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S/O reasons to hate X
Okay, so we all know the big ones (cheating, drug use, etc) but what are the small reasons that you hated your X? Humor me, I could use a laugh. And Becca, your post made me laugh out loud (please don't take offense).
Reason 102 to hate my ex: He always used to say I ate "fou fou food". Listen, just because you stick your nose up at goat cheese, sundried tomatos, and practically every other delicious food that WASN'T a meat or a potato, doesn't mean that I eat fvcked up!
Reason 207: He used to leave the dirty dishes piled up NEXT to the sink. Seriously?
2011 Races
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Re: S/O reasons to hate X
He wouldn't pick up dog poop.
He needed the tv on to fall asleep.
He would "diet" by not eating carbs but then scarf down 4 Skinny Cow ice cream sandwiches for dessert.
The atomic fireballs he ate when he was high made the whole pantry stink like cinnamon.
He always complained that I shrunk his underwear instead of realizing that new boxers have a tighter elastic than 10 year old ones.
Little reasons?
He was a slob
He smoked (WTF was I thinking?)
He drove like a crazy person
He was disorganized and a borderline hoarder (he kept tax info in grocery bags and labeled it, "tax sh!t"
Drank too much coffee - combined with cigarettes he smelled gross - & he gave up trying to smell nice after we married
His friends were A holes
He wanted to go out and act like an 18 year old
Wanted to lay around the house all day, not go out and run errands and such
Sabotaged my dieting efforts b/c he wanted full fat everything
He put the glasses in the cabinet facing up so all the dust and other particles could settle in the bottom... He actually refused to put them in facing down! So, I was constantly rinsing them out.
He would not let me keep ANYTHING on the bathroom counter. Not even the soap... Give me a break! That is why I had my own bathroom and he still would say it looked sloppy. I ended up leaving the door shut all the time so he wouldn't say anything to me about it.
This made me laugh. XH would do this too. And then go out and binge drink with his friends. Oh, he would also refuse to do any cardio when he worked out because it didn't build any muscle. Hey azzhole, no one can see the muscle if it is covered with 30 pounds of fat!
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I am afraid to ask what this means.....
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I've got more...
He was super particular with hand and body soap and would yell at me if I got the wrong kind but wouldn't go to the store to get his own.
He turned his socks inside out and then complained that they were still dirty after the wash--duh, balled up socks don't wash well.
He changed my radio presets when he borrowed my car--WTF?!
He wouldn't let me fart or burp and yelled if one accidentally slipped out.
You don't want to know....I gag just thinking about it.
It's when someone blows their nose sans tissue. Basically they plug one nostril and blow the contents of their nose onto the ground. Or in this case, into the shower and let it run down the drain
Snot rocket! Guys on my soccer team do it... nasty!
He only did things half way, like he'd wash clothes, put them in the dryer, and then leave them there and expect ME to put everything away. He'd take out the garbage, but would NOT put a new bag in the can, instead he'd just pile garbage up on the counter! Wtf?
Mine did the trash bag thing too! WTF!
Haha! Mine would take the old bag out, put a new bag in, but then leave the old bag sitting next to the trash can!!! Hello!! We had 3 dogs. You can't leave that shiit sitting around and then get pissed when they rip the bags apart!
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Mine would never empty the trash. Instead, he'd stuff it as full as he could even if it meant the lid wouldn't close. I tried to let it go so he'd eventually get the point and empty it himself, but I always caved.
Drinking and driving - not a little thing by far
Speeding excessively late at night when he was driving (100 mph+) and wouldnt slow down when I asked (I stopped riding with him)
Never doing the dishes - I did a test where I didn't do dishes and I lasted 2 weeks before I finally gave in
Never putting away laudry - he left it on top of the dryer and would just get dressed in there, once I put away over 75 t-shirts
Sulking like a 4 year old if we didnt have the money to buy something extra or more clothes (because if you have 75 t shirts, you need another one) he wanted at the store. Sorry buddy, get off your lazy ass and get a job then we might
Never cleaning the sink after he shaved
Telling his friends made up stories and acting like they were true and had no problem with it - Why didn't I think he was doing this to me?
