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need your thoughts on this
I've been a longtime lurker on this board and have decided to make my first post. I'm currently like many of you....divorced (a few years ago) and still trying to make it in the dating world, but not having much luck. The thing is I live in a smaller city where there are more women then men, lots of families, and hardly any single people. It's also been really hard for me to make friends here because people tend to only hang out with friends they've known since they were 5 years old (I've only been in this city for a few years). I've been wanting to move for a long time, but due to the economy I'm very wary about finding another good job...so basically that's the only reason I've stayed.
So my question is....am I deluded in thinking that moving to a bigger city might help solve some of these problems? I ask because I've heard some people say that you'll find the same "hard to make friends" scenario no matter where you move. Doesn't that really depend on the person?
This is probably a stupid question haha, but I'd just like to know your thought on this.
Re: need your thoughts on this
I'm not the best to answer this - largely because I've never moved to an area where I don't know people. That and my bf isn't from here .. BUT, I'm responding because I'm from a large metro area (well, not LA/NYC large, but big enough to be considered a major city.) Yes, there are more "options" however there are just that many more couples/families/spoken for men. Have you tried using match or eharmony?
If I were you, I'd try to find the job first. Start applying to some jobs in these bigger cities where you're thinking of moving to. If you can get that far, friends and a boyfriend will come after. (You can always meet people through your coworkers, etc.)
It is also true that bigger cities have more community events, and soccer/kickball leagues, and other things you can join to meet people, etc.
Good luck
I would have to agree with you. Coming from a larger centre (around 800,000) to a small community of 5,000 it has been next to impossible to meet anyone due to circumstances similar to yours.
Larger centres do tend to have more activities/community events to offer and not everyone there is old or paired off.
Obviously start your job hunt first and if you find something suitable, go for it!
Good luck!
I totally agree. Keep in mind that New Big City does not equal Instant Boyfriend. Find yourself in that city first, move for the right reasons. Having moved to a brand new city myself, I learned it was up to me to put myself out there and make friends, get involved, etc. It can take a little bit of courage, but it pays off.
Oh, and the getting a job part is pretty darn important. Also a great way to meet people!