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Re: Let's be judgy. "I would never date a..."
Oooh I got the shiit flamed outta me once for saying I'd never date outside my race.
I know, right?!?!? Sigh
Ooops. Well it's true. I have nothing against those who do, it just isn't something that I would do. I don't have an attraction.
That was my EXACT response as well, but I guess it didn't matter to those who were judging me.
Maybe this is flameworthy, but I do not think that is flameworthy.
You can't control attraction, people.
momma's boy
someone who drinks a lot of alcohol
someone who is bad with finances
someone who is not somewhat religious
someone who smokes or does drugs
someone sleezy
someone who used adult friend finder...ever
Oooh, yes. This or Craiglist Casual encounters.
And I forgot smokers. I cannot do it mostly because I don't like the smell and it bothers my contacts.
Never mind.
A man child. I've had enough of that for several lifetimes.
Well I think there is a difference between saying I would never date anyone outside of my race because I'm not generally attracted to them, versus if I met someone from another race and we had great chemistry I still wouldn't date them.
I agree with all of these, plus:
...someone who cannot form a grammatically correct sentence. It's a deal breaker, sorry. End one sentence in "at" and you are out of here.
Hmm well been there done that to most of these so yeah:
Never again will I date:
a hard core gamer
drug addict (smoking a joint here and there doesn't bother me, but when you date a heroin/coke addict it gets a little fvcked up)
someone who gets angry because I make more money than they do.
someone who doesn't want children
someone who doesn't like animals
Everything else is easily workable.
I have a laundry list too. I would never date:
-allergic to animals in the capacity that they can't spend the night in the same place because I have two cats
-huge into video games
-a guy that never wants kids
- someone that doesn't have a career and/or education
-smoker
-Heavy drinker
-heavy person
-a liar
-person in the military
-felon
-guy that isn't handy around the house or at least be able to do minor repairs/cut the lawn/shovel snow etc
I agree. I was referring to A, not B (as I think the other girls were).
I would never date a guy who...
is not career driven.
is materialistic.
doesn't have a passion of some sort (ex. I absolutely love music and it really moves me).
is shorter than me.
takes longer to get ready to go out than I do.
I ditto height but will even go a step further and say is shorter than 5'9. I wear heels a lot and I am not about to give up on my shoes.
Oh, good one! I completely agree.
Also on my list--scrawny. I need someone with a little meat on their bones.
Me saying you were an idiot wasn't exactly flaming the hell out of you. But I stand by it. You expanded the thought and it made you sound more like a racist.
We're kind of going out.
Ah, that's what it was. Melinda called me an idiot. Thank you for clarifying. And at least our feelings about each other are mutual. Although I personally would use a word with slightly more substance than idiot. But that's me. And yes, I was flamed by other who misunderstood the intention behind my post.
I was expanding in an effort to show I'm not a racist. I simply am not attracted to men of other races. I've had plenty of men in my life of other races and I have never been attracted to any of them. I can't change who I'm attracted to -- if you think that makes me racist, then so be it. I have no issues with interracial couples -- it's just not in the cards for me. I won't date someone who I'm not attracted to, whether he be white, black, yellow, purple or orange.
And, from the looks of other posts on this thread, I'm not the only one who feels that way.
ooh, fun. I would never (again) date:
-someone with kids ( I want them but I know I couldnt handle stepkids. Already tried. )
- a huge gamer
- an alcoholic
- a military man ( too much infidelity! )
im sure there's more. I hate being with someone who's shorter than me. I hate being with someone who is not quick... or someone who's dumb, in other words.
Haha, I think that's true of most rodeo men!
Forgot this one - but yep, me neither! Too complicated.
Sooo....fun hating dwarf with no balls. Gotcha. LMAO!!! To each his/her own I guess.
This has been VERY educational. Keep it up ladies! Just add a few more and we can combine your lists and officially alienate 99.99% of the men on this planet. YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh cool your jets I am just having some fun.
oh yes definetly this.
Thus the reason I am still single and never date. I'm too picky but I have a daughter i need to worry about. I have a right to be picky. I'm also not looking to get remarried or have anymore children. AND I don't need a man in my life to complete me. I'm generally happy alone.