I could keep going and going...
He was a slob like he'd leave dirty towels laying around for me to pick up and he didn't take a lot of pride in our home and the outside (it looks much better now that he's gone).
He'd always say "believe that". It was annoying. And it made me think that I really shouldn't believe whatever it was that he was saying before he said "believe that".
He had a belt buckle with his initials on it. Pretty sure my family made fun of him behind his back for that.
he would buy beer and leave it on the front porch to keep it cold. Hello trailer park. It didn't help that it was Natural Ice brand.
He refused to wear his seatbelt because "he knew someone one time who would've died in an accident had he been wearing his seatbelt".
He loved to look in the mirror and flex his muscles. ::vomit::
He has a tattoo of the Mickey's beer bee.
He would get drunk and say really embarassing things. Example: at my FIRST company Christmas party he realized he didn't like the prez of my company. Fine, whatever, he is kind of arrogant. However, he pulled the secretary aside and said rather loudly "why does everyone kiss that guy's ass?" Referring to the prez.
He critiqued everything I cooked. Cook your own effing bacon then if you don't like it "crispy" like I do.
He wanted sexx constantly and, while I have a high sex drive, it got old feeling obligated to do it twice a day.
If it was "that time of the month" he would automatically expect a BJ. No joke. Like "sweet, I was looking forward to getting head".
LMFAO!!!!!
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I dated a guy like this... ummm no! I feel like I am dying, I am b!tchy and putting your penis in my mouth is the last thing on my mind.
-He would read or play with his iPhone on the couch while I was cooking dinner or cleaning up and not offer to help
-He would complain about gaining weight and then eat out every.single.day for lunch
-He would say "ValentiMe's Day" instead of "Valentine's Day" and "noo-cue-lar" instead of "noo-clee-ar"
I'm just going to do an ex-boyfriend list. This is all one guy, one I've posted about before that I call Dumpster Dave:
He watched pretentious art films and made fun of my taste in movies. And make no mistake, I get art. His favorite films truly sucked, and he didn't even get how much.
He was minimalist pretentious, like, he had this irrational ire toward people who had the audacity to enjoy the money they made. If someone bought a nice car instead of an old beater? Secular sinner!
He didn't wash his hair. And I don't mean that he used a dry shampoo, or that he did that wash with conditioner method that some people do for extra texture and body. I mean, he just didn't wash it. And in the warm months, a cloud of gnats would swarm above his head like a damn cartoon character. No exaggeration.
I think I'm going to have to dig up my old Dumpster Dave thread for here.
Please do!
Okay, I found the old posts.
The guy I dated from late high school through the first half of college was weird as hell. I don't think I noticed at the time, or rather I did notice, but the weirdnesses seemed minor because he was really really good-looking (for a teenage boy; they're pretty funny-looking overall).
So anyway, he asked me once if I had ever masturbated with any friends. I did the confused head tilt because, why would I? That's kind of private. And then he told me that fairly frequently, he and his one friend (sometimes with other friends too, but always the one guy) would go places together and masturbate, the most frequent of which was the movies (one time it was behind a dumpster, because the smell of garbage is a huge turn-on, I guess). Because I was young and stupid, and because I'm cheap, and because he was good-looking, the thing that I found to be most disturbing about this was that he paid good money to see a movie, and wasn't getting the most for his dollar if he was just jerking off and not paying attention to what was happening on the screen.
I was a little more alarmed when he told me that he'd tasted his own semen from the hand, and then he and that friend had each dipped a finger into each other's to see if it tasted the same. I don't know if this adds to the story, but the friend was openly gay. I guess my boyfriend was too, though I didn't notice.
Please to be aware that this is the same guy who wanted to be homeless for a while just for the experience, and then gave me a handwritten and illustrated copy of Baudelaire's "Eyes of the Poor" when I laughed at that.
