with than El.
has he ever had a sleep study done to test for sleep apnea? Guy used to snore like a freight train, but now he wears a CPAP machine, and he doesn't snore at all. Magic!
ETA: DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT beat yourself up about pregnancy weight gain. You are growing a human being, and your body needs those extra stores to keep both you and your child healthy. Eat healthy, keep as active as you can, and put the scale out of your mind. Just focus on enjoying your pregnancy!
I have my RE intake appointment on Tuesday and I am both excited and terrified. I don't know if I want DH to go with me or not (the office said it's up to me). DH isn't really keen on the idea of a RE and doesn't think it's a good idea, so I'm tempted to go by myself.
On a related note, I should get my period on Mondayish and although I don't think we were successful this cycle I keep thinking how cool it would be to be able to cancel my RE appointment.
I also confess that I kind of wish I didn't know my second baby was a girl, because now every time I see a little girl I think about her and what she could wear for halloween next year, whether she'd be into ballet or basketball. Identifying so closely with her makes me feel bad because I don't have the same connection to my first loss, which makes me feel like a bad mother.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
No he hasn't. How do you get one of those studies done?
I know I shouldn't but on the May 2012 board, people have gained like only 2 pounds, so it's hard not to compare. I definitely struggle sometimes but I do eat healthy and try to work out when I'm not so tired. But I always feel tired! I just feel like there are so many rules about everything and reading "What to Expect When You're Expecting" sometimes feeds into my worries.
We got a referral from our PCP to a sleep specialist, who then scheduled the test. They hooked him up to a machine and monitored how many times he stopped breathing in an hour (while he was asleep). Guy's was really bad - he stopped breathing 104 times in an hour.
I know it's really hard not to compare, but really, try not to. TB can be so toxic! Just go off of what your doctor tells you. And the tired thing? It gets better in 2nd tri. You're almost there! (but then it comes back in 3rd tri so enjoy it while it lasts!)
You're doing fine. Try not to read too much into all the "rules" - they're really more guidelines. Pregnancy is just like parenting - you have to do what's right for you and your child. Everyone else can shove it.
I was told not to read WTEWYE because I'm a super hypochondriac, so I've stayed away. As far as all the rules about everything, I was also told to read everything you can and then go with your gut. There are a million ways to grow and raise a baby and the only way that matters is your way. I've had to learn to ignore the scale as well, and it was hard sometimes, but remember it's best for your little one and it's meant to help. My butt and thighs got bigger, but I realized it was to help support the huge weight in my big belly. (There's always time after they are born to make it all go back to how you want to look).
You need to reach the decision for yourself, but then you never know how long it will take. We've been trying for 14 months now and I never thought it would take so long. If I had, we would have started TTC much earlier.
FWIW, I think you are can never be truly ready. You can always say "I need to earn more money" or "I want to get this done first" or whatever, but there will always be something more to work towards.
I hope I didn't sound snarky in that last post! I didn't mean too! Just offering my 2 cents.
Oh and my confession is I'm supposed to be making and decorating a cake for my FILs birthday tonight and I have no motivation. I'm going to have to hurry to get it done!
I can't speak as a mom but I had the same concerns you did. We wanted a bunch of things before we had kids and we still don't have any of those. Our finances could be better, my career could be better (actually, my job could be better, I wanted to find a career that I would enjoy the rest of my life), and I wanted to go back to school. But after thinking about it all and realizing that it would be about 5 years before all of that is realized, I realized that having the career and job wouldn't make me as happy as having kids now. That a career didn't matter that much to me anymore.
Like others have said, it's definitely something you'll have to figure out. I think a good indication of regret would be how you feel about it now. Do you think that you will regret it in the future? If you got pregnant now, would you wish it happened later?