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The ex list!
I haven't been around much, but it's a slow day here at the office so I thought I would post a fun survey thing that I saw on the houston boards... (no names!)
I'll go first because I don't think I'm making any sense 
1) The beat-you-over-the-head Bible thumping fisherman with the emotional range of a teaspoon - lasted 2 years and only really should have lasted 3 months. I was in high school. I stayed with him because I loved his mom.
2) The self-absorbed college boy while I was still in high school (when I look back all I can think of is how skeevy he must have been to have dated a girl in highschool)
3) The very wealthy new money metrosexual that thought he was God's gift to women and aspired to be Hugh Hefner when he grows up... Come to find out, he's actually God's GAG gift to women- ha!
4) The co-dependent guy with little-man syndrome (wore stacked heels, spiked his hair, drove a fast car)... Come to find out, he was on LSD the whole time we dated and I had no idea until after we broke up
Lord this makes me thankful for DH
Re: The ex list!
Fun!
1. My first boyfriend - a guy in high school who was my first puppy love. Relationship ended in burning flames after 9 months when he broke up with me to date my friend's little sister!
2. A German foreign exchange student. It was all about the accent.
3. The German student's best friend. We were already friends and started dating after the German went back home. We ended up dating for 6 years... through our senior year of high school, through 4 years of college until my last semester of grad school. Then I realized he wasn't the person I wanted to spend my life with. Very messy breakup.
4. An air force pilot. It was all about his body. dreamy. We're still friends.
5. A guy I met while he was walking across the country for charity. I don't know what I was thinking. Lasted 2 months and I drove hundreds of miles to "join him on his walk". Ended by the time he got to Yellowstone! I think I was having an early quarter life crisis at this point!
I saw the same thing on Relationships. This is hilarious.
The red headed senior from another high school - He worked with my mom, saw me one day and thought I was pretty. Begged my mom for a picture of me and he asked me out. Fun date dinner and a movie, but it was our only date. Turned out he was too stuck on himself so the relationship never worked out.
The one-weeker - He was a friend of one of my friend's boyfriend and she fixed me up with him. My church had a youth revival one weekend and he got rather close to me, but he broke it off a week later.
Junior high crush who took me to the prom - He was 4 years older than me, our families knew each other and he agreed to take me to the prom. We only went as friends because I was interested in someone else (who turned me down)
Guy who I carried a torch for 8 years - He finally asked me out for New Year's Eve after years of being friends and flirting. I had myself convinced that he was the one I was going to marry because we seemed so perfect for each other. I was in love with him from junior year of high school to about 6 months before I met DH. We didn't go on anymore dates after that for what reason I'll never know. I didn't really date alot of guys in that timeframe but I had a few possible matches that turned out to be duds. But out of all of these guys I will say that DH is truly the perfect one for me.
1. Self absorbed-always right-I have the biggest penis in the world guy who thought all women should worship him. Lasted off and on for a couple of years.
2. Punk rocker dude on the rebound who I fell hard for only to have a chicken sandwich thrown in my face. Lasted a week!!! LOL!!!
3. The good ole country boy who would never argue more than just to say "your right"!
4. The most wonderfull guy in the world (for me) who treated me like a women but wasn't afraid to speak his mind. I can't imagine myself with anyone else!
The senior when I was a freshman (high school). Nice guy, had lots of fun, but it was more of a friendship. Turns out he had the hots for one of my best friends.
The tough guy image who was really just misunderstood...we were on again off again for almost two years. He had me tied around his little finger and unfortunately he knew it. I finally ended it for good when I met the next guy.
My high school sweetheart. We lasted 3 and a half years. Thought I would marry him. But yeah that doesn't usually work out lol. Turns out after I had been off at college 2 years I discovered he wasn't the guy I thought he was. We had an extremely messy break up and to this day when we see each other it's akward.
The friend with benefits...ducking my head in shame that I had one of those. Nothing ever serious but he did make me feel good about myself
The guy who only wanted me if I had my eye on someone else. Couldn't make up his mind what he wanted. We'd hang out, then he'd freak out. But if I went out with someone else he was all about me again.
The psycho crazy boyfriend who I dated for about 6 months. This boy made me cry way more than anyone else has my entire life. All my friends hated him but for some reason I just put up with it. Finally after an extremely scary night of stalking me when I was hanging out with some friends I called it quits. I worked at Sam's at the time and a guy friend I worked with had to walk me out after work every night because this guy would show up and wait in the parking lot. And if my roomate wasn't home I wouldn't go home till she got there because I didn't want to be alone.
The above mentioned guy friend from the stalker story. We had chemistry but he was coming off of a ugly divorce (got married way young) and so I didn't want to be the rebound. So after a couple times of hanging out we just stayed friends.