Myrtle also found his artist registry (on Facebook, not on the public boards), and here is an excerpt:
"I began collecting pieces of paper scraps, ticket stubs, receipts, shreds of fabric, remnants of my daily life, as well as other people?s ephemera. As with the abstract expressionists, I feel that much of the personal meaning of the artwork comes out in the action of creating something."
The reality was, he was a hoarder who used to present me with a pile of his garbage every day, like food wrappers and used tissues and such, and then get mad when I'd throw them away and complain that I was discarding pieces of him. Oh, and he only washed his hair once a month for fear of washing out the coolness, and when I broke up with him and he skulked outside my college classes the next day and gave me cartoon pictures of sad, dead little creatures who were dying without my love.
I'm guilty of so many of these.
::slinks out of post::
OMG, I remember this post! Ahhhh, young love. Gigglesnort.
- He played video games all the darn time
- He never helped out with house chores like dishes and laundry
- He would shave and leave hair all in the sink
- He had a summer car that he would only use for racing and then he drive a POS all winter long that I was embarrassed to be seen in so we used my car as a daily driver.
I'm...just...wow, Kuus.
I'm glad my ex isn't the only that had sayings that drove me insane! My ex was always "fvck", "fvck this" or "fvck that" or "fvcking" .... every sentence sometimes! It was ALWAYS in there. I don't mind swearing - just not in every sentence for no reason! It was his "like" that many females use. "like.. at work today..." you get the point.
He smoked.
He always had to be right or "one up" somebody - his day was always worse then yours, his ____ hurts worse, poor him - nobody just understands how bad he has it.
Helping friends or family always was 8x out of 10 more important then me or our needs.
He had few "chores" at home - but he couldn't manage to do them without being reminded.
He played rec softball, but had to be there an hour early and stay up to 2 hours after - because he doesn't see them all the time / every week /text nonstop. If I didn't want to go because of the extra 3 hours then I wasn't interested in what's special to him. OR, if i went and only wanted to add 30 min on either side, I just didn't want to be around his friends/family. (Yes, I LOVE being around people who ignore me! yes! /sarcasm.)
Last one,
Sex became a chore - every day - wasn't special, didn't want it. He didn't get it.
i've only been separated 3 weeks but here are the 'little things' that drive me crazy:
he sits on the cough in a 'wife-beater' and periodically picks up the shirt to rub his fat belly. p.s. he does this even if people are over.
if he's sweating, he wipes his face with his shirt.
he doesn't believe it's necessary to say excuse me when you fart or burp in front of your own family. sometimes, he actually makes an 'ahh' sound with it or says 'this is for you"
He refuses to throw out clothes that have huge holes and/or stains.
he complains that he has gained 50 lbs in the last 2 years (since we got married) yet he only eats junk and complains when i cook healthy food.
oh, and he refuses to buy larger clothes despite the weight gain, (even new clothes he buys in the old sizes), so he just wears everything tight.
he wants everything that's out to be neat, but leaves closets and cabinets ridiculously cluttered.
when he shaves, he leaves the little hairs all over the sink.
ok, i'll stop - i could do this all day!
Hmm lets see
When it came to chores, we came up with an agreement when we first moved in together. I did laundry, he did dishes and we would split the rest. Funny how as soon as dishes would pile up he would complain about how he did EVERYTHING. Yea right.
He would game night and day if I didn't bug him to get off and spend at least SOME time with me. He would even give up time with DS so he could game. I'm hoping he has stopped that....
He would complain about guys flirting wth me and then flirt non stop with my female friends
Could not put laundry in the laundry basket to save his life
Would only make an appointment after a minimum of 2 weeks of nagging. He complained about our ISP and said he wanted this new one. I told him fine, you want it you call and set it up and get it taken care of. He finally did a month later.
Did not care about the finances no matter how much I tried to sit him down and show him how to do it. Now I get the last laugh because I know where all of my money is going and have extra and well, he doesn't.