Wow after looking over this I am definitely extremely glad for my DH.
The dumb jock--Guy I dated before DH my freshman year of college.......only one word comes to mind--IDIOT!! My friends still get a kick out of him and love to do his "blank stare" b/c there was nothing up top.
The English Lad....Guy I dated my senior year of high school. Totally fell for the accent. We were friends first and it all ended when he went back to England for the holidays and had a little night out w/ his ex.
High School Sweetheart-We dated for 3 1/2 years, but he was cute and knew it....LOVED to flirt w/ the girls and wasn't very driven. Had a few flings that I later found out about. Better off friends, lost touch once we started dating our significant others, and now live less than 10 miles from each other but haven't really spoken since.
The older man, who had a very strange fixation on Star Wars and collected a lot of memoriablia. I was in high school and he had already graduated. I was young and engaged to this person at 19. I came to my senses and realized, I can't marry this man, I'm sooo young. So I broke it off and now he's married w/kids.
The very handsome hunk who had issues with communicating and committment. We dated for almost 3 years and I was sure he was the one, up until I caught him lying and talking to other girls, I knew deep down I was headed for a heartbreak.
The "bad boy" who lived in a constant state of being stoned, loved Jim Morrison and always liked to hang out with the wrong crowd. No job, no car, but I didn't care, b/c he was BAAADDD!!! I think it did it to piss off my parents, LOL.
The one guy who had it all together, great job, really handsome and treated me well. I don't know why we didn't work out, probably b/c he was older and ready for the next step in his life and I just hadn't made it to that point yet.
My gosh..going over this list makes me soooo thankful for my hubby.
The school girl crush. All the girls had a crush on him and he picked me! I thought he was the love of my life and I really saw us together for the long haul. We were on and off for 3 years and things just didn't work out.
The self absorbed star football player of the whole city. He had an amazing body! We dated for a while but once I gave him my virginity he started dating someone else. PIG
The "cut buddy" aka friends with benefits. Yes, I had one too. He was very cute, but was a player. After fooling around for a couple of months he told me that he was sleeping with 2 other girls. After it ended he called me to tell me I should get tested for clamydia! I can't believe I slept with such a skeez!
The "I can't do anything for myslef so that's why I have you" guy. I was SOOO in love with him and we were together for 3+ years. He was a total loser. I basically had to play mom and take care of him all the damn time! He eneded up breaking up with me. I was devastated at the time, but it was the best thing he had ever done cause afterwards I started dating DH.
In no particular order...?
The too short guy - We went out a few times and he was in to me, but I wasn't really in to him. I know it's bad, but he was shorter than me and I just couldn't get over that.
My first 'love' (and I use that term loosely) - We dated for a year. I wasn't interested at first, but he pursued me and kept asking me out til I said yes. He was older and now that I look back on it it's kind of creepy that he dated me. Thought he was the sh!t with his spiked hair and Camaro. Always tried to act tough and macho. Didn't end well and then he tried to be all sweet and get me back. Not a chance buddy.
The really good friend who turned in to more - We'd known each other for years. The summer before I left for college we were inseparable. He was so sweet and treated me really well. I broke it off after a couple months long distance. We're still good friends.
The bad boy - I'm pretty sure he'd been arrested once (when he was much younger. he turned his life around a lot) but still had that edgy image. He was hot. That's about it lol.
The charmer - Sooo cute and soo charming. An emotional idiot. Deeper issues. Pretty sure he got married at 20 and has done nothing with his life.
this was fun. i like reading everyone's answers.?
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Alrighty, here we go...
My first "boyfriend" was in 5th grade...he was the class cutie. Our dates consisted of going to the roller skating rink and playing Nintendo....LOL. We lasted maybe 8 months?...not sure...
On to 8th grade...I dated a football player...classic football player dates a cheerleader scenario...hah. We dated about a year. He's now married to my best friend....we're all still great friends.
And then came the psycho, stalker crazy guy that I actually dated for about 3 years...ugh...don't know what I was thinking
. He wasn't that crazy at the beginning of our relationship, but I later found out that he was basically a compulsive liar. He kept promising that he'd change, and he never really did. Anyways...we had an ugly break-up. He didn't want to end it. He actually moved to Birmingham and enrolled at the same college as me. I walked into a class my senior year at UAB, and there he was!!! I don't think we even made eye contact the entire semester...I made it a point to avoid him. He's now married...thank goodness!
After that last break-up, I guess I fell for the typical "bad guy" LOL. He had an awesome car...red, '69 Mustang convertible, but he didn't hang out with a particularly good crowd. We didn't last that long...maybe a few months.
Next was another football player...he was a nice guy, but I just realized that I didn't want to spend forever with him, so we broke up during our senior year....not too long before prom. That made finding a prom date interesting...
Then there's college and the summer before my first semester...nothing too serious....until I met DH during my freshman year.
Gracious, I'm so thankful for DH...he's wonderful!
1. The 9th grade crush. We worked on the school newspaper, and I enjoyed the attention he gave me. Come to find out, newspaper was all we had in common.
2. The "oops, I forgot I have another girlfriend." We dated for about a month in 10th grade before he told me he forgot he had asked another girl out. He's now married to one of my friends.
3. The long distance boy who showered me with gifts and hand written letters, We dated for almost 2 years. We were engaged when I was 19, but he broke it off when he joined the Navy. I found out later he was cheating on me and was afraid to tell me. His sister and I are still friends, and he is on wife #4 at the ripe old age of 26!
4. The "God's gift to the world" guy my sophomore year of college. We were in college choir together and I was rebounding from Navy boy. He wasn't for me, and I knew it, but I was lonely.
5. The loud, sports fanatic, non romantic. Everything I never thought I wanted, but yet, he's the love of my life. After 7 1/2 years of dating, we finally got married this summer!
OMG! This is great! I loved reading everyone's descriptions. Okay, here are mine:
1. The "on-again, off-again (for about 10 years) "love of my life" who was every kind of guy wrapped into one"...the country boy, the alternative dude, the preppy guy, the romantic, the player, the charmer, the live-on-the-seat-of-your-pants, crazy about women, goes hiking/camping with just his dog for weeks at a time, knows exactly what to say and when to say it type of boy. Oh wow...he knocked my socks off over and over again throughout the years. Thought for sure we'd end up married, but then he joined the Army, got 2 girls pregnant, ended up dating a girl from Germany and I haven't heard from him since.
2. The "rich boy (works for Daddy) guy" I dated while in college. He was already out of college...don't know why he dated me since I was just a freshman. The guy who I never really thought was cute, but all my friends did. Brought him home to meet my family over Christmas break and knew instantly that I didn't like him anymore...got through the holidays and never spoke to him again.
3. The "everybody loves him party guy". The one who would come visit me at college with 3 cases of beer and was just staying for one night. Seriously. Fun, fun, fun but TONS of non-stop drama all the time. He was the guy with the obsessed ex-girlfriend who just couldn't seem to let him go whom I found laying next to him in his bed early one morning when I let myself into his apt...he said that he had passed out and didn't even know she was there...Whatev... He ended up comitting himself to a rehab clinic b/c he was an alcoholic...not sure why I didn't see that one coming...lol!
4. The "OMG he is freakin GORGEOUS, should be on the cover of GQ magazine guy". The one who, when he walked through a door, every girl's head would turn to look at him b/c he was just that unbelievably beautiful. Everybody knew him. Bad part...that's ALL he was...just looks. He had nothing to say, nothing to talk about, no personality, no sense of humor at all. Although I did love looking at his fine self, that just wasn't enough to keep me around...I needed to at least feel like the guy I was dating was breathing.
5. The "I put on a really good front to make you think that I am a great person, but deep down inside I'm not" guy. The one who spotted me working at Parisian and decided to come over and flirt with me while I was working. The one who was so incredibly persistent he continued coming to my work and asking me to go out with him for months before I finally gave in...He wore a suit the last time and I think that's what got me...lol... The one who, on the exterior, seemed to have it all....looks, personality, education & intelligence, money, strong faith in God, big plans for the future, etc...when really, all he had was a closet full of baggage and bad, bad things he was dealing with.
Thank GOD for my husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This guy totally reminds me of Dylan McKay from 90210 for some reason!
Girrrrllll, you are SO right on the money! LOL!
"The Player" we went out in high school. His girlfriend (that he supposedly broken up with) called my home to threaten to beat me up! The last thing he said about me was that I was a B because I had wouldn't talk to him anymore. That weekend he passed away in a car accident. He had 3 girlfriends at the funeral as well as an absolute parade of girls that were next in line. It was very sad.
"The Good Guy" I met him at church. We dated my senior yr of hs and the beginning of my freshmen year. He dumped me b/c he was afraid i would drink or talk to other guys at college. I later found out he had been talking to other girls the whole time we dated.
"The ManWhore" Yeah, we could only be friends!
"The Musician" Liked the idea of him but I don't do drugs or am an overdriner/partier. he was also much more granola than me. I don't camp or eat grape nuts.
"The Football Player" My IQ was triple his (i'm not that smart). He got annoyed when i could figure out the movies half way through Everybody's All-American. Come on its not hard!! Also, I'm a huge football fan but winning is NOT everything. He only liked music like Pat Green who i had never heard of and refused to listen to anything modern or fun. Hello Maroon 5 is not the devil. It didn't last long At All!
I (heart) my hubby!